Working or previously working moms... by choice or not by choice?

Re: Working or previously working moms... by choice or not by choice?

• nicolemcm member

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  SS - I will be going back in May to a job I both like and need.
  
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• rainbowdashh member

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  I quit because I didn't make enough to justify insane daycare costs.

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• Brittnic531 member

  August 2014

  Back to work for the $$ and benefits.  DH just got a full time job but doesn't make enough nor does it offer benefits.  I didn't think I'd want to stay home as much as I do.  Finishing my degree and establishing my career was an uphill battle, so I thought I would want to go back and set an example for DD that she can do anything and have a career... but I would give it all up tomorrow if I could afford to stay at home. 

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• purtz member

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  njbabymama said:

  I will be going back at the end of September.  I'm going back both because of $$ (plus we get health insurance through my company) but I also want to work.  In a perfect world, I would work part time, but that's not really an option.

  This. I don 't really want to work in Corporate America, but the money is good. I could never be a SAHM for 2 kids. Too bad there isn't more middle ground...
  
  

   

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• lest12 member

  August 2014

  Money and theoretically, I enjoy working...

   

         

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• jenlynne0624 member

  August 2014

  SS because I am a substitute teacher and don't go back for awhile. I don't plan on going back until October, and would prefer not going back at all.Crossing my fingers DH says that I don't need to go back. 

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• irenewslee member

  August 2014

  lest12 said:

  Money and theoretically, I enjoy working...

  This. Cant say i absolutely love my job. But i guess i dont hate it just yet.

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• AnnaKaie member

  August 2014

  I stepped down from one position to another one within my office when I got back. I wanted less stress and the paycheck is the same. Plus mom in law is keeping the baby so the money is not going towards daycare. 

  
  

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• diagonalley member

  August 2014

  Ss I still have 2 months at home. Then I go back cause we have bills, yo.

  

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• coffee89 member

  August 2014

  I can't find a job worth the daycare costs so I'm at home and going to school part time. I almost wish I could take a part time job just for a night or two away and some extra cash but DH has a 2 hour commute one way and we are struggling to find us time as it is.

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• tbmadeamistake member

  August 2014

  I quit for two reasons. The biggest being that I'd be bringing home $50 a month after daycare. That doesn't pay for anything, maybe my gas. The other is how difficult I found it to get me and my toddler ready to leave in the mornings, stuff her in the car, and have to hand a sad and/or sobbing child over every morning. I know she's fine two seconds after I leave, but the thought of doing it with two...nuh uh.

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• mattanda2011 member

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  I picked money and I like my job, but I guess I could be SS too.
  I am a school nurse at a private school. If I were to quit for a few years while the kids were little, it would be nearly impossible for me to find another school nurse job (which I love) and that would be at a school the kids will be going to from prek through 8th grade.
  I'm trading in 3 years at home with them for 10 years at the same school with them.

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• katekat8721 member

  August 2014

  I'm going back because I'm the breadwinner (holla) and my health benefits and retirement are awesome. My husband and mom will switch off watching the girls.
  
  Once hubby finds a good paying FT job then we will have to make some changes as my mom can't watch them full time and we don't want daycare/nannies. I'll most likely find a PT job at that point.
  
  In a perfect world, I could make my same pay and benefits and work PT or from home :P I had thought pre-babies that I'd want to be a SAHM, but now I'm not so sure. I'm looking forward to going back to work mid-Sept.
  

  
  

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• Taymiller member

  August 2014

  DH is supporting the fam for now. I will work in my field once the kiddos are older, and that won't be for a while because we currently only have one child so I have another 5 years or so of not working.

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• ElTrain5 member

  August 2014

  My job has amazing benefits. Including free worldwide travel for myself and my family. And amazing healthcare.
  
  Everytime I see DS smile at me I can't help but think "I'm going to miss this. Every single smile, every little milestone. I'm going to pick him up, feed and change him and put him to bed. And see him in the weekends." And it kills me. But if I quit, my family in NY won't be able to come out and see him all the time, and I won't be able to expose DS to the world, or travel through our golden years with DH. Plus, I like my job. It's SO HARD to think about.....but I don't see any way I could make the choice to stay home. This is pretty much all I'm thinking about lately. These strangers in daycare are going to be raising my son, and I don't know how I'm ever going to make peace with it

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• k2k2tog member

  August 2014

  I voted SS. I'm still on mat leave, and will be for a year (yay Canada!) but I've chosen not to go back so I can go back to school for my masters instead. But, we'll be on shaky financial ground for a while, until I'm done the program and (hopefully!) back to work. I'll be home with my LO for 4 out of 5 weekdays.

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• babygabe614 member

  August 2014

  I go back in about a month. I enjoy working in general, though my current job is far from what I'd consider a "dream job". I'm definitely not cut out to be a SAHM though so while I may not stay in my current career field forever, I'll always be doing something outside the home.

  

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• MrsRahl member

  August 2014

  jennyd321 said:

  SS because I am a substitute teacher and don't go back for awhile. I don't plan on going back until October, and would prefer not going back at all.Crossing my fingers DH says that I don't need to go back. 

  I've always wanted to be a stay at home mom but the fact that I've been subbing for so many years makes it a lot easier. I've been laid off twice from two permanent teaching positions. Budget cuts suck.

  

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• babygabe614 member

  August 2014

  skamber said:

  SS I'm actually trying to go back to work doing freelance writing after quitting my job in November.

  @skamber Just curious, but what kind of writing do you do? My degree is in magazine journalism but I somehow ended up as a writer/editor for standardized tests (BORING!) so you are kinda living my dream right now!

  

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• kks4471 member

  August 2014

  I love what I do, and also need the money. I'm already getting anxiety about going back though, but I still have two weeks at home. Ugh, I'm tearing up just writing that

  
  

  

  
  

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• temursgirl member

  August 2014

  I haven't worked pretty much since getting married. I am happy that I can be a SAHM now. I'd like to work at some point, but our lifestyle probably means I won't really have a career. I'm disappointed about that. But I am also just so glad I can take care of my own child. Even though there are sleepless nights, lots of poop, and tons of worry, I just really appreciate that each time she does something new I'm there to see it.

      

  
  

  
  

  

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• LaurelJoy91 member

  August 2014

  A little of both, but mainly I need the money to help support us right now. Maternity leave drained all of our savings and we're down to the last drops of H's paycheck in order to pay the bills this month. I do enjoy my job, but if money wasn't in the picture I would probably choose to stay home with LO. I went back to work on Monday. Luckily, my mom is able to take care of my baby because theres's no way we could afford day care. But even though I know she's in great care with her grandma, I hate being away from her all day and feeling like I'm missing out on watching her grow and learn. Maybe some day I will be able to go down to part time, but that won't be for a while.

  

  
  

  
  

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• jc51206 member

  August 2014

  njbabymama, me too.  I like my job, but would love it more if it was part time.  Alas, no dice.  My hubby stays home with the kids, so it's a pretty nice situation.
  

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• nicolewhelan member

  August 2014

  I start back tomorrow. Have my 6 week OB check up and then I'll be logging in from home the rest of the day, back in the office Friday and then full on Monday. I was looking forward to it around 3 weeks, but now I'm starting to get worried. But I have a girlfriend watching LO instead of daycare so that is helping me. The hardest thing for me is going to be leaving work on time each day. I've already warned coworkers to kick me out at 5pm. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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