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bedtime and nap time question

MoxyByProxyMoxyByProxy member
in February 2014 Moms
I really apologize if this has been asked recently but since returning to work I have a schedule where I am off at 6pm.

Little man decided sometime ago that he wanted bedtime at 8pm which wasn't a big deal but now I want extra time with him after work since I'm not with him during the day.

I've tried asking my mom who watches him to lay him down later in the afternoon which seems like a reasonable solution but I STILL have a chronic cat napper and its been a fail so far. She thinks cio is a solution.. I am against it.

I don't want him miserable by keeping him him and honestly I give in and put him to bed and its normally close to 8pm so I'm back to where I started.

Do I just suck it up and deal with the lost time? Will forcing a later nap on him actually help?
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  • emar129emar129 member
    I think you should just let your LO sleeps when he wants to. Sometimes I only get an hour before and after work with LO, but it's something I've learned to accept. My baby is much happier when she's well rested. I know it sucks, but it's just another sacrifice you have to make as a working mom.
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  • MoxyByProxyMoxyByProxy member
    edited August 2014
    I see your point, yeah it does suck. I'd rather him be happy during the day without me than have an extra hour miserable WITH me.

    I guess it's just wishful in a perfect world reasoning to have the best of both worlds
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  • AltreedAltreed member
    Agree with PPs. I am a working mom also and know how hard it is. My LO goes to bed at 7. I would love more time with him, but this is the schedule he does best on. I had to realize that I needed to put his needs first even though I would love extra evening time with him.
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  • TessyMessyTessyMessy member
    edited August 2014
    I agree with pp on this. I never had luck trying to alter LO's sleeping routines to fit my wants/needs. I get home from work around 5 and he is in bed around 8:30. Of course in between there I am cooking dinner and cleaning up. I just try to smother him with kisses and love when I can. Also the big goofy smiles I get when I come home from work are so worth it! :x


     

     


     

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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
    Ditto everyone - little babies need their rest and early bedtimes are the norm for kids.

    Mine was asleep at 6:30p last night, courtesy of a total lack of afternoon nap (thanks MIL ~X(  )

    Even my 3yr old still is asleep by ~8pm so I only see him around 2.5hrs. It sucks but I try to make the most of our time together. Not much point in forcing LO to stay up late and make everyone cranky/miserable.


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  • MoxyByProxyMoxyByProxy member
    Thanks ladies :)

    I took his cues for when he needed bedtime before and it's selfish to monkey with tha to suit me. I see all your points. Quality over quantity.
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  • sdlaurasdlaura member
    I have to second elf's advice about spending quality time in the morning. My kids are happier then anyway. I usually have 6:30-8 am and 5-7 or 7:30 pm with the kids on weekdays.
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
    MoxyByProxy said:
    Thanks ladies :) I took his cues for when he needed bedtime before and it's selfish to monkey with tha to suit me. I see all your points. Quality over quantity.
    FWIW I don't automatically think "selfish" when you're expressing desire to spend more time with your LO.  Unrealistic, perhaps. :p

    It is hard to feel like you barely see your kids during the week.


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  • MoxyByProxyMoxyByProxy member
    No I just mean it is personally selfish.. I dont think in a bad way. Unrealistic is a much better way to put it!

    I'm glad to have others to help me put it in perspective because I'm stuck on two modes right now.. guilt and infant chaos lol
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  • VeronicaAnn143VeronicaAnn143 member
    I feel your pain. I get home around 6:30 on average and by 8 LO wants his bath and bedtime routine. I'm usually putting him down by 8:45. He used to not start that routine until 9. I do miss the time with him but he tells is when he's tired and that's that. I don't want him crying and unhappy and fussy for no reason. And he sleeps well so I don't want to be an ingrate to the Sleep Gods and keep him up. Lol

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