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Telling the Stepkids

JBell629JBell629 member
in January 2015 Moms
I'm the stepmom of 2 (ages 4 and 6). At 17w, we have notified family but have yet to tell the LOs. I am a little anxious about their reactions. But the real reason we haven't said anything is because of their mom. In our past, any positive news about our relationship has been cause for shenanigans, mainly custody issues. From my presence to our engagement to our marriage, she has tries her best to cause havoc along the way. We have primary custody of the LOs and are trying hard to avoid any more drama. For those of ou with stepchildren, how did you tell them and did you have any issues with their parents as a result?
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  • idontevenknowidontevenknow member
    I am in a similar situation so I would like to see the responses. My SOs LO is 3 and her mother can be full of shenanigans =( I fear that she may tell the LO that daddy doesnt need her anymore or love her. And SOs mom feels the same. Hoping for some good advice here. Thanks for posting, @JBell629‌

     

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  • UberBizUberBiz member
    No, fortunately. FI has a daughter (she will be 5 this month), and while we don't have primary custody, it hasn't been easy sailing with her mother. We told pretty early on when I was pregnant with our son, and she was excited, her mom had had twins a year before, so the new baby thing wasn't new to her, and we had no problems from her mother. We waited a little longer to tell for this one, and so far nothing dramatic to report. I think maybe living 13hrs apart may cut down on the drama one can cause.
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  • JBell629JBell629 member
    @ExcitedMama2 I wish our situation was such that we even talked. My hubby and I have no intentions of telling her anything and have not told her anything in the past. The LOs are the "news carriers". It's a really sad situation, but there is really very little communication between us and her.

    ladyamanuet Everything is secure, she just has the ability to file in court every time she feels like it. While these actions have not been favorable for her in court, it does cost a significant amount of money to pay our attorney for defending an action just becasue she has hurt feelings.
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  • StargirlbStargirlb member
    Well first time around I left it to my ex to tell his ex (mother of his older daughter.) well he told her when I was 9 months preg. Not ideal, what a weirdo. I told my ex right away both times.
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  • jennyhattjennyhatt member
    Hope it goes well- no advice sorry just good luck and positive thinking from me.
    But I was lol-ing at the word shenanigans . That movie "waiting" was so funny. It is an under used word in my opinion!
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