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Baby shower?

CMezger2012CMezger2012 member
in February 2015 Moms
I wanted to get an opinion on whether or not I should do a baby shower. This is baby #3 and if it's a girl I thought maye I could do a "shower" to get some girly stuff. I have two boys, both still little (2&1). I would do it mainly for clothes and girly things. Is that okay? Hahah..
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  • cherm1021cherm1021 member
    I would personally feel weird having a "shower", I am also expecting my third. I have heard of people doing a "sprinkle" for gender specific clothing and stuff in cases like yours. But it's not something that I would do for myself.
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  • wintersong139wintersong139 member
    LOL, let's be honest, all showers are gift grabby. I am currently working on a baby registry. (Granted, its for baby #1, but still, I want the presents!)

    I would say, it is a little more socially acceptable when you are having a child of another gender, but in general it is probably considered bad form. Maybe you have friends with little girls that will sell to you at low prices?
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  • PeaceofKiaPeaceofKia member
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    Wait, you're throwing this for yourself? No regardless of the situation. Super tacky. Once upon a a child is a great place for cheap baby items.
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  • ems0523ems0523 member
    If you are having a girl and someone wants to throw you a small shower then absolutely go for it! Otherwise, I'd go with no.
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  • MapleMommaMapleMomma member
    Are we seriously getting this question again? Oye.... **bangs head against wall**
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  • CMezger2012CMezger2012 member
    There are thousands of threads on here. I apologies I haven't read them all. There's no need to be rude.
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  • mmarielmmariel member
    I dont even think it is about there being a lot of posts about this (it is part of it) but it is mostly seen as tacky because like ducktale said, its gift grabby, not only because its your third child but the way you said it makes us think you are going to throw it yourself. Im sure family and friends will buy you the girly stuff anyway. No need for a shower. Second, you wanted our opinions and that is what we gave you.
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  • jdonn1023jdonn1023 member
    I don't think that you should have a shower. Our parents have offered us one since it is mine and fb first baby. We still feel weird (I have a 5 year old) but since it's our first together they think it is fine. We just went to one that was a baby-q-- essentially a BBQ that was coed and just to celebrate baby- it was nice- most people brought little things, like an outfit, there was no registry and it was cute. I mean I don't usually go to any parties without a gift or empty handed- but that's just me. I enjoy giving things. You could always have something like that!
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    Tacky. Showers are to welcome parents into parenthood. You are already a mom. As for the girly stuff you want, amazon, target, bru, and many other stores have said items; no shower needed.
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  • MommalawyerMommalawyer member
    ems0523 said:

    If you are having a girl and someone wants to throw you a small shower then absolutely go for it! Otherwise, I'd go with no.

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  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    Honestly, if someone OFFERS to throw you a shower, then I think it would be rude to turn them down. There are some people out there who look for any reason to throw a party, I have several friends like that and, if this were baby #X instead of my first, and they wanted to throw a shower for me, I'd tell them to knock themselves out but would have made it very clear that I didn't expect it. But to just haul off and expect to be thrown a shower on the sole fact that you're having a girl, and not another boy, is kinda tacky and tactless in my personal opinion. As pps have stated, a baby shower is a right of passage into motherhood, and should never be expected even if it's your first. I know I'm having one, regardless if I even wanted it, because I have friends who like to find any excuse to party, and throwing me a shower was the first things out of their mouths when we told them we were pregnant, even before they said congrats. I'm not going to turn them down, but I never EXPECTED anyone to throw one for me, I think that's just rude. But however you want to handle it is up to you.
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  • crabigatorcrabigator member
    I think it's nice to acknowledge a new child entering your family and friend circle. I'm pregnant with my second and while I'm not going to be a new mom, I'm sure my life will change a lot when we go from 1 to 2 kids. It's nice to have something to fete that lifestyle change.

    HOWEVER: a shower is not a party or a dinner. Shower basically = mandatory gifts. So if you wanted to celebrate a new baby-to-come but not have gifts as a thing, I'd say that very explicitly. And mean it.

    Honestly, it doesn't seem like that's what you want. But I just wanted to note that I think it's fun to have a little celebration without it being a gift grab. Even if you organize it yourself.
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  • jasmineahendersonjasmineahenderson member
    I have no opinion but after reading this I just want to say I'm sorry for all the overly rude responses. It's easy to say no without attacking someone.
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    jasmineahenderson said:

    I have no opinion but after reading this I just want to say I'm sorry for all the overly rude responses. It's easy to say no without attacking someone.

    I`m pretty sure no one wants an apology on their behalf by someone else.
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  • dolcevita143dolcevita143 member
    Girl. Do whatever pleases you. You don't need your actions validated by anyone (especially those you are never going to meet) if you want a shower, have one. If those close to you don't want to celebrate your new bundle of joy with you, your better off without them. A friend of mine has 5 boys and had 3 showers. I was there for all 3 and had no complaints about buying stuff. It's all in what YOU want. :)
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