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etiquette question-NBR

belmont1785belmont1785 member
in November 2014 Moms
We have been invited to a potluck and bonfire by DH's cousin and wife. They invited about 20 people. They are vegan, but no one else that was invited is vegan. Would it be rude to bring a dish that isn't a vegan dish? Since I don't cook vegan I don't have very many ideas for a vegan dish. I'm sure I could come up with something, but if they are the only vegan couple there then do I really need to make sure its vegan?

I really don't think they would care either way, we are pretty close. But would I be totally RUDE to bring something non-vegan?
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  • belmont1785belmont1785 member
    Thanks everyone....the invite just says "Potluck and Bonfire." The couple is very easy going and like I said, I am sure they would be totally fine with us bringing something non vegan, but I just didn't want to be rude. I think I'll just bring a non vegan dish, and maybe a watermelon, since it's outside and watermelon at a picnic usually goes over good anyways. Then I have one of each like a couple of you recommended.


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  • belmont1785belmont1785 member
    I know right? As hungry as I have been lately, the thought of surviving this one meal (if it be only vegan food) makes me have anxiety.
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  • caraferncarafern member
    I don't think it would be rude to bring a non-vegan dish, but it would be especially thoughtful to bring a vegan dish.  I have lots of friends with dietary restrictions so I've dealt with this a lot. The worst/hardest in my opinion is gluten free/vegan.

    Some ideas off the top of my head: Fruit and veggie tray, fruit salad, any kind of salad really even a pasta salad or grain salad. If you normally have cheese on your salad (which I love to do) you could put that in a separate container). Chips and dip or chips and a variety of vegan (salsa, guacamole, hummus, bean dip) and non-vegan (creamy spinach or artichoke, cheesy or sour creamy) dips. Drinks are usually vegan, some kind of homemade punch is really nice. If you have a barbecue -- veggie kebabs are delicious. I love bringing a watermelon or watermelon salad.
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  • Dimples0101Dimples0101 member
    ejpetey said:

    Why don't you just ask them if they have a preference? :)

    This. Not the same thing, but I'm a vegetarian. When I have people over, I don't expect everyone to bring vegetarian dishes. But, I would just ask them what they'd like you to bring.

     

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  • absolutelymaybeabsolutelymaybe member
    edited August 2014
    Definitely ask them. My guess is they don't expect their guests to being vegan dishes. It would be nice if you do both, though.

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  • kaimee27kaimee27 member
    ejpetey said:
    Why don't you just ask them if they have a preference? :)
    This exactly...it sounds like you're pretty close so I doubt they would mind if you just gave them a call and asked if it was a vegan potluck or not.  Otherwise, it sounds like you've got a pretty good plan with the non-vegan dish and some fruit.   :)

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  • jj0313jj0313 member
    It's so easy to cook vegan-I would just go that route as it's a very thoughtful gesture to your host. Vegan is delicious.
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  • hiketheworldhiketheworld member
    I'd go vegan. I often bring vegan dishes because it avoids many common allergies or intolerances like egg and dairy and also accommodates vegetarians. It really isn't hard! Pretty much any vegetable or fruit dish, grain dishes, salads, egg-free pasta dishes are all good!
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  • silverwings72silverwings72 member
    I agree with some of the PP. I think it would be especially thoughtful to bring a vegan dish. Kind of a nod to the hosts.
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