Overwhelmed...( sorry, just need to vent)

Re: Overwhelmed...( sorry, just need to vent)

• Meery82 member

  August 2014

  babynurse08 said:

  I LOVE my other two children more than anything but I am so FRUSTRATED with them lately! I have no patience or energy for them. I feel so bad but when it comes to bedtime I can't stand it! Every.single.night it's the same shit.......crying, temper tantrums, carrying on.......I just end up crying and cursing and walking away for my husband to deal with it. Being 30 weeks pregnant I just can't stand them sometimes....and I feel so inept as a mother. I hope they don't hate me but I just can't deal all day and then at night. I keep thinking " I hope I can do this again" what if I'm just a bad mother? I' m just so emotionally overwhelmed.....

  I know you're just venting but I have a few suggestions:  It sounds like you need a break. Even just a few hours. Make sure you are making time for yourself every now and then. Maybe line up some extra help for when the baby is born; things will probably be quite a bit more stressful. Good luck. 

  

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• PrimRoseMama member

  August 2014

  Meery82 said:

  
  

  babynurse08 said:

  
  

  I LOVE my other two children more than anything but I am so FRUSTRATED with them lately! I have no patience or energy for them. I feel so bad but when it comes to bedtime I can't stand it! Every.single.night it's the same shit.......crying, temper tantrums, carrying on.......I just end up crying and cursing and walking away for my husband to deal with it. Being 30 weeks pregnant I just can't stand them sometimes....and I feel so inept as a mother. I hope they don't hate me but I just can't deal all day and then at night. I keep thinking " I hope I can do this again" what if I'm just a bad mother? I' m just so emotionally overwhelmed.....

  
  

  I know you're just venting but I have a few suggestions:  It sounds like you need a break. Even just a few hours. Make sure you are making time for yourself every now and then. Maybe line up some extra help for when the baby is born; things will probably be quite a bit more stressful. Good luck. 
  
  Agree ^^
  
  Also, parenting is hard. >:D<

  
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• carryon23 member

  August 2014

  I have no patience right now either. I SAH with my 3yo DD and 1 yo DS.  I have 7 weeks to go.......It is taking all I have to get through the day.  DH has been working long hours (he is a central office employee for a huge school district) doing principal/teacher training.  He's been out the door by 5:45am and not home until 5 at the earliest.  We have no family here and my BFF has been OOT most of the summer.....Just remember it is temporary.....
  

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• MereDe3 member

  August 2014

  I feel you. I work full time,have a 5yo and a 3yo, and am due with #3 in four days. I have no patience for dealing with their bs every night. Definitely trying to hold it together and not take it out on them, but it's really hard some nights!
  

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• PrimRoseMama member

  August 2014

  sparklegrump said:

  And I distinctly remember that being pregnant with a toddler was more exhausting than having a newborn and a toddler.

  This is true in my experience. I could at least move, breathe etc quasi-normally with a newborn. Even sleep deprivation didn't compare to the pain/exhaustion I was in at 38 weeks & onwards.
  
  Hang in there.
  

  
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• Jolaine83 member

  August 2014

  Completely what both @primrosemama and @sparklegrump said.  It is more challenging to be super pregnant with older kids than it is with a newborn.  Physically, you cannot separate yourself from the baby while pregnant.  You can't ask for help, you can't put him/her down or deal with attention neediness issues while he/she naps. You can't even snuggle the older ones properly because you have a mountain on the front of you. So hugs, because I completely get your frustration.

  
  

  Try to get some help, get a break in there for your sanity. Try not to be so hard on yourself. This is just a small section of their lives and of yours and it will get better from here. Once you get a break and some 'me time', see how you feel then.  If you are still feeling stressed and down on yourself, I'd talk to your OB.  It is possible to deal with depression during pregnancy.  Those hormones are a bitch on your body and you don't want to be feeling this way if you just need a little help out one way or the other. 

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• megs2011 member

  August 2014

  I completely understand. I feel like this every night. DH is good for the most part and will send me upstairs to relax if he sees I need it. I have 22 month old twins who are super active so I'm beat by the end of the day.

                            
  

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• rae_dylanzmom member

  August 2014

  Sorry, momma. As you can see, none of us are alone in this! Here are some things that are helping me in my head and around the house:
  
  - We did summer school, so I get some productive/me/down time 3x/week. Any young babysitters that can just play with them while you retreat?
  
  - With my husband OOT this week, we've instituted a Blues Clues episode into our evening. It doesn't last long (like a movie, which leads to bedtime disasters) and gives me a chance to catch my breath before bedtime. Maybe a 20-minute activity/break before bedtime?
  
  - I typically fall asleep with DS at bedtime. No guilt. DH is in charge of kitchen cleanup (he doesn't do bedtime) and he gets some time to himself.
  
  - I hired someone to clean every couple of weeks. I told her floors, bathtubs, toilets (my 3 y/o has bad aim) and anything else I can't reach with my belly.
  
  GL! Hope you find something soon to take the load off and give yourself some love.
  

  

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• CubanPinky member

  August 2014

  believe me ur not a bad mother. i have a 9yr girl and a 5yr  boy with a ton of energy between them. sometimes i need a lil down time where i tell them get a book, video game, iPad or movie n chill while mommy sleeps or just stares at a wall to get myself together. they comply bc honestly they get sick of getting yelled at bc my patience is thin. i had to have  a talk with them about mommy not being super active n needed in a break. they got the message, now they basically do their own thing instead of asking me every question or being brats, plus DH def helped alot

  

   

  

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