Military Moms?

Arieltnc · August 2014

My DH left for Basic yesterday. I'm feeling a little lonely. How have you other military mom's filled your time and stayed positive? I love being home with LO, but I am afraid I'll start to get frustrated or tired with no help, and I don't want that to hurt my relationship with DH or LO. Any advice would be great!

lazyreader · August 2014

Just want to let you know I (kinda) get it. I was with my hubs when he went to bootcamp and 5 years of service. all pre-baby...

find a routine! once you get into the swing of daily life it gets so much easier. When you see your sanity limit approaching, try to plan something new. for me it was as simple as going to the library or movie or a park. always try to find the positive in the day. one day at a time.

vacsx2 · August 2014

Is there a USO in your area? They always have tons of events and activities for spouses and families.

Hang in there! I'm sure it can't be easy. Appreciate his service and your sacrifice.

Missfunball · August 2014

Routine, routine routine!

My spouse has been deployed for almost 5 months now (2 of which I have had no communication even via email).

Things to do during deployment:

Create a routined and get yourself active in a lot events. Go to book clubs, parks etc. This will help keep your mind off things. Currently I tag team with a mom of 4 once or twice a week, beach, gym and I also work part time.

- Create a writing or call schedule. This makes sure that you two are setting aside time for yourselves and your relationship. This might not be every day or you can only write vs call but make it

- Dont dwell on the negative: There are tons of amazing things to consider. Most people don't have their spouses leave them for long periods of time, the secret is, when they come back the honeymoon period is on. You'll in young love again and you'll both see one another through rose colored glasses. Cherish this.

- Come up with a Welcome home surprise. I got dressed up pinup style and had bacon roses. Yes bacon + men = win.

- On the hard days allow yourself to be sad. write him a letter expressing you miss him and how much you can see he means to you, have some wine, throw yourself a literal pity party (Molly ringwall movies are the best for this)

- get help from other sources. My neighbor mows my lawn. Seriously, accept/sdk for help, even if its not in your nature

Hope some of that helps! Don't worry, being a MILSpouse is as rewarding as it is hard.

katedoesmakeup · August 2014

never been without dh with the baby, but we are headed for recruiting and i expect that i will be alone a lot of the time. i plan on getting into a solid routine as well as branching out in the community and finding other moms. its gonna be tough. the good news is, theres usually a honeymoon period at the end of a deployment/time away and it can be very good for your relationship to have time apart. just focus on getting through it one day at a time. count each day as a win!!

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