March 2015 Moms

When to announce high risk pregnancy?

rayhankinsrayhankins member
edited August 2014 in March 2015 Moms
I am 9 weeks along with my 5th pregnancy (two babies two early miscarriages). At 5 weeks we found out I have a large SCH (subchorionic hemorrhage) when I had a massive bleed with cramps and passed a clot. I had another smaller bleed about a week and a half later. So far the baby is measuring well and has a good heartbeat, but everyday seems like a wait and see game as to whether I'll stay pregnant or not. I've only told my parents and my husbands parents of our pregnancy, and only because I've needed help watching the kids while I go to all my doctors appointments. I have a big close family and this is my first high risk pregnancy, so I'm wondering when to share the news. I would love to be joyful about being pregnant, but even my husband and I are trying to guard our hearts. What do you think?

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  • We are waiting until after our 12 week appointment. We told our parents and siblings, only because we know that if something goes wrong we'll want their support. Other than that, we decided to wait. I can't imagine the looks on our boys faces if we told them and then had to tell them of another loss. 
  • Thanks ladies for your comments! It's always hard to figure out what to do... It's nice to have other people experience and opinions to learn from.
  • I was thinking about this as well, so far only 4 people know, and it's not our parents. I feel like no one really cared when we m/c last year, i believe our parents were relieved. So this time we only told the supportive people (my aunt and cousin, his sister and his brother in law) and I'm thinking that's how it will stay for a while. Atleast until about 14-18 weeks. I figure by then most people start to show so it will almost be inevitable. Good luck!

    M & N: 05.27.2012 <3 
    Natural M/C: 08.27.13 at 8 weeks
    BFP: 07.02.14 ! 
    Baby #1 EDD: 03.11.15 

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  • I am high risk (type 1 diabetes, had a moderate-large SCH that has now resolved). We plan to share with the world at 12 weeks--I don't think I can keep it a secret past then! Close family and friends are the only ones who know at the moment.

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  • It's a battle for me, and DH and I have decided for now not to even tell our parents or siblings or even our closest friends.  We will share with parents probably after the first ultrasound this Friday, but even then I think DH might want to wait.  I really appreciated his parents and sister's support last time, so I don't mind telling them.  My mother, on the other hand, wasn't very helpful and I don't want to tell her until the NT scan.

    I am trying to follow the mantra of telling those whose support I would want should anything happen.  If you think you will feel worse not sharing news of the loss, then I would share now.

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