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im probably over reacting

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I went to the laundromat last night and its owned by a very nice older man from Greece. hes always helping me and saying hi. I didn't see him when I got there and he came over and asked why I didn't say hi. I said I'm sorry George I didn't notice you. I haven't been feeling good lately so Im not myself. he looked concerned and asked what's wrong, I said I'm pregnant again. he put his hands in the air and yelled 'why!!!??' sighed and shook his head. geeze, thanks. way to make me feel great. hes known me since I was pregnant with my daughter and he loves her. I have no idea why he would say this and this is exactly why I don't want to tell anyone. what am i supposed to say to that? i just gave him a look and continues with my laundry. I've been very emotional lately so this really hurt, I just needed to vent, thanks <3
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Re: im probably over reacting

  • HernsyHernsy member
    edited August 2014
    Ugh.  I'm not excited to be looking forward to the obnoxious things people say either.  Here's a funny, but not funny, blogger.  Maybe it can help put a sarcastic smile on your face.

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  • PeaceofKiaPeaceofKia member
    edited August 2014
    I'm sorry he was such a jerk snout that. What makes you think you'll be getting more of that reaction from other people?
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  • jaztasticjaztastic member
    Does he know more about your personal situation than you are letting on? Not that it excuses his response, but sometimes I can understand why someone reacts the way they do. 

    Sorry this happened. Hopefully others offer you the support you are looking for. 
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  • easton2131easton2131 member
    PeaceofKia said:

    I'm sorry he was such a jerk snout that. What makes you think you'll be getting more of that reaction from other people?

    we don't have the best finances and live In a small apartment. df is looking for a second job were doing our best and are happy but its not up to others' standards.
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  • mle106mle106 member
    I had someone say something similar (to the effect of "Why so all of these young people keep having babies?!") I just smiled and responded with "well, we're super excited about it!" Don't let it get you down. Ain't nobody got time for that.

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  • easton2131easton2131 member
    jaztaz1 said:

    Does he know more about your personal situation than you are letting on? Not that it excuses his response, but sometimes I can understand why someone reacts the way they do. 


    Sorry this happened. Hopefully others offer you the support you are looking for. 
    no. I only see him when I do laundry and I can't understand his accent and he doesn't understand a lot of what I say.we just say hi and small chat
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  • chickyclgchickyclg member
    My best friends brother did the same thing but followed by telling my god daughter I guess chicky will never be aunt chicky, I have been with DH 10 years.  Maybe he always had a little crush on you and he thought he was being cute but turned out sounding like a jerk instead.  I am just reaching here he could just be a jerk.

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  • jaztasticjaztastic member
    easton2131 said:
    Does he know more about your personal situation than you are letting on? Not that it excuses his response, but sometimes I can understand why someone reacts the way they do. 

    Sorry this happened. Hopefully others offer you the support you are looking for. 
    no. I only see him when I do laundry and I can't understand his accent and he doesn't understand a lot of what I say.we just say hi and small chat
    Well that sucks. Sometimes people feel your situation should fit into their expectations. 
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  • MrsTucker2011MrsTucker2011 member
    I've worked with a lot of ESL, as well a some of my family. Sometimes their translations don't come out the way they mean to.

    That being said, it doesn't make it feel any better. Sorry his comment made you upset. Next time maybe tell him that hurt your feelings, and he shouldn't say things like that.
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  • thegoodpotatothegoodpotato

    I'm with @MrsTucker2011. Maybe it could have been a "lost in translation" moment? It sounds like you went in feeling kind of gloomy, and gave off a gloomy vibe. He may have been trying to commiserate with you, while at the same time, not really knowing what to say?

    I admit to being socially awkward in the past (and I still make major etiquette breaches, but I'm working on it).  When I was in university, I shared a house with some friends, and one of my friends knocked up the other by accident.  There had been a strange, stressful tension in the house for a while, and when they finally told me, I practically yelled congratulations and gave her a hug.  I think at that time, they were discussing whether to keep the baby or not, so it was probably a completely inappropriate reaction from me.

    Sometimes people just don't know how to react to a pregnancy announcement... and when there's a language and culture barrier there, it adds an extra layer of complexity there.  Take it with a grain of salt.  If you're happy about it, be happy!  (Or come to us; we'll be happy for you!!)

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