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Pregnant after loss..

Emily&DaytonEmily&Dayton member
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I'm 5w 5d pregnant. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past and it worries me to think that it'll happen again. My first appointment and ultrasound is this coming Friday and I am terrified. I know I shouldn't stress but it's hard not to stress and I don't really have anyone to talk to about it.
I just don't want to go through it all again.
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  • heatherfaithheatherfaith member
    Everyone on here understands how you feel. You really just have to try and relax and take one day at a time. (Easier said then done) I'm still freaking out and I'm 18 weeks. Prob will this whole pregnancy. But we all understand. I've see. People post some great mantras. Anyone have those? They calmed me a little.
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  • peggels24peggels24 member
    Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    The mantras are pinned to the top of the board (I think).  PGAL can be very stressful - as PP said, we've all been there.  Just know that today you are pregnant and you love your child.  It does get slightly easier as you pass your loss milestones and as you see the baby on the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat.  
    BFP #1 09/26/2013 EDD 06/04/2013 MMC 11/01/2013
    BFP #2 05/15/2014 EDD 01/24/2015

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  • Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    Congrats and welcome! Try using the mantras! I know it is so hard. I was a mess first visit:( good luck on a great scan!
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  • tigerlily2015tigerlily2015 member
    I'm sorry about your prior losses. Congratulations on this pregnancy and welcome!

    I think all of us here have or have dealt with worries and nervousness. I haven't found the perfect answer yet for my worries, but I'd encourage you to use the mantras and try to relax. Taking one day at a time instead of thinking ahead of all that could possibly go wrong helps me a bit. I hope you feel calmer soon and that you get great news at your upcoming ultrasound!
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    BFP #1 on 3/26/14.  M/C on 4/29/14 (Blighted ovum).
    BFP #2 on 7/6/14.  EDD 3/19/15. 
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  • haleyusfhaleyusf member
    ((hugs)) Welcome aboard and congratulations! We've all been there, unfortunately, and it is never easy. But, you'll make it through day by day by remembering the mantras: today you are pregnant, you love your baby, and a past miscarriage does not dictate the outcome of a future pregnancy. Sending T&P for your ultrasound!

    DS born 10/22/2008
    DD born 12/23/2014

    m/c @10wks 12/2007
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  • Patch89Patch89 member
    Congratulations! Welcome to the board :)) I must say PgAl is never easy !! Look at me, 2 losses (9 weeks and 22 weeks) and here i am 41 weeks and 1 day overdue and still having bad PgAl brain!!! I pray God makes it easy for you.. take one day at a time and remember, we are all here for you!! If you need anything answering or help... we are here.. you are not alone in this journey xx 
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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    Congrats! I am very sorry for your losses. The waiting during first tri is difficult. As the ladies have mentioned, try repeating the mantras over and over to yourself. It's not perfect but it helps. GL in Friday.

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     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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  • luciddreamer106luciddreamer106 member
    You're not alone in those feelings. Congrats and welcome!
    Multiple TTCAL 1image
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     TTC #1 since March 2011 
    BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12
    BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
    9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
    3/14: IUI#1 letrozole/Bravelle/Menopur + trigger = BFN
    BFP #3: EDD 1/27/15 Please be our rainbow! ...Team Green


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  • rox825rox825 member
    Congrats and welcome!  I hope that you have a great US on Friday.  Like PPs have said, making it past milestones and getting out of 1st trimester helps, but it seems like new worries pop up for me all of the time.  First it was worrying about the 1st US, then making it past loss milestone, then having a good anatomy scan, etc.  Now it's worrying about preterm labor or late term loss.  But we all get it and this is a great board for support!

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    TTC since Sept 2011, Unexplained IF
    Oct 12 - Jan 14: 3 clomid/TI cycles, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 IUIs, 1 BFP (MMC @ 12w), 2 more IUIs
    Feb 14: Gonal-f + IUI #5 = BFP! (EDD 11/4/14)
    Baby boy arrived 11/13/14!

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  • carlsonbaby2014carlsonbaby2014 member
    peggels24 said:
    Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    The mantras are pinned to the top of the board (I think).  PGAL can be very stressful - as PP said, we've all been there.  Just know that today you are pregnant and you love your child.  It does get slightly easier as you pass your loss milestones and as you see the baby on the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat.  
    I second everything @peggels24 has said.  Congratulations on this new pregnancy.  Something that helped me was to repeat over and over that obsessing over the outcome of this pregnancy was not going to affect it, so to try to enjoy just being present in the moment and for the moment I'm pregnant and very thankful.  Lots of ((((hugs))))!!! GL at your appointment on Friday!
    Began trying for a baby January 2012
    BFP 4.25.2013  EDD 1.3.2014  MMC 6.3.2013  D&C 6.19.2013
    BFP 11.3.2013  CP 11.6.2013
    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
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  • Denise91980Denise91980 member
    Congratulations!
    I am so sorry for your losses. PGAL brain sucks and is such a struggle for all of us. I am hoping it gets easier as time goes on, but as some of the ladies later into their pregnancy mentioned, they also struggle with these thoughts. I like to take it one day at a time and repeat to myself, I am pregnant and I love my baby, especially when anxiety randomly creeps up on me. Good luck with your appointment Friday. Fx that it all goes well.
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    BFP #1 1/1/11 EDD 9/10/11 dx:no hb DNC on 2/2/11
    BFP #2 12/28/11 natural m/c on 2/6/12   BFP#3 2/16/13 dx:ectopic on 2/27 (given methotrexate) HSG 6/13-all clear BFP#4 11/18/13 natural m/c on 11/23  IVF #1 (Natural IVF Cycle) May 2014- Cycle failed (embryo did not make it to blast) BFP#5-7/26/14 GROW BABY GROW    IT'S A BOY DUE 4/5/15!

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  • BackstreetPixieBackstreetPixie member
    ::hugs:: and congratulations on your bfp.  I'm right there with ya on scared of it happening again. I think we all feel that way here. I hope you get great news from your doctor. 
    -Megan


    Started dating Hubby May 17 2005. Married since Aug 20 2011 
    Me:30   Hubby:31
    TTC since May 2012 
    HSG Dec 2012 Fill no spill on left side, right side normal (most physically painful experience of my life..)
    Metformin Started May 2013
    PG#1: BFP 10-21-13. EDD 6-17-14 mmc 12-9-13 m/c occurred with cytotec on 12-11-13 
    PG#2: BFP 07-25-14.  EDD 4-5-15   *Hoping this is my rainbow*
    Diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroid,IBD/UC, (UC in remission as of July 2014)
    *I will always love you Fetey the first.* 
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  • BigbonededBigboneded member
    Congrats and welcome :-) mantras at the top :-) glad you are here!
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  • dianeg1017dianeg1017 member
    Congrats and welcome. Sorry to hear of the prev losses. Just keep it positive. Stay happy in thought no need to stress on something that you can't control. I know easier said than done. ~~~~ good vibes passing your way!
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  • cmaraiza94cmaraiza94 member
    @Emily&amp;Dayton, I'm also PGAL and I'm 38. I lost my first baby 6 years ago and have had no luck since then until now. I'm still in shock! When I lost my mom earlier this past March, I stopped paying attention to my health, therefore, I didn't even notice that I was 2 months late. After complaining of nausea and sore breasts, I took a HPT and then off to the clinic. When my nurse confirmed my pregnancy, I bursted into tears. I'm still not sure if I was crying for joy or for fear, or for both. I noticed spotting with my first, and lost my baby the next day. So every time I go to the bathroom, I get nervous because I fear the worst. But today, I'm 10 weeks and 2 days, 1 month further along than my last, and something amazing happened to me today. I was eating lunch at Chick Fil A with my stepdaughter. As we were talking, a lady sitting next to us overheard us talking about my pregnancy and my concerns. As we were leaving, she followed me to the door and asked if she could say a prayer for my baby and me. Of course! I feel truly blessed and pray that it be Gods will that my baby arrive safe and sound come March 2015!
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