Horrible co-worker just outed me to the whole office

schnitz9 · August 2014

So I've only told a few people at work privately about my pregnancy. About 5 people including my 2 bosses. Was waiting for today since my NT scan was yesterday. So today I was telling a co-worker and she said she already knew. I was a bit peeved about it. She had mentioned it to another girl in my office and the other girl stood up in front of the ENTIRE office and yelled "oh who cares the whole office already knows you're pregnant!" I was mortified as everyone was looking at me and there were clearly several people that didn't know. Needless to say I ran out hysterically crying. I can't believe how insensitive and uncalled for the comment was. If people already knew don't say anything at all. Give me the respect of coming to you and telling you and then say congratulations. This girls yells this, I run out crying, and to top it all off when i come back in after she says rudely. "I'm sorry I didn't realize this was insulting." She never even said congratulation. What really gets me is this women is a mother herself who always gushes about her child. How would she have liked it if someone said this to her. I am not a person who likes the attention on me at work. I am very private and like to come and do my work and go. I am still a bit shaken by this and really just want to go home and forget this happened. But mostly I'm just a bit disappointed that another mother could be so insensitive and oblivious. Kinda took the wind outta my sails as I was so excited to come to work today and privately be able to tell people. How would any of you deal with someone like this?

schnitz9 · August 2014

There's a part of me that keeps telling myself I over reacted and its all a misunderstanding. But then if that was it wouldn't she have been a bit more apologetic. Do you all think I overreacted? How would you have reacted?

Izzy0927 · August 2014

She's a bitch. I would make it my mission to take her down, but I suspect that's a bit of an overreaction right now. But no, I think running out crying was perfectly reasonable. (That sounds snarky. It's not.)

stone2stone · August 2014

What an awful person she is. I would be pissed that she ruined being able to tell everyone privately. I don't know what I would do though if that ever happened to me. I'm not very good with confrontation so I'd probably think of something spiteful to do in return and never follow through with it. Sending you hugs and I hope your day gets better! Don't let one stupid woman ruin an exciting day at work!

triplej9 · August 2014

No, you are not overreacting. She was a real bitch with her delivery and It wasn't her place to tell anyone. Sounds like she just wanted attention.

You shouldn't have to deal with that at work. Sorry!

Edited: spelling

actres · August 2014

It is YOUR news to share not hers to blurt out like that. I am so sorry you had to deal with this today. Here is to hoping she does not blab out anything else and you get to share what news you would like in private.

PikoPiko · August 2014

She's a bitch that needs a throat punch. Is it throat punch day yet?

mays1028 · August 2014

That's so mean! Women can be so hurtful! Maybe it is jealously Idk why else she would do that for but I don't know the lady. I know I would have run off crying that's for sure. I'm not good with women espically like that so I don't have much advice. ::hugs::

mkrk227 · August 2014

Crying and leaving is acceptable! It's better than what I would have done which would have yelled back "Thank you to this loud mouth bitch who ruined my surprise!" It was your news. She shouldn't have been a smartass about it.

Hernsy · August 2014

I don't know if I would even be nice about it, but would probably tell her that she was out of line sharing your personal news and that you didn't appreciate it. That's just crazy! I found out my SIL told all of her own in-laws that I was pregnant when I asked them to keep it in the family. I didn't mean her husband's family. I'm a little aggravated with that and know that I'll be careful telling her anything in the future, but this co-worker of yours? Waaaaaay out of line.

michelle142 · August 2014

I think this means you get a free shot at punching her in the face.

nstreet1818 · August 2014

She sounds like a real winner. You didn't overreact, but don't let it completely ruin your excitement. She likely isn't worth it.

Cohensmommy16 · August 2014

What a bitch. So sorry.. I would've been the same way. I can't believe someone would do that.

schnitz9 · August 2014

It's strange I work in an office that is 90% men and the guys are the ones who always fight. I mean I've seen fist fights before. The 10 girls that work here always joke that we don't fight. I kinda don't even want to give her the satisfaction. I sell way more than her and have only been her 5 months compared to her 1 1/2 years so I kinda wanna be the bigger person. My mother always said to kill the with kindness. Still irks me though. Luckily she works 3am-12pm and I work 6am-3pm so I dont have to see her for the rest of the day.

foxslaw · August 2014

THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO. Except I had only told my boss! A coworker found out I was preggo & TOLD EVERYONE without even confirming it with me or my boyfriend. She turned it into cheap gossip & told our closest friends before we got the chance to! Never apologized or acknowledged the bitchiness. I'm sorry that happened to you too! It really sucks.

apgruman · August 2014

I think your reaction was perfectly acceptable. I wouldn't have cried, but that's because I would be too busy punching the sassiness out of her mouth. I don't handle people exposing my secrets well..

Beth.1212 · August 2014

Well she sounds like a winner. I'm sure she has lots of friends with that kind of attitude.

What she said was rude and upsetting, and we're all a mess of hormones right now so I think it's understandable that you cried a bit. I hate crying at work because it makes me feel unprofessional but sometimes you just can't help these things.

I'd be cooly polite to her in the future. I wouldn't interact with her more than was necessary, but I wouldn't give anyone an excuse to find fault with my behavior. She's acted like a boor and I'm sure your coworkers have noticed. If you're rude back, they may end up splitting the blame for any unpleasantness between you two even though she started it. Let them lay all the blame for her behavior at her feet.

To help me do this, I'd try to think of her apology as genuine and heartfelt (even if it might not be). Personally, that'd help me move past this and continue to be polite to her. I don't think that I'd discuss the incident any further with her because I don't see that it would do any good. She's unlikely to apologize more and will probably get defensive and antagonistic if you try to get her to.

nauticalmama · August 2014

What a bitch!!! You defintely did not overreact. I hate people sometimes.

schnitz9 · August 2014

@beth.1212 this is exactly what I plan on doing. She isn't on my team so I really don't have to interact with her that much. However we do sit almost across from each other. I hate being unprofessional and I find that confrontation at work is the worst. It never works out in the end no matter who is at fault. I know that if I were to say something it wouldn't make it any better. She seems so oblivious that if I were to say something it actually might make it worse. I intend on letting this one slide. If however the snarkyness continues I will definitely have a conversation with her about it. Thanks everyone your kind words really have made me feel better.

CatLadyTX · August 2014

Whatabitch. Does this mean you can tell the whole office that she has the clap?

schnitz9 · August 2014

I don't think I would have minded if it sounded like this "it OK we all know you're pregnant. Congrats." But saying "who cares the whole office already knows your pregnant". Well I care how bout that. I feel like saying to her next time she's upset that he son is sick, who cares. To me it all about our delivery. As someone who has been in sales for 15 years I find that I am successful because of my delivery. I can say things in a respectful way without every having to offend anyone.

angelg3134 · August 2014

I feel ya. I have one co-worker who is ALWAYS trying to spoil things sour for others. Its annoying and rude. I've learned to not share ANYTHING with her or anyone close to her. She always finds out and tells our manager. I hope you feel better and it sounds like she's jealous and bitter. Keep your head up!

MrsTucker2011 · August 2014

I think if someone throws you an office shower, you should make it clear she isn't welcome.

JKHope · August 2014

What a horrible person. To me, it wouldn't even be about her sharing my news. It's that she purposefully tried to humiliate you for no reason. What a bitch! I would write a very strongly worded email and not engage with her after that

scgmama · August 2014

Ugh she sounds like a complete bitch. I would have called her out for feeling the need to announce what's obviously private news to everyone in the workplace. I wouldn't be able to be genuinely nice to this person, it'd be a "kill them with my obviously fake kindness" sort of thing.

HerHighness · August 2014

What an insensitive twatwaffle! Some people have no common sense and no filter. Im so sorry that happened to you. i would put a complaint into HR.

mishka29 · August 2014

Total bitch move on her part!

schnitz9 · August 2014

So my coworker from yesterday just came in late cause her son is sick. And it talking to everyone about it. I'm wondering if I should Stand up and yell "who cares everyone in the office knows your kid is sick". You guys are bad influences on me

Mrs.EvilQueen · August 2014

It's always cathartic to be snarky amongst friends. I'd ignore her as much as you can, you don't need shitty people like that in your life!

chicagojackie · August 2014

Throat punch warranted....but Good advice from Beth1212, rise above the situation

So sorry this happened.

psychobutthead · August 2014

you're not overreacting that was a bitch thing fir her ti do. idk if you are in a position to confront her with it if not i would go and complain an make a complaint with a supervisor.