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Today's OB appt...

cozybluebearcozybluebear member
edited August 2014 in October 2014 Moms
I couldn't stop crying at today's appointment...

As I was sitting in the exam room waiting for the doctor to come in, I could hear a little girl (maybe 2 or 3) in the next room whining and crying because she wanted her cup. All of a sudden I hear her Dad in a harsh and angry tone tell her to SHUT UP! The poor little thing started crying louder and the Mom yells, "She needs to be on Ridoline. I can't deal with this shit." This of course struck a nerve with me because I believe strongly that too many kids are being medicated for just being kids. Kids throw tantrums and they are hyper and crazy... they are kids! But that's a whole other topic.

So after about 3 minutes of them screaming at her and about her, I heard one of them slap her! It was so loud that I could hear the crack through the wall. The poor little thing started crying uncontrollably to the point where she couldn't catch her breath. I sat on the table and just rubbed my belly and all I could think about was my wild and crazy 18 month old at home. I just started crying and couldn't stop. My heart broke for that little girl and her unborn brother or sister.

I'm curled up on the couch right now with my sleeping little boy who smells so sweet from his bath (this has been my favorite time of day since he was born). I just can't help but think about that little girl... who does she get to snuggle with and feel safe with? Does she get any love and affection?

I can't wait for all of you first time Moms to experience the overwhelming love for your babies. Don't let anyone tell you that you're holding them too much!

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  • Sockgnome78Sockgnome78 member
    This makes me cry. Did any of the office staff say anything at all. They should be at lune of defense. Poor little girl. Makes we just want to grab her and tell her it will be okay.
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  • MrMrsandBabyMrMrsandBaby member
    Oh my god. I swear to god if the staff didn't report that they all should be ashamed. That is inexcusable and the parents should be reported.

    I can't even imagine how horrible that was. I'm so sorry you had to hear that. I'm sorry it even happened.
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  • mrstorrestobemrstorrestobe member
    This is making me cry now!  I really hope the office reported them. It is their legal responsibility to do so.  
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  • cozybluebearcozybluebear member
    Sockgnome78 said:

    This makes me cry. Did any of the office staff say anything at all. They should be at lune of defense. Poor little girl. Makes we just want to grab her and tell her it will be okay.

    There is a nurses station located right outside the door of both exam rooms. With a hallway full of nurses and doctors, someone else had to hear it. I just pray that one of them had enough heart to report it. I'm sure they take some kind of oath in the field, right?

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  • BeckyH05BeckyH05 member
    That is so sad. I can't wait to hold and snuggle with my baby girl.

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  • HappyCianciHappyCianci member
    Oh, that's just awful. :( What scares me about stories like this is the fact that the parents were willing to behave this way in a semi-public place. What happens at home behind closed doors? Frightening. :(
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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    edited August 2014
    Medical personnel are mandated reporters. They should have reported such an incident, and probably did if they heard what was going on. Would have been even better if they had intervened, but perhaps they didn't in order to get an accurate and full incident report for CPS.

    How terribly sad. Poor child. :(
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  • SaphireShimmerSaphireShimmer member
    I would check with the office to make sure a report was filed. If not, submit one yourself that the incident happened, where and when. Then the authorities can get the family info from the clinic from there maybe.
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    :(
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  • pinkshades05pinkshades05 member
    That breaks my heart :( I have an energetic 2.5-year-old and I couldn't imagine treating her like that. Sounds like those parents could use some parenting classes and maybe an anger management one as well. Kids may test your patience, but there is no excuse for child abuse.

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  • shaunda2014shaunda2014 member
    You can't always give a child what they want. People are legally allowed to spank and discipline a child even in public. A lot of doctor offices walls are very thin and what could have sounded like hard slap could totally different if you were in the room with them. Unfortunately, most little kids gonna cry and scream like you just ruin their life. That doesn't mean they are not receiving love at home. So before assuming a child is being abuse, just ask questions or express your concerns at that moment before possibly spreading lies on family. But I would be the first to say, if a child is in an abusive environment it should be reported.
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  • MuffinMom14MuffinMom14 member
    shaunda2014 said:
    You can't always give a child what they want. People are legally allowed to spank and discipline a child even in public. A lot of doctor offices walls are very thin and what could have sounded like hard slap could totally different if you were in the room with them. Unfortunately, most little kids gonna cry and scream like you just ruin their life. That doesn't mean they are not receiving love at home. So before assuming a child is being abuse, just ask questions or express your concerns at that moment before possibly spreading lies on family. But I would be the first to say, if a child is in an abusive environment it should be reported.
    Um, ok, but to say "This kid needs to be on Ritalin, I can't take this shit," and YELLING SHUT UP are not going to help. I'm not touching the "is it ok to spank" topic, because people are heated on either side. I'm just saying the above two things combined with the smacking sound do not sound good for this little kid, and I personally would have told the nurse/doctor when they walked in.
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  • MrMrsandBabyMrMrsandBaby member
    shaunda2014 said:
    You can't always give a child what they want. People are legally allowed to spank and discipline a child even in public. A lot of doctor offices walls are very thin and what could have sounded like hard slap could totally different if you were in the room with them. Unfortunately, most little kids gonna cry and scream like you just ruin their life. That doesn't mean they are not receiving love at home. So before assuming a child is being abuse, just ask questions or express your concerns at that moment before possibly spreading lies on family. But I would be the first to say, if a child is in an abusive environment it should be reported.
    1. Just because it is legal doesn't mean it isn't reportable and wrong.
    2. Walls are thin but I'm guessing it had to be a pretty loud smack to get through the wall.
    3. Do you have children?  Do you know that "most little kids gonna cry and scream" for a fact? 
    4. Sometimes you just give the kid the cup.
    5. A neighboring exam room isn't really the best place to ask questions of strangers. And it isn't like she gave us names and addresses.  Plus, everything she said was true to her so why do you say she is spreading lies?
    6. Clearly you wouldn't be the first to say something since you are white knighting an abusive (if not physically then verbally) father and mother.

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  • fireflyrebirthfireflyrebirth member
    When I worked in a daycare I was a mandatory reporter. The responsibility is to report if you even suspect abuse is taking place--it's not on you to prove anything and they don't want you hesitating to contact them because you feel like you can't prove it. So, the doctors and nurses should have reported if they are mandatory reporters, right?
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  • bumpuser10309732bumpuser10309732 member
    That's terrible! I would've cried too. My biggest pet peeve is people who don't know how to communicate with children and get so frustrated like that. Bitch you need help, not your kid. 
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  • roundabout2roundabout2 member
    Oh man, after my DD was born (she's almost 2) I would see something on the news re: child abuse and lose it. There were times I would be holding her and just think, how could someone do something so horrible to a precious little one? Just thinking about the terrible things people do makes me want to cry right now :(  Some people just don't deserve the miracle of a child. 
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    cozybluebear said:

    Sockgnome78 said:

    This makes me cry. Did any of the office staff say anything at all. They should be at lune of defense. Poor little girl. Makes we just want to grab her and tell her it will be okay.

    There is a nurses station located right outside the door of both exam rooms. With a hallway full of nurses and doctors, someone else had to hear it. I just pray that one of them had enough heart to report it. I'm sure they take some kind of oath in the field, right?

    You should have definitely.said something and filed a report as well. I know you Dont know their name, but if you called the police they could get the name from doctors office to start an investigation. Everyone thinks someone else should have heard/reported but that's when abuse continues because everyone things someone else could do it. I'm not trying to condemn at all its an innocent sad reality.
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    shaunda2014 said:
    You can't always give a child what they want. People are legally allowed to spank and discipline a child even in public. A lot of doctor offices walls are very thin and what could have sounded like hard slap could totally different if you were in the room with them. Unfortunately, most little kids gonna cry and scream like you just ruin their life. That doesn't mean they are not receiving love at home. So before assuming a child is being abuse, just ask questions or express your concerns at that moment before possibly spreading lies on family. But I would be the first to say, if a child is in an abusive environment it should be reported.
    I'm not agreeing with most of this post, but she does make a point, the slap sound could have been a spank. And although those parents sound like a$$holes and I personally don't believe in spanking, I don't think a spank would legally be abuse. 

    NOT defending these parents at all, this whole story makes me want to wring their necks, just playing devils' advocate that is might just be really really shi**y parenting and not abuse. 

    I guess it never hurts to report suspicion though!!!!!
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    :(. Sad to hear!
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