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August 2014 Moms
BabyM82714
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Feeling guilty
BabyM82714
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So my original plan was to work until the 24th of August and I'm due the 27th.....all of that sounded perfectly fine until last week. I had an extremely easy pregnancy and nothing was uncomfortable or really hard until 36 weeks hit. Then pregnancy all the sudden sucked. It's come as a HUGE shock. I told my boss today that I just cannot work past Sunday this week, I hate to only give a week notice, but I just can't.
I'm a CNA at a nursing home where I am constantly on my feet, showering residents, lifting them, dressing, changing, pushing wheelchairs, doing their laundry, etc. It's also not the type of job where I can just "take a break" my residents and co workers depend on me to be able to timely do my job, and I just can't push my body any further. I end up out of breath, heart pounding, tired, and exhausted throughout my shift, and by the end of my shift I nearly cry every car ride home. So I know this is the best plan of action for me and baby health wise emotionally and physically. I feel bad because I thought I could do it and feel like I'm failing myself, and I've made my co workers short staffed my remainder shifts....which sucks. ugh
Anyone else think they were going to be fine and then had a cold slap of reality shoved in their face? I was constantly being complemented on how well I was doing and now I just want to break. I think the hormones are getting to me. I'll go eat icecream and take a bath, that'll kinda make me feel better. Other mommas still working and don't think you should be?
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Re: Feeling guilty
Kudos to you! With my first baby, I ended up having to leave two weeks before she was born. I fell down a flight of stairs at work three weeks before my due date and I started having prodromal labor. My OB initially said that I could keep working as long as nothing changed. A week later, I was just so hideously uncomfortable and my BP (which had always been higher than he wanted anyway) was so high, he said, "Nope, you're done," and ordered me onto bedrest. And I worked overnights at a Hotel where I was usually the only Front Desk employee on duty! Nothing like short notice there, either.
I say, take your time off and enjoy it and don't feel guilty. They've known you were going on leave for months at this point. Yes, its happening a bit sooner than you had initially planned, but as far as pregnancy goes, there's always a bit of uncertainty surrounding this point!
Rest! You deserve it!
PS, I'm an NP so I know how physically demanding it is to be a CNA!!!!
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I thought I'd be working up until my due date. I quit in the first trimester. I was throwing up 6-8 times per day and just couldn't do it anymore. I felt guilty, but like you said, you have to do what's best for your health and that of your child.
I started mat leave yesterday (2 weeks out), at my OB's recommendation. It feels weird for this Type A lady to be at home but I'm definitely still staying busy and not exactly relaxing ... Yet. But having the option to nap when I need to, or go for a walk, is feeling really good right about now.