I'm so upset I could cry (and I probably will later).
DH and I have been house hunting for at least 7 months. We looked casually for about a year before that but we've been regularly checking ads and seeing houses for about the last 7 months with our realtor.
We saw one on Friday that was pretty perfect. The outside needed work (wood shingle, very ugly pea soup green paint, cracked cement patio in the back) but the inside was great - lots of space, five bedrooms, closets everywhere, a little more and a half-acre in the back. We loved it.
We made an appointment to see it again tonight with his parents (who are helping us with a down payment) and I just got a text from our realtor saying that the sellers accepted an offer so the house was basically taken out from under us.
I'm so angry. I wanted that house. We both wanted it. I know it was putting the cart before the horse since we hadn't even made an offer but DH sent a link to the house to our realtor MONTHS ago and he never got back to us. Granted, we didn't follow up either but isn't it his job to get us in to see the houses we send him? I just feel like he's not working as hard as he should to get us into a house. This isn't the first time we've asked him to get us in to see a house and he's either forgotten or not been aggressive enough and then all of a sudden the house is gone. He's in school and has another job and is an all-around busy guy. I feel like we are not a priority.
We don't need to move before the baby arrives, we could make our house work for a little bit but I really don't need the extra stress of house hunting, mortgage crap, packing, moving and settling into a new house with an infant and a toddler (and two dogs.)
I know I'm hormonal but I'm raging. I want to fire our realtor and find someone else.
Re: I need to vent. (NBSR)
Married: 5/09 ~ TTC Since: 10/10 ~ PCOS ~ Progesterone from 10/10 - 2/11 ~ HSG on 3/18 - Clear ~ Started Metformin 1000mg & Clomid 50mg 2/11 ~ Metformin upped to 1500mg 4/6 ~ 6/7 Now going to SG and put on Clomid, Ovidrel, Gonal F, Prometrium, Estrace ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP!!!!!! March 6th our little man was born.
6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP
I totally understand it's first offer accepted and we're SOL, it's just that we asked him months ago to get us in to see that house and he didn't because he was too busy with other things.
This was fun and is just no longer fun. I'm frustrated. I just want this to be over.
Come on, house fairy! We need a new house!
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
Married: 5/09 ~ TTC Since: 10/10 ~ PCOS ~ Progesterone from 10/10 - 2/11 ~ HSG on 3/18 - Clear ~ Started Metformin 1000mg & Clomid 50mg 2/11 ~ Metformin upped to 1500mg 4/6 ~ 6/7 Now going to SG and put on Clomid, Ovidrel, Gonal F, Prometrium, Estrace ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP!!!!!! March 6th our little man was born.
6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP
BFP #2: m/c at 7w, February, 2014
BFP #3: It's a BOY! Please be our rainbow! Due February, 2015
*everyone always welcome*
@bluedaisy2001, we didn't even correspond via email, it was texting and by phone and DH sees him weekly at the bar (I did too until I got KU)
I really feel like he dropped the ball, he doesn't make us a priority. I'm going to contact another realtor later this week.
Thanks everyone. It's a rollercoaster.
Sorry that stinks!
I have not yet been in the position to house hunt myself, but maybe can you tell yourself that if there was one house you guys fell in love with, there's bound to be another?
I know that's maybe not the most comforting thing, but it might help with perspective, which I know is hard to come by sometimes when pregnant. And sometimes even not pregnant.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014