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NCDR Anxiety and Bedtime

unaveragejaneunaveragejane member
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So I'm finding myself facing my old nemesis, anxiety, especially around bedtime. DH has agreed to take care of DS2 from about 9 to midnight so I can get some rest, and I'm hoping that helps. My fear is mostly rooted in how hard it is to get DS2 to sleep on his own. The first night home from the hospital, he slept on his own in the RNP and the PNP for 30 minute sessions mostly, with one glorious 2 hour stretch in the early morning. Last night he scared the daylights out of us by spitting up so hard it came out his nose and he was choking. My mom and I wound up taking turns holding him all night to keep him elevated. Tonight we're going to attempt the RNP again, and I'm going to have a glass of wine with supper. Any other advice on how to tackle this fear before I work myself into the mess I was with DS1?


             

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Re: NCDR Anxiety and Bedtime

  • MandmeeshMandmeesh member
    That sounds tough, Jane!

    Offering a hug is about as much as I can do. I have terrible anxiety, and did for many many months around bedtime with M. I think trying the rnp is a great idea and doing whatever you can to remind yourself that it will get better.

    And maybe yh can be with DS1 all night, instead of just midnight? That way you can focus on L?
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    So many ((hugs)) Jane. I'm working on this with my therapist right now. My anxiety really ramps up at night. Try to remember that they won't all be bad nights and tell yourself that you can get through it. Easier said than done but changing those negative thoughts to positive ones really helps. Good luck! I hope that you don't have any more of those awful spit up nights.


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  • haileyqhaileyq member
    Oh yes, don't we all remember those days? I would get the worst anxiety around bed time, because I knew I would be up all night and be exhausted and hate it. I also remember DS spitting up and it coming out of his nose many times. Their little esophageal sphincters just aren't developed all the way! Those days are ROUGH, and then they're gone. The exhaustion makes coping SO HARD. I would suggest some cognitive retraining? Try not to think of it as you "old nemesis", and revisit all those negative feelings. This is a new thing, new baby, you've done the newborn stuff before so just as you remember how difficult it was, you survived it and have a handsome toddler to show! And most importantly, don't be afraid to reach out :)
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  • joyfultrexjoyfultrex member
    Sending all my support. I wanted to add in that could you try some positive self talk. I have anxiety issues and have for as long as I can remember. I will get myself to the point when my left arm goes numb and it feels like a heart attack. Sometimes this happens and I'm not really even sure why, I then need to tell my self over and over nothing is wrong, it's just anxiety. newborns are hard. would it work trying to convince yourself nights and days are the same for L right now? He isn't trying to be difficult (I know you know this, but sometimes you just need to say it out loud to yourself) You will both survive this, and then in a while maybe even miss it. I think it sounds like DH is being helpful and supportive and hopefully if you can get a few hours of sleep you will feel a whole lot better.
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    Just wanted to offer hugs. I remember getting so anxious that I didn't even want to go to sleep because I knew I was going to be waking up so soon and it would continue all night. I wish I could remember what helped. Hang in there!
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  • ElleBeeDubElleBeeDub member
    Oh Jane, I'm sending you all the virtual hugs I can! G2 spits up constantly (I don't remember G1 doing it this much), and I totally empathize with the anxiety. You can do this. Do try to take it easy. Are you able to rest at all during naptime? It's not a good fix, but it can help.
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  • 3JTMom3JTMom member
    It is hard to get past the anxiety. Let your DH watch LO and you just relax knowing he is taken care of. Then you can turn yourself back on when you need to. I am so glad your DH is willing to help and work through this with you. Blessings!
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