I can't be the only one...

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nightowl1989 · August 2014

Yes. This.

I've had body issues my whole life. I'm that person who wears jeans when it's 100+ degrees outside because I can't stand how my legs jiggle when I walk. Even though I know it's going to happen and it's best for baby, I'm dreading the day that the scale says 200lbs. Most of the time I'm fine, but I know what you mean. I saw a picture of me just from shoulders up the other day and I looked like a fat, ugly cow or like I was sick.

Jennifer18131 · August 2014

You are definitely not alone. Hang in there. It's all for the best

bumpuser10309732 · August 2014

Yes, you're not the only person who has issues with it. It's exactly why I don't pay attention to the weight discussions. I don't think it's so much the number, it's the rapid pace in which my body has changed. It's really hard to keep up with it. Getting dressed in the morning has ended in tears more than once. As women, we're all insecure at some time or another about body image. I've told DH with a daughter on the way that I really need to be more mindful of the things I say so that I don't make her feel insecure about her body. The thing is is that your body is going to gain is however and where ever and you can only control it by making healthy decisions. We're not a super models (at least I'm not, are you?). I'm a normal female making a damn human being. Stop being so hard on yourself and concentrate more on this amazing process that your body is going through to create a life. THAT is beautiful

Glas43 · August 2014

@MrsBabe614‌ beautifully put!

pnwlover12 · August 2014

I hate having my picture taken while pregnant. I'm just bloated everywhere and it doesn't help my DH weighs 175lbs soaking wet, so when we get photographed together, I look like a wildebeast.

ashleyvictoria · August 2014

You are definitely not alone here. I always struggled with my body image pre-pregnancy and it is so hard to feel okay with the large amount of weight I've gained thus far. I'm trying to be proud of the fact that I'm growing a person, but it's definitely hard to look in the mirror some days without feeling hugely gross. I started at 145 lbs at a height of only 5'2". I am also very large chested and finally felt almost comfortable in my skin after losing about 15 lbs the year before becoming pregnant. I've gained 45....yes, 45 lbs since becoming pregnant and I'm only at 28 weeks, 5 days today. I'm eating healthy and my doctor doesn't seem concerned, so I'm trying not to be either. I know everyone gains differently and I've always been one of those people who gain weight just looking at a piece of chocolate, so I somewhat expected a large gain and I'm trying to stay positive. I just have to keep reminding myself that I'm growing a human being and trust that my body knows what it's doing.

jenndub · August 2014

I have had this issue with all of my pregnancies. Now that I'm on baby #4, I think I'm dealing with it better than I have in the past. It's tough to have no control over your body and it's hard to let go of wanting to look sexy and skinny. I feel like we get shamed by everyone if we admit to feeling sad or insecure about weight gain or how we look. Feeling sad about gaining weight doesn't mean that I'm sad that I'm going to have a child. I adore my kids and I'm a great mom. I know that I need to gain weight to nourish the life growing inside of me. And I do, but that doesn't mean that I don't struggle with major insecurity when I'm pregnant. And I really admire the women that feel super sexy and gorgeous during their pregnancies. I wish I could feel that way, but I'm not going to feel guilty or ashamed that I don't most of the time.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

You're not alone. PPs have worded my thoughts much more eloquently than I have, so I don't have much to add. Creepy internet hugs to you.

MrsL2B · August 2014

I'm trying my best to ignore the weight gain, but it is hard. I'm focusing on how great it's going to be to be able to workout like a maniac again as soon as I'm able. Ashley Conrad's Clutch programs are great, so I'm thinking I'll do one of those (obviously with a modified diet component if breastfeeding is successful).

BreandMikewedding · August 2014

I feel the same way! I try to be careful on weight gain and always do very well, but I still feel like I look huge. Some days I look huge and other days I don't. It's weird. With my last pregnancy I saw a new nurse at the beginning of my pregnancy and she lectured me on how I needed to watch how much I gained. She didn't even look at my history to see my previous pregnancy weight gain. I wanted to slap the bitch! I have never seen her since because I don't need that added pressure.

I have been focusing on planning what kinds of workouts I can do post baby to work off the weight I've gained. It makes me feel better having a plan and knowing it's not permanent. I just saw a workout routine on MSN health I think that includes working out with a stroller. It's on pinterest too.

pnwlover12 · August 2014

Nicb13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

I hate having my picture taken while pregnant. I'm just bloated everywhere and it doesn't help my DH weighs 175lbs soaking wet, so when we get photographed together, I look like a wildebeast.

Yep. Yesterday I told DH how much I weigh now and he goes "whoa! You weigh more than me now!!"

Sigh. F YOU husband.

--

Oh that little shit!

miss.brittany · August 2014

I've been having a really hard time dealing with my stretch marks. I'm not worried about weight because I know with healthy eating and exercise that the weight will go away. I have a hard time coping with stretch marks because even if they fade they won't really go away.

DD#1 was born in January 2013. About 5 weeks before she was born, all of a sudden I got stretch marks. They had lightened up a little but were still there when I got pregnant with this LO. This time around they are definitely getting worse. The color is bright again and I feel like they're spreading higher. I was talking with my DH about how they made me feel so unattractive. His response helped a little and made me feel better. He said, you're right. The stretch marks themselves are not attractive, but you are. You are beautiful. And you growing our baby is beautiful. And even though they won't go away they'll always be a reminder of how your body grew the beautiful little girl we already have and this new one who's on the way.

So for what it's worth, I know my hubby is right about me, and about all of us. Despite how it may make us feel in such a body conscious culture, the changes our bodies are going through is amazing and the beautiful children we'll have will always be worth it.

MuffinMom14 · August 2014

No, you're not the only one. But you know what? Eff it.

I'm so tired of the weight posts and everyone feeling sorry for themselves. You've gained 15 POUNDS dude. You may not feel comfortable with that, but I had gained 20 by 20 weeks. You know what I did? I quit looking at the scale.

If you don't look at the scale, you won't know the number, and the number doesn't even matter anyway. If you are healthy, your doctor isn't concerned, then keep going on with what you're doing.

It's really sad that so many of us feel this way. SO sad. And I'm right there with you, I'm not shaming you for feeling this way. I'm just saying, I HATE that we even feel this way at all.

Once I stopped looking at the scale, I did feel better. I still worry about it, because at SOME POINT I will have to get back on the scale. Probably not until around 3 months post partum, though. There's just no point.

I'm more upset about the fact that I can't run 2 miles without being in pain for the rest of the day, though.

Klavanga74 · August 2014

Dutch the scale! Clearly, you aren't alone, and I'm with you and all the PP's...BUT, I never weigh myself. At the drs. office I face away and tell them I don't want to know. I gained 50 with my first and decided with #2 I wouldn't look. I think I did find out in the end, but it wasn't constant torment. Oh, and if you see a scale in the hospital after you give birth, don't be tempted! I repeat, DONT DO IT! I did after my first. She weighed 9 pounds so I figured I'd lost more than that. Nope, I'd list NOTHING! Wait a few weeks and go by your clothes.

nightowl1989 · August 2014

@Klavanga74 My guess is water retention from the birth? Idk...clueless here.

@Nicb13 I think this is the root of my problem, too. Sometimes DH is stupid. He proudly told me how he's down below 150lbs the other day. I wanted to slap him.

jesslinnn · August 2014

You are not alone! I just saw candid pictures of myself from my grandpa's 80th birthday party on Wednesday that my aunt put on Facebook... I wasn't thrilled. I'm like "is that what my arms and double chin really look like?"

With my other two pregnancies I gained 19lbs total both times and was down to pp weight by the time I was home from the hospital. This time I'm already at 24lbs at 32 weeks. Hitting the 20lb mark was especially hard since it was more than I ever gained before. I've started stressing that I won't be able to lose the weight afterwards, which I know isn't true, but still. Fortunately, my weight gain has really slowed down the last few weeks. Just gotta remember it's all for the baby!

lrobi13 · August 2014

Nicb13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

I hate having my picture taken while pregnant. I'm just bloated everywhere and it doesn't help my DH weighs 175lbs soaking wet, so when we get photographed together, I look like a wildebeast.

Yep. Yesterday I told DH how much I weigh now and he goes "whoa! You weigh more than me now!!"
Sigh. F YOU husband.

He would have to be kilt for that. I mean that is awful. Sounds like it is time to fatten him up a bit. DH was supper skinny in high school (like 100lbs when he graduated) and I was a healthy 138 when I graduated. Thankfully we didn't meet until he had filled out because I would have real problems being so much bigger than DH. He always talks about losing some weight and I am all like "here, have this cookie".

The weigh gain is a hard adjustment but it is for the greater good and like others have said focus on what you can do afterwards. And 15 lbs is really good so don't beat yourself up.

imagine7696030614 · August 2014

I always chime in with these posts because I'm always down about my weight gain.

I have an awful body image/self esteem issue anyway and I was already up 15 lbs when I got pregnant, and I'm up about 28-30 lbs at 31 weeks pregnant.

This is pregnancy #4 and I typically gain 50-60 lbs per pregnancy. I think no matter my starting weight my body just gains weight up until 190-200 lbs during pregnancy (and I'm only 5'5-5'6-ish..not sure anymore, swear I'm shrinking!). Thankfully, I usually lose most of it fairly quickly (6-9 months? though, with breastfeeding last time I lost it even quicker).

Our bodies are going through a lot and yes, it is hard to watch our bodies change but it is definitely worth it. I'm just trying to do the best I can right now with eating (eating healthy but I do splurge here and there) and I'm just counting down the days until we'll have our little one in our arms. (can't wait to meet her but also can't wait to start focusing on exercise and feeling better about myself physically).

Hope you feel better-Hang in there! We don't have much more to go

griffers · August 2014

I'm so glad you posted this because I am feeling the same way and was wondering if I was alone. I have always been pretty small and thin (in high school I was way skinny though, like 100 lbs) so I have never had to watch what I eat or anything like that. Over the past couple years I have gained about 15 pounds and while my husband says he likes the extra weight on me I have missed having a flat stomach. I'll see pics from when we first started dating and think wow my arms are fat now.

At my last Dr's appointment last week I learned I have gained 18 pounds in this pregnancy, 5 being just in the past month. I thought I was doing pretty good but my OB basically said I need to slow down. That I am in an OK place but I don't want to keep going in that direction. Mind you, she must weigh about 90 lbs. I have been noticing the flab on my arms and thighs and the armpit area. I was cutting the grass today and I was thinking wow my legs are so jiggly and pasty white to boot! I used to go tanning but stopped because it is so bad for you but damn I look gross all jiggly and pasty. I have never really been self conscious about my body, but omg it sucks. I feel so unsexy and disgusting.

Maggie6424 · August 2014

Definitely not alone. With DS1 I had just worked SO DAMN HARD to lose 30 lbs. I was at 147 and still dropping. I gained over 65lbs with him, and wanted to cry all the time about how disgusting I looked. I made the mistake of looking at myself naked in the dressing room at Target last time. I called my friend sobbing because it was so shocking to me how bad I looked.

It's so hard to go through pregnancy, let alone watch your body change in ways you don't like. I have to keep telling myself that it's just temporary.. but even that only makes me feel a little better for a short time.

andrieya · August 2014

Ugh, 32 weeks and I'm certain at my appt on Wednesday I'll find out that I'm up 30 lbs. I wish it was only 15....it's weird though because I don't look THAT much different--which is great, but I feel like because of this, I'm really going to struggle to lose it.

pinkshades05 · August 2014

I was scared of the weight gain with my first pregnancy. Looking back, I realize I didn't look as fat as I thought I did. This time I have gained much quicker and more weight so I feel like I look huge. Pictures lately have made me feel subconscious. But all I can do is make healthy choices one at a time. As long as I'm healthy, everything will be ok.

And after DD was born, the weight practically melted right off thanks to breastfeeding and my lack of appetite compared to pregnancy. You will bounce back, too!

LaDyBostonRN · August 2014

I understand your thoughts, I've definitely looked in the mirror and thought WTH.

But you must be kinder to yourself. You are making a baby in there, your body is a unique vehicle changing into what it needs to be to make this tiny human being! It's kind of beautiful. And I know you know this but 15 pounds for a normal starting BMI is pretty fucking fabulous! Cut yourself and break and try to change your thinking. Don't want you to look back on this special time knowing you were this unhappy.

miriamm08 · August 2014

You are not alone at all! I've been feeling this way also (and the dumb comments from strangers in the grocery store like "Oh, you must be having twins!" doesn't help). Also, its not just how I look, its also carrying around the extra 20lbs is getting really hard. I'm a patite person to begin with and my body is just not used to weighing more than about 115lbs, so I don't think that is helping either. I just try to keep telling myself that what my body is doing is extra ordinary (I'm growing a whole little person!) and that I shouldn't be too hard on myself. I know when I hold my little baby in my arms it will be all worth it

Jennyc00 · August 2014

I gained 7 lb between 3 week appts and had a total bawling melt down and could NOTstop crying in the ob office!!

This last appt I lost one lb and my diet has not changed!! The rate of gaining is clearly not just what you put in your mouth! Were closer to being done! Let's just all get through it! Xo!

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