Today's my due date and I'm second-guessing my body

blgills · August 2014

This is my second pregnancy and since I had such a confusing labor with my first I'm feeling really anxious lately. Today's my due date.. ugh. I so thought I would go earlier this time around. I was 40+6 last time.
My first labor started with 2 days of really inconsistent back labor. First it was just a nagging pain, and I actually thought I had kidney stones or something wrong with me.
Then the pain changed to definite beginnings and ends with a peak, very contraction like. I was finally convinced by my nurse midwife that this was early labor.
Then they would just stop for hours.
The morning that my midwives scheduled me to go have my water broken at the hospital, I had had the awful back contractions all night but felt totally fine by morning.
I had my water broken at 7am but didn't begin active labor for hours. By 2pm I was finally in active labor and I had my baby girl by 11pm.
I have no idea what to expect this time around. Would labor have just started naturally had my water not manually been broken? Do I NEED to have my water broken to move things along?
I feel so anxious waiting for it to begin.. will it be front or back contractions?
AHHHHH!
Anyone else have a very unpredictable first labor? How did your second compare?

tamarar5 · August 2014

Don't you hate the uncertainty? My second was induced and when I went in to start the induction they told me I was having contractions. I didn't even realize that's what was happening.

Danielle0989 · August 2014

Sorry you feel like that, but maybe your LO will come when you apologize to S14 for using the 'r' word. The fact that you still haven't really shows your maturity.

jamjoyful · August 2014

snowflake91011 said:

Danielle0989 said:

Sorry you feel like that, but maybe your LO will come when you apologize to S14 for using the 'r' word. The fact that you still haven't really shows your maturity.

Agreed - I'm not going to waste my time responding to OP when she acted so ignorantly about using the "r" word, even after many people explained why she was being offensive.

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Also, this post is just whining about being in the same boat as the rest of us. It's not even worth discussing.

OP, do yourself a favor, either apologize or just find a new forum.

Nuclearcupcake · August 2014

The Bump never forgets, OP.

blgills · August 2014

Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem.
Sticks and stones, right?
This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s.
Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing.
But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

dogperson11 · August 2014

blgills said:
Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem.
Sticks and stones, right?
This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s.
Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing.
But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

Curious as to who you've connected with since you've had very few posts and just joined TB in July...

jamjoyful · August 2014

It is blowing my mind that you still don't see how unacceptable that word is.

blgills · August 2014

dogperson11 said:

blgills said:
Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem.
Sticks and stones, right?
This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s.
Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing.
But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

Curious as to who you've connected with since you've had very few posts and just joined TB in July...

Are you for real? You'd like me to explain who I have connected with, or want to imply that I haven't? That's ridiculous.
And EXACTLY the behaviour I'm talking about. Why do women in here push new posters out?

I found a sweet forum where I could openly voice my thoughts and feelings about the third tri and also read others similar thoughts and feelings. I was stoked. If I've felt that I've connected with women in here then I have. Sorry I haven't been posting for months and months.

Danielle0989 · August 2014

OP, don't use that word. Plain and simple.

absterboss · August 2014

The only time I feel the word retard is appropriate is in music when there is a "retard" which means to slow down.

When used in any other area is disgusting, and truly ignorant. Your excuses are ridiculous, and if you can't think of other words to replace that atrocious word in your vocabulary, I feel bad for you. It makes me feel bad that you don't understand the greater issue.

Edit: words

poofwok · August 2014

I think the whole point of all this is flying sky high over OP's head.

blgills · August 2014

Listen, if I have offended someone (which sounds silly to start off with because I clearly have..), and you're upset about it, then I'm sorry. I do apologize.
While it's probably not understood, I did use the word passionately because I noticed other people being isolated in the forums, or almost made fun of and treated unfairly because they didn't do a proper "introduction post". That seemed really silly to me.
I can pull up my big girl panties and apologize to those who are hurt, because it does bother me if someone was truly offended, and I wouldn't want to leave it at that.. however, I think I'm totally done with this forum. Which sucks, it was great!
But its also kinda poopy. And I hope that changes for any new posters coming in here seeking support without being called "whiny".

jamjoyful · August 2014

blgills said:

dogperson11 said:

blgills said:
Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem.
Sticks and stones, right?
This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s.
Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing.
But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

Curious as to who you've connected with since you've had very few posts and just joined TB in July...
Are you for real? You'd like me to explain who I have connected with, or want to imply that I haven't? That's ridiculous.
And EXACTLY the behaviour I'm talking about. Why do women in here push new posters out?

I found a sweet forum where I could openly voice my thoughts and feelings about the third tri and also read others similar thoughts and feelings. I was stoked. If I've felt that I've connected with women in here then I have. Sorry I haven't been posting for months and months.

We do not "push" new posters out. You chose to use a word in a way that is offensive and quite derogatory. If you would just realize that, apologize and move on...we would too. But you continue to defend yourself and it's making me think less and less of you every post.

blgills · August 2014

It's totally cool. I'm gone. Again, sorry to those I offended.

dogperson11 · August 2014

blgills said:

dogperson11 said:

blgills said:
Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem.
Sticks and stones, right?
This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s.
Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing.
But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

Curious as to who you've connected with since you've had very few posts and just joined TB in July...
Are you for real? You'd like me to explain who I have connected with, or want to imply that I haven't? That's ridiculous.
And EXACTLY the behaviour I'm talking about. Why do women in here push new posters out?

I found a sweet forum where I could openly voice my thoughts and feelings about the third tri and also read others similar thoughts and feelings. I was stoked. If I've felt that I've connected with women in here then I have. Sorry I haven't been posting for months and months.

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Well, generally connections work both ways. You're clearly popular here, but not necessarily for something fantastic. Sorry you're feeling bullied. We're a tight group, you made an offensive remark, and instead of just owning it right away you belittled others to try to avoid your wrong doing. Not cool in a group that's been established since December. If you'd simply apologized right away as requested people would have moved on. We really are quite welcoming if you take the time to lurk and be a positive participant :-)

shaylagirl · August 2014

blgills said:

Listen, if I have offended someone (which sounds silly to start off with because I clearly have..), and you're upset about it, then I'm sorry. I do apologize. While it's probably not understood, I did use the word passionately because I noticed other people being isolated in the forums, or almost made fun of and treated unfairly because they didn't do a proper "introduction post". That seemed really silly to me. I can pull up my big girl panties and apologize to those who are hurt, because it does bother me if someone was truly offended, and I wouldn't want to leave it at that.. however, I think I'm totally done with this forum. Which sucks, it was great! But its also kinda poopy. And I hope that changes for any new posters coming in here seeking support without being called "whiny".

Then, time to get yourself over to S14 and apologize to the mommy over there who posted she has a special needs child instead of being a bitch and backpedaling and defending yourself.

Also, please, GTFO. If you cannot grasp or comprehend why the "r" word is as HIGHLY offensive as the "n" word or any other slur, then you need to get off the internet and get out in to society and see how words DO cause harm.

Because, I doubt you're willing to go up to a special needs person and call them an "r" word to their face. Or, I would hope so. But, with the blatant ignorance you spout off here...I could be wrong.

BYE FELICIA!!!!!!

rockyrollgirl · August 2014

Thanks for the non-apology.

BYE!!

Nuclearcupcake · August 2014

This isn't even a clique thing. If a regular would have dropped the R word we would flame her to hell and back too. But our regs are classy bishes and have a bigger vocabulary. ;;)

Danielle0989 · August 2014

Hey OP, I have a mentally and physically handicapped niece. If someone were to use that word in front of her/about her, I would have no problem punching them in the face.

FrodaBaggins · August 2014

absterboss said:

The only time I feel the word retard is appropriate is in music when there is a "retard" which means to slow down. When used in any other area is disgusting, and truly ignorant. Your excuses are ridiculous, and if you can't think of other words to replace that atrocious word in your vocabulary, I feel bad for you. It makes me feel bad that you don't understand the greater issue. Edit: words

Yes, and technically it's "ritard" as in ritardando and it's Italian!

trebekastan · August 2014

Thanks for having our back A14. You all are a bunch of classy bishes!

FrodaBaggins · August 2014

"if I have offended someone (which sounds silly to start off with because I clearly have..), and you're upset about it, then I'm sorry."

This is not how you sincerely apologize, just btw, OP. It's like celebrities that are forced to give half-ass PR apologies for extremely offensive things they say or do, and just leave all the responsibility on someone else. "IF YOU were offended and YOU'RE upset, THEN I'm sorry." For it to be a real, appropriate and respectful apology, you'd need to take full responsibility for your words and understand WHY it is not ok in any context.

portentosa · August 2014

Much love to A14. You ladies are awesome.

trebekastan · August 2014

FrodaBaggins said:
"if I have offended someone (which sounds silly to start off with because I clearly have..), and you're upset about it, then I'm sorry."

This is not how you sincerely apologize, just btw, OP. It's like celebrities that are forced to give half-ass PR apologies for extremely offensive things they say or do, and just leave all the responsibility on someone else. "IF YOU were offended and YOU'RE upset, THEN I'm sorry." For it to be a real, appropriate and respectful apology, you'd need to take full responsibility for your words and understand WHY it is not ok in any context.

I feel bad for her SO with this weak ass apology. In my book, any apology that includes the word "if" negates the whole thing. If you're sorry for something, let it be because you truly believe you did something wrong. If not, keep it to yourself.

absterboss · August 2014

FrodaBaggins said:

absterboss said:

The only time I feel the word retard is appropriate is in music when there is a "retard" which means to slow down.

When used in any other area is disgusting, and truly ignorant. Your excuses are ridiculous, and if you can't think of other words to replace that atrocious word in your vocabulary, I feel bad for you. It makes me feel bad that you don't understand the greater issue.

Edit: words

Yes, and technically it's "ritard" as in ritardando and it's Italian!

Yes

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And to be honest? I didn't even like to use the term when using it in music!

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

blgills said:

Wow, you guys really have too much time on your hands. Grow up and stop internet bullying other women. My use of the word "retarded" was not in a negative connotation in regards to anyone's handicap, mental illness or anything of that nature. If you choose to be offended in a completely unrelated way by someone using a word (a word!) then that's truly your own problem. Sticks and stones, right? This actually just comes right back to my main point in which I felt so passionate about that I USED the word; which is that there are many posters on this website that disclude and belittle new posters in an effort for some stupid "love it"s. Honestly, I was stoked I found this forum when I did and it's totally helped the last weeks of my pregnant become more tolerable as I get to connect with other women going through the same thing. But if I see someone being an idiot, sorry, I speak up about it. And posters who are treating newbs like crap (pardon the pun related to the original thread) then something should be said.

I know I'm beating a dead horse here, but see the two bolded sections for evidence of how you did, in fact, use the word in an offensive manner (as if there was another option?). You're saying you used it to describe the idiocy of others....meaning you fancy the words retarded and idiot to be synonyms....which is offensive...

missmiss307 · August 2014

I love it when people apologize for how I'm feeling. It, in turn, makes me feel so empowered.

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