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Crazy MIL/family nuts go here
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There was a call for crazy MIL stories so here's a post to put all the crazy. Tell us all about the recent crazy family stories. We all have at least a couple nuts in our families!
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Me: No he's too young.
MIL: Oh mom he can do it if he wants.
Me: No I'm his mom and I really don't think giving him a sharp stick to put in the fire is a good idea.
MIL: Oh but every kid should get to burn one.
*Not sure why she referred to it as burning one but she's weird so I quit questioning her phrases.*
Me: He's one. He has plenty of time for that later on.
MIL: He's 19 months, not 1!
Me: 19<24. Still one.
DH: he's not even interested so there's no point in arguing. Just let him play on the tractor.
FIL: Well we could move the tractor closer to the fire.
DH: Hell no! Just leave him alone!!
Then later on MIL tried feeding him a cupcake (I have relaxed since he turned 1 but still try to limit sugars. MIL still tries giving him junk whenever she can. My awesome kid prefers veggies. I love it!) and he pushed it away and said no. MIL then declares that I have ruined him and that there's still hope for DS2. Sorry lady but my kid makes better food choices than you. Get over it. I think it's awesome he would rather eat a million carrots and cucumbers than a cupcake. And yes I do think it's because he only gets them in moderation and sweets weren't introduced until after he has developed good eating habits.
Agree. Condom outfit!
The babies are within 2 hours driving distance of each other so
I'm considering offering to pay their airfare even though they are loaded to make the point that she's nuts asking the only 2 families with kids who also happen to live near each other to fly. Plus 3 of her 4 kids work retail and we own a business so none of us could just leave during the holidays.
DH is currently hurt by his mother. She has not seen DS2 since Father's Day. We think this is part of an emotional ploy against SIL3 (who just had her baby) and as well as some other issues dealing with an old job of hers.
SIL3 is upset that MIL didn't attend both her baby showers though both were at least a 6 hour drive away (and MIL has an injury that would prevent her from flying by herself or driving). SIL3 refuses to let her mother see her kid but asks that her mother pay for $600 rocking chairs; MIL asks to see SIL3 and her kid and is told that they don't want guests for the first month (or whatever) but then SIL3's DH's family got to see the baby right after he was born. SIL3 didn't tell MIL she was have an emergency c-section but is mad that MIL didn't try to stay in contact (i.e. that she wasn't calling every hour).
The hours after I had DS2, SIL3 called MH to cry and complain to him about how their mom was being mean to her without congratulating DH on the new addition. Just this month, she also asked DH to edit her letter to their mother in which she proceeded to be really mean to his mom. (DH didn't want to be dragged in, because once he gets involved, everyone turns on him.)
In it, SIL3 complained to her mother that her mother offered to throw me a baby shower for my second (which I turned down) but didn't offer to throw her one despite SIL3 declaring that she did not want anyone planning her baby shower except herself. Yes, she proceeded to throw her own baby shower and complained that no one (except her own evil MIL) threw her one. All of us here wanted to throw her one but she had explicitly stated she didn't want one; none of us are mind readers--how were we to know she was just saying these things and didn't really mean it?
SIL3 is also upset that MIL makes everything about herself instead of about SIL3. (Truly, her letter said that being pregnant made this time about SIL3 and that MIL had instead made it about herself by faking her illnesses and other troubles.) MIL is hurt that SIL3 is considering her illnesses as legit. MIL is also upset at SIL2 for acting like SIL3's mother (there is a 15 year gap between SIL2 and SIL3 and SIL2 only had boys/helped watch SIL3) but it is not SIL2's fault.
MIL can be difficult to deal with but come on sister, give the woman some slack. She drives me crazy too, don't get me wrong; but give her some slack.
T 2.12 | W 5.14
Now her recent flip flop is about spoiling him. MH and I are really going to try not to spoil him. We were both brought up not getting everything we wanted and then later on as late teens early 20s or so we both learned you need to work for what you want. And we want our son to learn those lessons too. So MIL knows MH and I aren't going to spoil him, but always makes comments to DS about when he is older she's gonna let him pick out any toy he wants. She's gonna take him wherever he wants to go. She's gonna get him McDonald's whenever he wants it. So I told her, I would have to put my foot down if I see/hear of this taking place. And she proceeds to tell me "oh I'm not gonna spoil him, I know you and DH don't want him like that" if you know that, don't say all the things you're gonna do for him. She also blames my FIL that he'll spoil DS. Which I can see that happening.
Sorry that turned out way longer than I wanted it to be.
We just went on a beach trip with my family and I have a younger brother and sister (but even though they are younger they are still in their late 20's, they aren't children even though they act like it). My sister and I are no longer speaking after the trip b/c she told me I was a bitch to my 3 year old and she "feels sorry for my children", and it was obvious that my 3 year old prefers her and it's "not just b/c he is 3 and doesn't know better". She's a real gem. She has always been full of parenting advice, yet has no kids nor has she ever spent much time around mine.
My brother and I also got into it b/c apparently I ruined his entire vacation by having everyone "accomodate our schedule". Well, we are the only ones with children and one of them is an infant, so yeah we have to make sure we go places at certain times as to avoid meltdowns.
Basically me having kids just puts a damper on my siblings' lives. Fun times for all.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
The only issue we have with mine is that my mom has zero respect for naptime. She rolls her eyes anytime she hears of a child "needing" to take a nap, and I swear she does everything in her power to push back, shorten, or altogether skip naps. She says anyone her age who's ever had kids knows how ridiculous it is to be strict about forcing them to rest in the middle of the day. She's normally very easygoing and quite the people pleaser, so I have no idea why she's so snotty about naps. It's the weirdest thing.
My brother and SIL are super rigid with their son's schedule, to the point of causing strain in the family and in their own marriage, but I consider that their problem, not mine.
DS: 11/8/11 | 9 lb 7 oz, 22 in
DD: 5/22/14 | 9 lb 9 oz, 21.5 in
So now to the story. It was like the 2nd day after DS was born. My mom was visiting with me and she was texting like non stop. So I asked who she is talking to. She told me it was my aunt (my dad's sister). My mom thought it would be nice to let her and my dad know that I had a baby, especially so my dad knows he's a grandfather now. Well my aunt proceeded to tell my mom, that she will not tell anyone on that side of the family about my baby because I'm being selfish in the way we mentioned it. She also said that my mom manipulated me and brothers into thinking my dad is a horrible person, and that she kept us from seeing him. And then she told my mom she hopes for the baby's and MH's sake that we don't end in a divorce because I would then turn into my mother and manipulate my son. She also said my mom is very difficult to live with and no wonder my dad left. And she said that I don't care for my dad I just use him for money.
Now I'm extremely hormonal after just having a baby, I was so pissed off I wanted to go find this woman and set her story straight about my mom and dad and why it actually ended. And how me and my brothers would wait for my dad to come get us and he would never show.
Well that night MH decided it he would call my dad and let him know about grandson. He did come to visit me and DS when we got home from the hospital. And he asked about coming to visit again and I told him sure, just call me... My DS is almost 3 months and my dad hasn't seen him since he was 7days old. I haven't even got a phone call asking how DS is doing.