Rant: Anyone else's mother suddenly comfortable with "no filter" conversations?!!!

Dcstern13 · August 2014

My mother just called and left VM to inform me that she ordered me an oversized vibrator --- that she expects me to use regularly with DH to help prevent tearing until LO delivery!! Best intentions yes--- but Holy Shit Ma! On my answering machine --- my DH is mortified that she's suddenly so comfortable talking about our sex life and genitals!!

UPDATE: for the oversensitive -- please refrain from commenting. I've retracted details that were apparently too graphic for some readers --

Marchie1214 · August 2014

Umm?

trebekastan · August 2014

I have no words.

suitern · August 2014

Where do these keep coming from? I am not going to complain as it is great entertainment for bed rest...but really...

AnyMax · August 2014

MUD. MUD. MUD.
But I guess since you don't have any pants on, you're all set.

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...

JustCricket · August 2014

sparklegrump said:

Is this really a question post? Lol.

she just wanted to be able to select the best one.. I stand by my prior statement. Question posts should be disabled/eliminated

Dcstern13 · August 2014

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...

Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

Shall we get in a nature vs. nurture argument instead? Am I supposed to feel bad for that comment even though it still absolutely applies? Because I sure don't.

trebekastan · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

We didn't appreciate your last post, we don't like this one much either. I come from a family full of adoption too, it has nothing to do with this rando post. Don't make up things to be morally outraged over.

AnyMax · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

Dcstern13 · August 2014

CarmAlarm said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

Shall we get in a nature vs. nurture argument instead? Am I supposed to feel bad for that comment even though it still absolutely applies? Because I sure don't.

I do not care if you feel bad or not. I'm simply stating it was uncalled for.

JustCricket · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

not sure how this applies... I mean she is the one who raised you?? right? So how is it bad of us to assume you're going to pick up traits of the person who raised you (biological or adoptive mother)

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

Shall we get in a nature vs. nurture argument instead? Am I supposed to feel bad for that comment even though it still absolutely applies? Because I sure don't.
I do not care if you feel bad or not. I'm simply stating it was uncalled for.

And I'm simply stating that your mother's inappropriate behavior doesn't surprise me considering yours. Regardless of your genetic make up, she is your mother. Apple....tree.

As for uncalled for, throwing around adoption and losses in an attempt to win at the internet is uncalled for. That's shameful.

JustCricket · August 2014

sparklegrump said:

I'm mobile so I can't see, but are these OP's only posts ever? I don't get it. If it's MUD then ok, but if not, what the crap is going on?

she's had some other posts... and may have had another thread she started about elective ivf to choose baby's sex

trebekastan · August 2014

sparklegrump said:

I'm mobile so I can't see, but are these OP's only posts ever? I don't get it. If it's MUD then ok, but if not, what the crap is going on?

No, but she was the B with the douche-y husband who wanted her to do IVF for a boy or some shit and then got all butt hurt when we didn't hold her SS hand on the eugenics.

Dcstern13 · August 2014

AnyMax said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

JustCricket · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

My mother just called and left VM to inform me that she ordered me an oversized vibrator --- that she expects me to use regularly with DH to help prevent tearing until LO delivery!! I'm small down there yes-- humiliatingly confession: proven by the fact that I ended up in ER in high school -- when my then boyfriend and now husband and I fooled around for first time! Best intentions yes--- but Holy Shit Ma! On my answering machine --- my DH is mortified that she's suddenly so comfortable talking about our sex life and genitals!!

qfp

trebekastan · August 2014

jk. crick's got it

trebekastan · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.
You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

Well...I know a huge chunk of this board doesn't feel that way about the babies they will never hold. Soooo.... just run away now.

Dcstern13 · August 2014

CarmAlarm said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!

Shall we get in a nature vs. nurture argument instead? Am I supposed to feel bad for that comment even though it still absolutely applies? Because I sure don't.
I do not care if you feel bad or not. I'm simply stating it was uncalled for.

And I'm simply stating that your mother's inappropriate behavior doesn't surprise me considering yours. Regardless of your genetic make up, she is your mother. Apple....tree.

As for uncalled for, throwing around adoption and losses in an attempt to win at the internet is uncalled for. That's shameful.

Win at the internet? Is that a thing?!

I'm grateful that I'm adopted-- my parents are amazing. It's not a shameful topic that one would "throw around" to make others feel guilty, shameful or whatever else you might think-- and neither are my mothers previous losses.

Dcstern13 · August 2014

trebekastan said:

Dcstern13 said:

AnyMax said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

Well...I know a huge chunk of this board doesn't feel that way about the babies they will never hold. Soooo.... just run away now.

I should run away because my mother hasn't a different view of her losses than the majority of people on here? How is that acceptable?!

brittneyandadam · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

AnyMax said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

Then that's your mom's story to share...not for you to throw around the internet to win an argument. That's pretty shitty.

Eta: I'm very open about my IF...but if anyone in my fam used it as ammunition in a public discussion, online or otherwise, I'd be pissed.

JustCricket · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

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You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

I have no words for this...

Dcstern13 said:

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Win at the internet? Is that a thing?! I'm grateful that I'm adopted-- my parents are amazing. It's not a shameful topic that one would "throw around" to make others feel guilty, shameful or whatever else you might think-- and neither are my mothers previous losses.

OP just stop. You're not helping your situation and you're starting to offend more and more people

trebekastan · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

Dcstern13 said:

Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.
You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

Well...I know a huge chunk of this board doesn't feel that way about the babies they will never hold. Soooo.... just run away now.
I should run away because my mother hasn't a different view of her losses than the majority of people on here? How is that acceptable?!

No, you should run away because you are nonchalantly talking about losses like it's no big deal and saying that your mom believes that happened for a reason. Not many women in her position feel that way. They feel the opposite and hate when people say shit like, "It was meant to be". It is hurtful to them. But I guess because it's your mom's opinion you can just spout whatever garbage you want.

AnyMax · August 2014

brittneyandadam said:

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If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.
You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.
Then that's your mom's story to share...not for you to throw around the internet to win an argument. That's pretty shitty. Eta: I'm very open about my IF...but if anyone in my fam used it as ammunition in a public discussion, online or otherwise, I'd be pissed.

This exactly.

conradraging · August 2014

trebekastan said:

Dcstern13 said:

trebekastan said:

Dcstern13 said:

AnyMax said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

Well...I know a huge chunk of this board doesn't feel that way about the babies they will never hold. Soooo.... just run away now.

I should run away because my mother hasn't a different view of her losses than the majority of people on here? How is that acceptable?!

No, you should run away because you are nonchalantly talking about losses like it's no big deal and saying that your mom believes that happened for a reason. Not many women in her position feel that way. They feel the opposite and hate when people say shit like, "It was meant to be". It is hurtful to them. But I guess because it's your mom's opinion you can just spout whatever garbage you want.

Ummm this. If your mom can look at her losses positively, that's fan fucking tastic, however that's nothing to throw around in internet arguments. That's fucking disgusting.

Also I'm super happy for you that you were adopted but that has no bearing on the apple-tree statement. Saying the apple doesn't fall far from the tree apples whether you are blood related or not because it's based on your behaviors. Which of course are learned from the woman who raised you.

Also for the record we don't know you and don't care about your inappropriate vibrator experiences.

MrsLaLaBug · August 2014

You are tactless and disrespectful. Kindly STFU or show yourself the door. Have some class, for Heaven's sake.

camichael84 · August 2014

JustCricket said:

sparklegrump said:

I'm mobile so I can't see, but are these OP's only posts ever? I don't get it. If it's MUD then ok, but if not, what the crap is going on?

she's had some other posts... and may have had another thread she started about elective ivf to choose baby's sex

Wait. So she's elective IVF girl and pantless girl and now this??? I'm calling troll. Troll, troll, troll.

ETA: I wish I would have seen this before she "retracted details that were apparently too graphic".

trebekastan · August 2014

@camichael84 Go back, Crick quoted the original after she edited.

AnyMax · August 2014

camichael84 said:

JustCricket said:

sparklegrump said:

I'm mobile so I can't see, but are these OP's only posts ever? I don't get it. If it's MUD then ok, but if not, what the crap is going on?

she's had some other posts... and may have had another thread she started about elective ivf to choose baby's sex

Wait. So she's elective IVF girl and pantless girl and now this??? I'm calling troll. Troll, troll, troll.

ETA: I wish I would have seen this before she "retracted details that were apparently too graphic".

Scroll through, the post before edit was quoted

camichael84 · August 2014

trebekastan said:

@camichael84 Go back, Crick quoted the original after she edited.

Thanks! I had this thread open for a while before I got to it, and there are a ton of new posts that I didn't see before I posted. Catching up now...

kaleb87 · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:

AnyMax said:

Dcstern13 said:

CarmAlarm said:
Because posting a picture of yourself pantless on the internet and telling COMPLETE strangers about your first time fooling around with your H and the size of your vagina is TOTALLY appropriate...yeah, apple doesn't fall far from the tree...
Oh I'm sorry -- were my knees too graphic for you?! Also have to say your response about apple and yet tree -- totally inappropriate. You don't know my family! I was adopted after my mother went through 6 losses. Was just sharing something that shocked me --- since it is ACTUALLY totally out of character for my usually very modest mother!
If ANYTHING here is inappropriate, it is you throwing around your mother's losses in an attempt to make someone feel guilty. And on top of inappropriate, it is downright disgusting.

You are absolutely entitled to your own opinion-- however, my mother is grateful for her losses-- and it is something she openly talks about. She believes it was fate bringing her the children that were meant to be hers, just in a different way.

OP I have had to bite my tongue long enough. We butted heads last time and I think we are about to do the same this time. How dare you say fate is what brings a mother a child that is meant to be hers. Fate must really fuck!ng hate me then. Not only have I had two losses but I have also had fertility issues. Yes I am grateful for the time I had with my Angel babies but there is nothing beyond that. When people say oh it is for the best, or at least they aren't suffering well how the hell do they know? I talk openly about my losses but I guarantee you if I ever hear my dd throwing around my losses the way you have there will be hell to pay. I also, have nothing against adoption my DH and I looked at that avenue. We would love to be foster parents one day with the chance of adoption.
Don't worry though I am BEYOND grateful for my dd that is here with me because you know it was fate! I am also beyond grateful for the LO growing inside me, and pray every day nothing goes wrong. Even though everytime I go to the doctor I still feel a sense of panick when they try and find the heartbeat. In the back of my head from now on I will just remember it's fate that maybe this baby is also actually meant to be mine. Thanks! (Hope you can understand sarcasm) Goodbye, I'm done.

kmbk27 · August 2014

Dcstern13 said:
Dcstern13 said:

*snip*

Win at the internet? Is that a thing?!

I'm grateful that I'm adopted-- my parents are amazing. It's not a shameful topic that one would "throw around" to make others feel guilty, shameful or whatever else you might think-- and neither are my mothers previous losses.

------quote fail-----

You're right. Neither adoption nor losses are shameful topics. The way in which you're tossing them around to prove a point or win an argument, however, is fucking disgusting.

As far as your mom's opinion on her losses - that's her opinion to have. Not yours to toss around as you please, especially with this audience. I cannot tell you how many people told me my loss happened for a reason, but I can tell you I wanted to punch every single one of them in the throat.

So go ahead and keep it up. Or better yet, GTFO.

mrsdanielleM2010 · August 2014

I'm not gonna call anyone names, but the chick from the other post gave me this award, OP,

And I'd like to pass it on to you. Congratulations!

KATILLAC1 · August 2014

Wow. Not what I expected when I opened this post. *backing away slowly* :-\"

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