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October 2014 Moms
Sockgnome78
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Hormones! Oh my Gosh *Update*
Sockgnome78
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I am over here bawling because I am looking at our fiances and well. Until the next pay day we have a small amount of money.
H makes me feel guilty when I (SAHW) order something to be delievered. But then I see him taking people out to lunch based on the bill in our account.
Can I just cry for a while.
*Update*
After an ugly cry and well yelling at both H and the dog, I calmed down. Cleaned the house at the same time.
DH came home, he let me vent a bit more and was able to understand where I was coming from. No we did not start a budget, but we did get most of the bills paid and still have some money left over. I think I opened H eyes to we need to be saving money not spending it. Although I do have to admit that I have been guilty of just buying things on a whim when I have the car. So we are both at fault and need to get better at it.
So we moved on with the night and DH and I taped off the nursery and DH is painting it.
So we need a second coat of one of the color and then we can start on the other two walls next weekend. Then we can start to bring stuff in.
So yes we are not on a budget but we are both aware that we need to stop spending money like it grows on a tree in the backyard.
Thanks for the support and listening ladies. This is my first break down like this since BFP. So 6 and 1/2 monthes without a complete break down is pretty good in my book.
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Re: Hormones! Oh my Gosh *Update*
It's ok to cry! The way money is spent needs to feel fair to both parties. Hope you work it out! ((Hugs))
Could you put a place in your budget for his and her "blow" money? Even if it is just $10-15 each a week, you would know you are allowed to spend it on whatever and then you wouldnt have to feel guilty about it.
Hugs.
Thanks ladies for the support. H and I are going to sit down tonight and work this out.
Sorrynotsorry to H with the last comment I told him on the phone. He kinda got told and said that he was not sure what he had done to make me so mad. I just kept telling how much money he spent over the past 2 days.
So I think he knows a discussion is coming. Although we do get a clean house out of the deal. Since most time I clean when upset and the dining room and kitchen look a ton better. As for the nursery that is still another story.
ETA- for clarity
Although if my DH ever got mad at me for ordering food (which I rarely do) we would have some words. Sometimes everyone needs a little treat.
Stressing about finances sucks! I hope you feel better soon & that you and your DH can get something worked out!
He does not so much say it as it is his actions.
I have stayed home the last few years and it has been and adjustment. I just keep thinking it is not just us any more and we need to have money. So H can get the supplies he needs to build the crib. We need to find a rocker or glyder, a changing table,all sorts of diapers and such and a bassinet to allow me to keep LO in our room at night. We have not done much shopping for LO. It is not like we have ton of time left.
Bills are important to be paid on time. We are still looking at getting a second car. Which is going to be another expense. So I have seen the light. Just need to get him on the same page.