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My comparison problem...

brittanylprenticebrittanylprentice member
in Babies on the Brain
This is a question about my relationship or maybe just a rant, I'm not sure yet. My boyfriend and I got pregnant after only dating for 3 months. We had known each other in high school and were extremely close (10 years ago, we are 28). We decided to keep the baby. He has a daughter with a woman he was in a long relationship with right out of high school. They have been separated for about 3 years. This is my first pregnancy (I am at 18 weeks) and I am having a problem with him constantly referring to his experiences with his last pregnancy. He compares my  pregnancy to his ex's and it feels like every time something happens he isn't impressed by it because he has already been through it. I felt the baby kick for the first time over the weekend and he said that his ex felt it kick around the same time and just shrugged it off. It's making me feel like my pregnancy is less, I know he doesn't mean to make me feel that way but it's making me panic and wonder if we made the right choice. Not really sure how to handle it.
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  • sandrabrookesandrabrooke member
    Gawd.  Kick his ass to the curb.  
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  • Monicagail1Monicagail1 member
    Maybe he's an ass, or maybe just a numb nuts. Hopefully it's the latter. Have you talked to him about it? Let him know that this is your first pregnancy and you want to share all the excitement with him but that the constant references to his ex's pregnancy make you uncomfortable and you'd feel better if he filters those thoughts and comparisons.
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  • babywatermelonbabywatermelon member
    I agree with the other ladies, sit down with him when you both have time to sit and talk- and let him know how it makes you feel.
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    14whitney said:
    Also, I found you (or at least someone with your exact name and that's 28) online within five seconds. I would change your SN if you want your privacy protected. But it's your choice. Go to www.theknot.com and sign in using your Bump info. Then at the top click your name. If will say "change your screen name". Click save many times.
    If you have a bump account you automatically have a knot account. All you have to do is stay logged in here, open a separate tab for TK and you're signed in there. Change your name, save it, log out, then log back in.
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