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scgmama · July 2014

So I'm browsing baby names and I found a name I'm absolutely in love with, Aubrielle. It would go perfect with the middle name I adore but here's my issue. My BFF has a daughter named Audrey Brielle. If this baby was a girl and I named her Aubrielle that would be a no-no wouldn't it?

I mentioned the name to her to bring up that I'm in love with it and see what she would say and she said how she can totally call her daughter that as a NN.

So basically I have to ditch the name right?

ETA: the real issue after confronting my friend-

A few years back when my BFF and I were inseparable while her husband was deployed, she almost left her husband to be with my current SO. Mind you I never knew at the time, she never told me. HE told me about 2 years later after we were already together. She doesn't want me using the name because this is my baby with my SO. Basically a whole 'nother can of worms.

CatLadyTX · July 2014

Nothing says that you can't have a name that is similar to your BFF's daughter. It isn't something that I would do, but if you like it don't use that reason as your only barrier.

Hernsy · July 2014

It is really close and could be confusing if they're together much. Do you think it would hurt her feelings? Maybe keep looking and switch that to a middle name? She might feel honored that way instead of upset?

michelle142 · July 2014

Name the baby whatever you want. Your friend doesn't have a copyright on the name.

triplej9 · July 2014

Nope. If you love it, keep it!

MaddScientist · July 2014

I am still unclear on whether your BFF thought the idea of the 2 kids having similar names was bad. Her response was just weird. Use the name if you like it.

scgmama · July 2014

See I know someone she's not very close to named their daughter Brielle as a first name and she felt like they were stealing her daughters name.

@Hernsy‌ if this baby is a girl they would probably never meet. We live 3 hours away from each other and next year she's moving to the opposite side of the country.

Hernsy · July 2014

Then I say if you like it, go with it!

jennjilljo · July 2014

I agree with @ChickenOnSunday‌, if you like it then use it. They're different names that sound similar. Does this friend know you're pg? I'd be annoyed if I discussed baby names with a friend and they wanted to use the names on my "love it" list for a nickname for their kid. But that's just me.

Ducktale · July 2014

I'd do it. Friends come and go, even BFFs. You may have someone close friend come into your life with a child the same name. I already told a few of my pregnant friends that if they had their babies before me and chose our name, we wouldn't change it. We wouldn't expect them to change theirs for us either. And it's not even the exact same name. Audrey and Aubrielle are not the same (even if the middle name makes it closer) Wait to find the sex to see if it will even be an issue.

scgmama · July 2014

Yes she knows I'm pregnant. I mentioned how it was similar to her daughters and she jumped right onto how she could use it as a NN. We've been talking about baby names for a couple days so I didn't really expect that response from her.

scgmama · July 2014

Ducktale said:
I'd do it. Friends come and go, even BFFs. You may have someone close friend come into your life with a child the same name. I already told a few of my pregnant friends that if they had their babies before me and chose our name, we wouldn't change it. We wouldn't expect them to change theirs for us either. And it's not even the exact same name. Audrey and Aubrielle are not the same (even if the middle name makes it closer) Wait to find the sex to see if it will even be an issue.

Well it's now clear that if it's a girl and I name her Aubrielle we definitely wouldn't be friends anymore. But for another reason. Ughhhhh.

lizjennings81 · July 2014

Sounds like that was her way of staking her territory. Ignore her if you want to use it.

jennjilljo · July 2014

Her kid already has a name so it sounds like she's just trying to name block you. A good friend won't care what you name your baby. I think Aubrielle is beautiful and would try to use it if it stood a chance with DH.

zoe2711 · July 2014

I wouldn't worry about the name being close to the middle name, she'll only use that on official forms. Audrey and Aubrielle aren't that similar. I think if they won't spend much time together then go for it.

HerHighness · July 2014

They are different names. If she is willing to end your friendship over a baby name she isnt really your friend to begin with.

Hernsy · July 2014

Oh, honey, that is a whole 'nother can of worms! I say do what you want.

CatLadyTX · July 2014

Re: your update:

That seems like a sort of awful thing to do to a BFF. I am not sure I would have the same relationship with her after this information came out.

scgmama · July 2014

CatLadyTX said:
Re: your update:

That seems like a sort of awful thing to do to a BFF. I am not sure I would have the same relationship with her after this information came out.

It hasn't been the same. She's angry with him for god knows what, because it didn't work out? I don't know she won't tell me but it's a constant struggle of her "trying to be supportive" but obviously disliking the fact that I'm with him. I'm really surprised that that was the real reason. Her and her husband are still together and have their baby. I'm not really sure what to do

jennjilljo · July 2014

Her issues with this go way further than a name. She might have feelings for your SO which could be problematic later. It sounds like she needs to let it go. That's just my personal opinion and how I would feel in your situation. I may be reading it completely wrong though.

biaher16 · July 2014

They are different names I don't see how she could use it as a nick name for her daughter. She sounds rude and like @HerHighness‌ said if she is going to unfriend you for something like that she's nit so great of a friend. I think she might have some envy issues.

Cookie0875 · July 2014

It sounds like your friend might be a little crazy. I say, like many others, use the name if you love it! It's hard to find a name you love, don't give up on it.

jennjilljo · July 2014

I'm sorry you have to have this kind of stress. Picking a name and being pregnant are hard enough without other people making it difficult.

dreemkin84 · July 2014

These are all very trendy names right now so your friend better get used to other kids having similar names. She's being ridiculous. Do what you want.

scgmama · July 2014

I think this is the end of our friendship. She said this was a slap in the face and the equivalent if she named her kid after my ex boyfriend who I was very attached to and incredibly upset over our sudden breakup. But we've been split for quite a while now, since the time she was cheating on her husband. I wouldn't be remotely upset if she did that because I'm happy now and have completely let that bit of my past go.

usmcwife89 · July 2014

Friends come and go.. If it were a family member I might think about changing it.. I say go for it! As PP said, she doesn't have a copyright on it

Cookie0875 · July 2014

Ummm...your friend sucks at life. That is all.

Izzy0927 · July 2014

Yeahhhhh, it sounds like this friendship is on its last legs and may not make it past the baby's birth no matter what you name the kid. So go for the name you like. Aubrielle is beautiful.

scgmama · July 2014

"Like I said steph, I can't change your mind so use whatever name you want. You don't have my side because there's no point in telling you. I really don't care anymore, I just would prefer him not to have a child using MY child's names. You asked for honesty but when I give it then you're mad."

Her response to me. I just want to eat a gallon of ice cream.

SNail312` · July 2014

Everyone's pretty much summed it up! Aubrielle is beautiful

what is the middle name you've chosen?

mrsherr22 · July 2014

I would say she's not a true BFF. You trust your SO but how could you ever trust her even over little things? I think you should name your baby what you want.

lilybug319 · July 2014

Your friend sounds like a total nut job. Please take no offense. You should name your kid whatever you want. Nobody has a claim on any name. I would stay far, far away from her.

Hernsy · July 2014

sweets0022 said:
I would say she's not a true BFF. You trust your SO but how could you ever trust her even over little things? I think you should name your baby what you want.

^^^This.

dacora · July 2014

It sounds like she's upset that you're the one having a baby with him and not her. That's a mess I'd want nothing to do with and she needs to get over her issues.

jdzevans · July 2014

She may not always be your BFF, but that baby is yours FOREVER! Name it what you want!!

HerHighness · July 2014

If she is being petty because she still pines for your husband after years she needs to get a life. I say name the baby that and watch her head explode.

Ducktale · July 2014

scgmama · July 2014

I'm seriously going to go buy a tub of ice cream and go to town on it.

I'm going to name this baby what I want and I really do love the name Aubrielle Emmeline. And js, ramzi method predicts a girl and technically from my SO's job he shouldn't be able to produce male sperm.

I'm a bit upset especially since now my SO said he wishes she didn't know so much about this pregnancy and everything so FX she doesn't turn into a twat waffle and tell everyone.

scgmama · July 2014

Ducktale said:

Yes indeed.... Sigh.

StephanieLBerg · July 2014

scgmama said:
See I know someone she's not very close to named their daughter Brielle as a first name and she felt like they were stealing her daughters name.

@Hernsy‌ if this baby is a girl they would probably never meet. We live 3 hours away from each other and next year she's moving to the opposite side of the country.

Well if she's moving to the opposite side of the country, and the kids are never going to meet, then why the hesitation? If you love the name so much, name her that. Your friend and her daughter can get over it. No one has a monopoly on a name and if it were me, and a friend of mine wanted to giver her daughter my name, I would feel honored, not pissy about it.

mandamoochie · July 2014

Wait.. I was just a bystander cause everyone already said what I was thinking but...wait a second here....

How does your SO's job make him create only sperm with two X chromosomes? :-/

Eta: I apparently am typing like I'm drunk when definitely not.

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