Does anyone else want to rip their DH's head off?

hillarylo · July 2014

Seriously, I did laundry all day yesterday and then had to drive 2 hours to go get him from his golf trip he had to go on, so I didn't finish putting the laundry away. So today he throws all the folded clothes on the ground so he can sit on the couch. Then he gets mad at me because I say something, really asshole??? We got home at 11pm and I had to get up and be at work by 8am, I don't have time to do that shit until I get home tonight. If it isn't picked up when I get home, I'm going to lose my shit.

kefttsc · July 2014

OH YES......today it was the dishwasher, the trash and the laundry.

It is his job to unload the dishwasher, take out the garbage and take the dirty laundry downstairs to the laundry room. Well, those things haven't been done lately and I've been doing them! I just happened to bite his head off and point those things out this morning.........

crystalw88 · July 2014

Boo! How poopy! Guys just don't get it! I work FT M-Th and usually do absolutely nothing on Fridays. It's even worse now that I'm pregnant. DH usually calls me early Friday morning and asks what my plans are for the day. I always reply, I don't have any and don't plan to do anything today but relax. He usually then replies with, "Well, there is a lot of stuff that needs to get done around the house." Ugh really? Let me hop up and get on that right away because I have 26 hours in my day! Did I also mention when the weekend comes and I ask him to do something around the house such as mow the lawn or fix the broken cabinet door, he replies with, "I've worked hard all week. I want to relax on the weekend." Like I don't work hard? Guys think we have super powers I think. [-X

hillarylo · July 2014

@kefttsc mine, will take the trash out but fails to put the bag back in and if I don't see it I accidentally throw stuff in the trash. Then he gets mad because it's dirty inside, and I'm like then put the damn bag back in it!!!!

kefttsc · July 2014

Boys just don't get it!!!!!!

Cookie0875 · July 2014

For the most part, my DH is very helpful. But it really annoys me when I don't feel well and have a million things to do and he's sitting on the couch with me. Um, hello, get up and do the things that I can't, please! Or one weekend he literally spent the whole weekend gone fishing and golfing while I felt really terrible. That was one of my worst weekends and he was off having fun and nothing got done around the house. I told him how I felt after that one and things have gotten a lot better.

@hillarylo if DH threw clean folded clothes on the floor, I'd definitely flip my shit. Kudos to you for holding it in until tonight.

crystalw88 · July 2014

@kefttsc mine will take the trash bag out of the bin and set it next to the door and then it lays there for a week

kefttsc · July 2014

@crystalw88 I would FLIP

hillarylo · July 2014

@cookie0875 I almost started crying but I was so shocked I didn't know what to do.

And I would freak out if the trash sat by the door. That smell is awful!!! @crystalw88

angelg3134 · July 2014

Yes. Lately that I've been going to bed really early, he'll stay up and Lounge around. The weekend comes when we deep clean and he's so upset I'm not scrubbing the bathroom. He can be such a douche. He'll still do our laundry and dishes but there are certain things that he does not grasp. I'd rather fo dishes then bleach my bathroom with no windows. He doesn't get that.

umbcpt · July 2014

My mom has a plaque in her office that I love...it reads "To cope with her domestic life, the working woman needs a wife."

At this point, I would settle for a cleaning lady.

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umbcpt · July 2014

One of my close friends that happens to be a lesbian, I told about this plaque. Her response? "I have both and highly recommend it!" Love her!

MommyOfAMiracle · July 2014

Cleaning the house. Period.

His clean clothes that i've washed are still sitting on top of the dryer. He hasn't lifted a finger in WEEKS. I am just now getting some of my energy back. But I am sure not looking forward to cleaning 3 weeks full of a dirty house!

Not only that, it's summer time. Our A/C broke, he hasn't fixed it like he said he would. He cut a piece out of our wall to fix a leak in the bathroom, the hole is still there. And also being that it's summer, we have ants. He continues to leave dirty dishes in the sink or food in the trash. Oh and food is in the trash because the disposal is broken as well!!

Granted he's been working his little butt off lately, but priorities. I haven't said much other than a hint here or there. But writing this out i'm starting to fume. Ugh.

WanderingA · July 2014

There have been many, many times that I have wanted to give him a swift kick to the nuts. Luckily/unluckily he has started to see how bad I am feeling lately and has been helping out a lot more and been much more even-keeled. I stay home with DD while he works and when he comes home and I haven't done any dishes and the house is a mess he has been understanding.

That being said, I get a lecture daily about SOMETHING, and I just smile and nod and remind him that I am growing a human and making food for another one WITH MY BODY. That usually shuts him up.

jennjilljo · July 2014

It's 50/50. I love him dearly and he's so helpful but God forbid he doesn't get his sleep. What really annoys me above all else though is that if cartoons are on he watched netflix on his phone for hours. I get that he's tired of cartoons but he has a wife to talk to and a child to play with if he's that bored. He even watches through lunch or dinner. I hate it!

ksgsmu · July 2014

I love my husband.... but he is helpless with housework etc... I am to blame though because I happily did it all after we got married. Now that I can barely function past 8pm... I need his help. I had to have a talk with him about how he has to step it up and start helping NOW. I ahte to make lists or a chore chart for him like a kid but if he doesn't start helping more I am going to have to!!

StephanieLBerg · July 2014

I've had similar issues, lately its been him ACTIVELY looking for a job. Today, he's sick and says he can't do any of the housework because his body aches. His only saving grace from me ripping his head off and handing it back to him was that he finally heard back from a potential employer and has a job interview tomorrow afternoon. Sometimes men just don't get it. And I really shouldn't complain because he hasn't expected me to do ANY chores because I'm pregnany and has been waiting on me hand and foot this whole pregnancy. But sometimes when I come home from a long day at work and all I asked was for him to sweep the floor or take out the garbage while I was out, and it still hasn't been done when I get home, I tend to get a little red-assed about it. But again, I really can't complain so I try to put on a smile and just remind him to do it the next day.

HerHighness · July 2014

They all need a throat punch occasionally. Mine has been good lately but overall he really doesnt understand how shitty i feel and thinks im being lazy. When he gets crabby i remind him that hes unemployed and job hunting right now (so home all the time) and im still doing more than he is, it usually shuts him up.

If he threw folded laundry on the floor to sit his ass on the couch i would have gone bat shit crazy on his ass. Id expect better out of a teenager than that. Its lazy and disrespectful.

hillarylo · July 2014

It's like he was trying to prove a point. But in reality ended up looking like a jack ass. And you're right you'd expect that from a teenager. He's 10 years older than me so he should know better.

mh269650 · July 2014

DH and I are pretty 50/50 w housework and chores. I tend to do a little more since I do all the grocery shopping, cooking and dishes. I really don't have much to complain about but he doesn't empathize with me. He gives me grief on the days I get sleepy super early bc he says I'm not spending time w him...I'm laying right next to you, who cares if I'm awake lol

Also, if I ask him to flip a load of laundry or take the trash out he'll list anything he's done in the last 2-3 days as if that exempts him from doing anything else or helping me.

mommy510 · July 2014

I love DH, but he does nothing around the house. He does take care of the pool (thank you, thank you, thank you!) and he waters our tomato plants. Sometimes he watches the kids, but for the most part, all that falls on me. We both work from home, so I feel like he either needs to take over some chores or do my work for me.
Also, I have always been the one to take out the trash, which is totally a man's job IMO!

crystalw88 · July 2014

@mommy510 and @ksgsmu ugh! I hear ya! I blame his parents! Unfortunately now I have to fix their mistake. I've tried a hunny do list and that was basically a waste of time and pissed me off more as his excuse was well I had to work a half hour later than normal. My train of thought was always that he should just know magically what needs to be done. Obviously he can see the giant pile of clothes on the bathroom floor right? Or the dust bunnies dancing around the room? Nope he can't (must be a guy thing.) I asked him how we could get him to help me more and he says I just have to ask. I'm still working on switching myself to asking him to simply do something vs. just thinking he should know it needs to be done. Hope this helps you ladies

psychobutthead · July 2014

My DH does nothing. Not even things I would consider man chores.

He doesn't help with DD, he doesn't help with the dogs. He won't do dishes but will complain when we have none. We won't do any laundry but will complain that his work shirts he likes the best aren't clean. He won't clean any messes through out the house. He also won't make dinner or go grocery shopping. The excuse for not grocery shopping is because even if I make him a full list and explain exactly where to find each item he doesn't know how to do it. He won't mow the lawn or take out trash.

DH works full time and so do I. I get up at 4:30 to make my lunch and get DD and me ready. I drop DD at his moms house and drive to work. I get off at 2 get DD and then go home. Then DH has the nerve to complain that when he gets home I'm asleep. I've been up since 4:30 and worked 8 hours.

Our lawn looked so bad our neighbor got sick of it and mowed it. DH thought that was funny. The same neighbor his wife came over an lectured us about the way the backyard looks. I was nice and calm at the door. Soon as the old lady went away I went the fuck off on DH. I've been telling him for weeks to mow and he keeps finding every excuse not to. I yelled at him how ridiculous and embarassing it is that the old lady came to our door because our grass is so high shes concerned about snakes. Which is one of the points I already made to DH about the grass.

I go on these rants how buying the house was a mistake because he doesn't help at all. I never wanted to buy a house and I didn't want the one he wanted. I didn't want a house because I knew he wouldn't help with anything and I was right.

We had a leak in our attic which came through our pantry. Pantry ceiling had to be ripped out. Do do this DH removed all of the shelves in the pantry. They are still laying on the floor and out our food is on our counter tops and table. I'm fucking sick of this.

Kayla*Marie · July 2014

Lately my H has been saying how he needs a nap on the weekends. Seriously?! He's "just so beat up from the week". I told him if I don't get a nap he doesn't either and he got so mad at me!! We had a serious fight over this!
He had to take care of our LO by himself for the day Saturday as I was taking engagement pictures for a couple. I think he realized how little down time there actually is, how she is incredibly demanding when her food is not prepared on time, and how an 11 month old learning to walk falls over constantly and you need o watch WHERE she is trying to walk so she doesn't nail her head on something. He's been much more helpful since! :-) Welcome to my world my dear!

mishka29 · July 2014

This thread make me realize how great DH has been lately and what a total lazy ass I have been. I feel bad now and must do better!

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