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Play date question

snicksnacksnicksnack member
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So my daughter is begging me to plan a play date with a little girl from daycare. My daughter is really outgoing and wants me to plan play dates all the time once she learned the word she was ready to go. So my plan was to leave a note in the little girl’s cubby for her mom saying that DD really enjoys spending time with her daughter and would love to meet at the park one Saturday, please contact me if interested. Then last week as we are leaving my DD sees this little girl and runs up to her asking why she was not in class she says she spent the day with her mom so my DD says did you come to give me a hug that is so nice she came to give me a hug. I could tell that the mom was annoyed and just wanted to leave as she was picking up her younger child so I shuffled DD away and said hi to the mom who snubbed me. I don’t know if she is just not friendly, does not like my daughter or was just having a bad day but I really don’t want to reach out to this person. I smiled multiple times, tried to talk to her and I could tell she was not having it. I can read people pretty instantaneous and I could tell this woman did not want her daughter around my daughter why I have no idea maybe she was just having a bad day or thinks my daughter comes on too strong, which like said she is outgoing and wants to be friends with everyone. So what would you do just ignore the interaction and leave the note or tell DD it is not possible? I am on the fence because if she is not interested I don’t want to put her on the spot. I don’t ever see the child or mom when I am picking up the kids and DH drops off.
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Re: Play date question

  • aglennaglenn member
    I wouldn't read too much into one brief interaction during pickup, which tends to be a stressful time in the first place.  I'd go ahead and leave the note and if she ignores it, move on.
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  • QueSrahQueSrah member
    I wouldn't read too much into it. I'm sure I've come across to other parents as not particularly friendly when I'm just rushing to get home and move on with the rest of the evening, including some that we've ended up having perfectly fine playdates with. Leave a note and see if she's more open to either you or playdates when she has time to respond at a time more convenient to her.
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    I agree with everyone else.  I am at my worst at pickup.  I am usually stressed by stuff that happened at work, stressed by traffic, stressed by having to manage my two rambunctious children through packing up their stuff, multiple shoe changes (shoe-free school with classrooms in separate buildings), big parking lot, etc. etc.  I hope no one reads anything into my opinion of them, or my social skills, by observing my behavior at pick up.
    DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
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  • carlab44carlab44 member

    I agree with the others. No matter how good you feel you are at reading people, I wouldn't judge this woman based on this one interaction. One of my good friends is someone who I had a VERY hard time reading - for probably the first 6 months I knew her I wasn't sure if she liked me. Not because she was mean or snotty, she just had more of a closed off personality. And now we're good friends.

    So I say leave the note, try and set up a play date, and spend some time getting to know them.

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  • snicksnacksnicksnack member
    Thanks everyone I am going to leave a note when we get back from vacation :)
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