"You're showing!"... NOPE. Just bloat and fat. But thanks!

mels823 · July 2014

So... I'm almost at 13 weeks and have started telling a select few people. This is my first and I am maybe just barely overweight by a few pounds and only 5 feet tall. Well, my best friend told her mom I'm expecting (which I'm totally fine with) and today I saw her mom and she says "oh! I guess I can say congratulations because you're officially showing!". ummmm I am?? Nope, pretty sure I'm just fat. I seriously wanted to cry. Actually, after I left their house I did cry. I've always struggled with my weight. I'm not even 13 weeks and from what I read if it's my first I'm definitely now showing yet. It's just bloat. and fat. This is the second time someone has made this comment to me in the last week. The first time I just kind of brushed it off. This time it hurt though. Anyone else dealing with this? Anyone? Or I am just the lone whale of the group?? ugh.

boxerrrmama85 · July 2014

At 9 weeks when we told close family and friends, our long time neighbor (who is a 65 year old male) rubbed my "bloat" and said-- "I thought I saw a baby bump there!" People don't think before they speak or do and want to relate to you as much they can. Don't take it personally (just mutter under your breath and call them stupid!)

Maple403 · July 2014

LOL- I had my neighbor over to go swimming a few weeks ago. She knew I was pregnant, but I was like 10 weeks or so at the time. Afterwards I said I felt a little self conscious in my suit and she was like "your bump is so cute!"

I did not have a bump. It was bloat.

They mean well- I keep telling myself they are just excited. To be honest, yes, my body looks different. It's not a baby showing yet, but some people just can't tell and are really excited that you are pregnant.

mels823 · July 2014

Ok you all have made me feel so much better already!!! This board is great. Thanks!!

My poor husband must think I'm crazy for crying over this!!

jennjilljo · July 2014

I told my mom at 10w and she said "oh my God, you're showing already! You're gonna get BIG!" I replied with "nope, just fat! Thanks for pointing it out!"

postaproblem · July 2014

OMG! I'm so happy to see this. I'm getting "are u sure ur only 9 weeks"? I know I'm not showing! I'm fat people!

Mrsgclark81 · July 2014

I can no longer suck in my stomach, or wear a girdle. At this point it may be more bloat and fat than uterus or baby, but I'm going into full maternity mode with my style of dress and accepting the fact that I am showing.

I look at it this way. If there wasn't a baby in there then I wouldn't be this bloated, I could suck in my tummy, and play off a flat stomach with my girdle. So for all intensive purposes my baby bump is showing at 11 weeks [-(

dreemkin84 · July 2014

I think it's kind of a go-to saying whether you are "showing" or not. People sometimes don't know what to say. FWIW, I feel like a blobby whale at this point so you are not alone. I have always struggled with weight and feel really self conscious about it.

smcniff · July 2014

I agree with @Mrsgclark81, if I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't have this blump, therefore my pregnancy, if not my baby, is showing.

ambernicole06 · July 2014

Oh yea my mother mentioned at 4th of July I was showing (we thought I was 8 weeks at that time but have since went to the dr and I ovulated late so we are only 9weeks now so 5-6 weeks at 4 th of July and tonight a lady at my church said she could see my bump

jdzevans · July 2014

I also agree with everyone here. I am 5 feet tall and already had a small belly. Now I'm bloated and can no longer suck it in. Even though I have actually lost weight since I found out I'm pregnant, my belly is still bigger. Whatever, I'm embracing it b/c it's only going to keep getting bigger! Show it off and be proud, no matter how far along you are mama!

CogDis · July 2014

I'm a naturally plump person who carriers weight in my mid section and breasts. I exercise more often and more vigorously and eat better than most of my thin friends and I'll always be naturally more chubby. I starved myself and over exercised for years to maintain a "normal" body. Now that I've stopped with the eating disorder I've gained and maintained a hefty size for my height. Within months of gaining weight I was asked by multiple people I knew and strangers if I was pregnant. I wasn't. That was a few years ago and I still inevitably get asked if I'm pregnant (or how fat along I am) at least twice a year (mostly by strangers). I can't wait to finally say, "yes"! Lol no one has asked me since I actually became preggo!

My point is, no, you are not alone. You aren't a whale. And many people are fat and are asked f they're pregnant when they're not and live happy lives.

And, at only 5 feet there probably isn't much room in there for baby, so maybe you'll show earlier than is the average! Seeing as average height is quite a bit taller than 5 feet! I'm very short waisted and I was told to expect to show earlier by a few healthcare professionals.

krysmill · July 2014

I've had several people come up and rub my belly already. Are you serious I'm not even 10 weeks yet. The baby isn't even up in my belly. I have major bloat and I have a couple extra pounds on me before I became pregnant. It's like please stop touching my bloat!

biaher16 · July 2014

I'm a slim person but now I'm all bloat and it just looks like I'm fat but people swear they see a bumb when honestly ik its not but I just play a long with it. Last week (10 weeks)my ccoworker said I need to touch it so she put her hand in my tummy and she said aw ur tummy is so cute. I said you do know its all bloat so basically you just rubbed my gas aka my farts lol she felt embarrased lol

MichaelaMTP · July 2014

No one, except my husband and mom have commented about my stomach. I'm 10 weeks and I've never been a thin person, but I've always tried to keep my weight in check. I feel as though my stomach just looks fat, rather than pregnant. My loved ones assure me it's because I'm pregnant. I keep googling images of pregnant women at different weeks. Even at 9 weeks really thin, athletic women had a belly. It made me feel better, perhaps it might ease your mind.

We are growing humans.

sunshine525 · July 2014

Own it! Haha!

mommadozer · July 2014

I have given up on trying to suck it in. So uncomfortable. At least my husband and I know why I look fat!

But, I am running out of shirts. They are all too tight! Ugh!

Trouble81 · July 2014

Yep this is my 3rd pregnancy. I hid my first one for 6 months from everyone since I was only 17, this one (I'm now 33) I'm more than happy to show off. I'm only 10 weeks and if its only bloating, I'm still showing it off and proud of it! I called myself fat the other day and my man corrected me and said "no you're pregnant, never let me hear you say that again"

rachelesoe · July 2014

Lol girl I'm almost 12 weeks and super fat! It's not firm

krispy83 · July 2014

My mom told me I popped last week. Ummm, no, that's just bloat, thanks Mom. She never had constipation or any bloating with either of her pregnancies so she was totally clueless about that symptom. She also told me when I was 8w with my son that she could see a bump. Again, no. I know that it's just excitement over a new grandkid and being able to see him/her growing, but still.

Biscotto · July 2014

I'm tired of this debate of "bloat" vs "bump". If you weren't pregnant there would be no bloat, so for me its "showing". I'm almost 10 weeks and have bloat, but I'm dressing in full maternity style (loose everything) because of the bloat. It's showing enoguh to me to dress like this.

thegoodpotato · July 2014

I was thin the first time I got pregnant and I was showing a tiny bump by 13 weeks. It is totally possible!

I'm 10-odd weeks now and I can feel my little baseball in there (a hardness I can feel when I'm lying on my stomach). Sure, the baby is tiny, but your uterus is much bigger than that.

Lynz419 · July 2014

Lol! I obsessively google pics of bumps, too! As each week progresses! I still feel fat. And my 'bloat'... Well, it seems more like fat.

crystalw88 · July 2014

Been there! Oh wait...still there!! I've been told a few times that I'm showing as well. I'm 14w1d today. I was overweight by about 30lbs before I became pregnant and carry the weight around my middle and what seems like only in front. I've felt like I've always looked 6mo preggo.

Now I'm bloated like never before and my blumpy flump is more noticeable than ever.

mommy510 · July 2014

DH commented on my bloat the other day. He seems to like it because it looks like a bump to him.
One of my friends rubbed my blump yesterday and was like "Oh, you're so tiny!" I didn't mind because she is a good friend, but I almost wanted to tell her that the baby is not up that high yet. If someone actually tried to touch me where my uterus is, I'd have to slap them.

jaztastic · July 2014

Im fat and dont care... now that Im in the home stretch of 1st tri, Im totally going to go with "Im showing".

Cohensmommy16 · July 2014

My husband won't keep his hands off my bloat. Lol he swears I'm already showing. He's cracking me up

SNail312` · July 2014

Haha I've gotten that! I just accept it, laugh, and think, "well, he/she is actually closer to my hooha than in my belly, but whatever" lol

crystalw88 · July 2014

@Cohensmommy16 That's adorable

crystalw88 · July 2014

@SNail312 hooha..love it!

lizjennings81 · July 2014

The visualization that @smcniff posted has me going, "Pshaw, showing. Baby, not bloat. Yep."

Oem617 · July 2014

At 6 weeks, a co-worker asked if I was pregnant. It was all bloat and I was shocked he had the nerve to ask. At this point I owning it. I'm showing, bloat or bump, who cares. But this is my second. I didn't really show with DS until 16 weeks and I was also 20 lbs heavy then. People are jerks!

StephanieLBerg · July 2014

I feel for you OP! Over the past few years I've had numerous people mistake my belly fat for pregnancy. And when I tell them, no I'm not pregnant, they shy away and feel ashamed at what they have said. Now, when I tell people, they look at my stomach and raise their eye brows at me like I am lying to them. It pisses me off. I had one lady at work, who came in about a month or so ago, ask me if I was pregnant. #1) I don't know her and wasn't about to tell a random stranger our news before most of my colleagues, family, and friends even knew. And #2) it's none of her business anyway. So I told her no. Her response, "wow, I would start telling people that you are to avoid embarrassment!" I was like, "Bitch, did you just?" And I was hurt. But the fact that people are so ignorant, or have to put others down to make themselves feel better, is really quite sad and I just don't really give those people the time of day, or satisfaction anymore.

The fact that I have actually lost quite a bit of weight with this pregnancy has actually made me quite happy. It lets me know that I'll be able to take more of it, plus the baby weight, off after the baby is born. Pregnancy, I have discovered, has a way of resetting your body and your metabolism. Your hair gets smoother and shinier, your skin starts to clear up in the 2nd trimester, you get more energy in the 2nd trimester as well, and some women like me even lose weight at first rather than gain. So I would take advantage of this opportunity and don't let anyone get you down!

rachelesoe · July 2014

I'm upset because I'm almost 12 weeks and I look 4-5 months! All fat! I'm scared to embrace it because I'm for some reason I fear I'm going to lose this baby! (There are no reasons or complications) this will be my 5th child.

Cookie0875 · July 2014

Luckily, I have had some constipation and bloat, but nothing so bad as to create a bump yet. I actually lost a couple lbs last week! Had me thrilled but my DH got nervous. I cheered about it and he asked, "Are you supposed to be losing weight now? That doesn't seem normal." I told him if it were more than 3 lbs and later in the pregnancy, there'd be reason to worry. But in the beginning of the 2nd trimester, no reason to worry...plus it was just 3 lbs. I wish if I was going to be this nauseous I would lose more than that, but it's ok. I'm also ok with the weight gain because I know I'll take it all off and then some after the pregnancy. I have a long road ahead of me after this LO arrives and that's ok...baby steps!

jadempyre1 · July 2014

Yup, this is my third and I'm the heaviest I have ever been starting out which is terrifying! I have def had the most bloat this go around and I've been told by a few people that I already look pregnant (I'm almost 10 weeks!) . I don't take it personally, I tell them I'm just full of shit and laugh, but seriously I am........It sucks so bad! X_X

angsamp · July 2014

I've gained 3 lbs so far and I'm 11 weeks. I'm sure it's mainly because I gave up on my diet and started eating whatever didn't make me sick. But I look fat and bloated and when I mentioned it to DH he commented that I probably shouldn't show for another 6 or 7 weeks. At the rate I'm going, I'm afraid he's going to be sorely disappointed. Let's be honest--I've also quit exercising because I have no energy so I'm pretty sure he's worried I'm going to get huge and never lose it. I'm worried too...but not enough to get out of bed and move.

kilayla13 · July 2014

At first.... when I hit 11-12 weeks people thought I was showing and I was like.. yeah! Like I was genuinely excited. But now that I'm almost 14 weeks I know I'm just fat and bloated and I'm really sad about it.... good thing I just went along with it at first and now nobody says anything