Tantrums in the Car

Re: Tantrums in the Car

• shannm member

  July 2014

  Nicb13 said:

  
  

  LalaMama81 said:

  
  

  What are the tantrums for?

  
  

  
  This. We need some more details please.
  
  Yes, because for most of my daughter's tantrums, I am the "let them cry it out and ignore them" type of parent. I try to talk her through it but most of the time she just needs to have some time to work it out and it actually ends sooner that way. Unless she is bleeding, choking, or passed out, I'm not pulling the car over.
  
  

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• Emerald27 member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  Is she crying because she doesn't want to be in the car? Maybe having a toy that's just for in the car, and/or a snack and drink for her would help? DS has a travel Magnadoodle that he uses in the car. That can keep him occupied for at least 5 mins. We also listen to music in the car, count things we see out the windows, talk about the colors of the trees and buildings and cars we pass, etc.
  
  I guess it just depends on why she is crying. If she is upset because she just doesn't want to be in the car, then explaining to her that errands are necessary and everyone has to sit buckled in their seats is about all you can do. If she's uncomfortable in her seat or feeling carsick, maybe there are other steps you can take to alleviate her upset.

  
  

  
  

  

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• sunnyday016 member

  July 2014

  When they tantrum for no reason, ignoring them is a good way to handle it. Wasn't there just a recent study on that? 

  
  

  This is why we have cut DS's paci use everywhere else except the car. I just cannot deal with the screaming while I am driving.

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• Tink112011 member

  July 2014

  Guess I can't help, since I am totally a "let him CIO and ignore it" if DS is having tantrums for no reason.

  How verbal is your LO?  DS can clearly communicate the problem, so I know if he's having a tantrum that's worth ignoring.  Just yesterday he was very upset to be leaving the zoo.  Sorry, kid, I gave you fair warning that we were leaving shortly.  Such is life.... we have to leave the zoo. 

  Sometimes DS is upset because the buckle straps are bothering he.  He doesn't tantrum though, he just whines and communicates the problem to me.  That's when I'm willing to pull over and readjust straps.

  I ignore tantrums because ignoring it communicates to my DS that his tantrum will not get him want he wants. 

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• SunAndRain member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  If you don't let them CIO then are you giving them attention for their tantrums?  In other words, are you unintentionally rewarding LO for tantrum'ing?  You can see how this would back fire.

  Unless they are hurt or sick, or it is really my fault for not recognizing signs of hunger or fatigue sooner, I'm all about ignoring and letting DD CIO. Sometimes I give her a choice: "DO you want to cry in your room or do you want to stop crying and stay here with Mommy?" 

  As for the car, if you have ruled out car sickness or other form of physical discomfort I'd let'em cry. 

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• jgallegos0316 member

  July 2014

  I am sort of going thru this too withe my 2yo. He is getting very independant and wants to climb in the car and into hos seat himself. This is totally ok with me but a majority of the time he gets distracted and it ends up taking waaay too long so I have started counting. I tell him I am counting to ten and if he doesn't start to climb in his seat then mommy is going to do it. sometimes he does and other times I have to do it. he screams, and cries but after 5 minutes he is fine and happy again. Eventually he will get it.

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