When ever people mention that there is someone(s) on the board they don't like I wish I knew if it was me. Or if I could have a rating system.
Honestly, if I knew people generally disliked me I would not bother to visit the board any more. I try to put a lot of thought into my responses and be helpful. I think I would be really annoyed to know I was putting out effort for people who don't like me.
Short version: I don't care if people don't like me. Just let me know so I don't waste my time
Also like you!
(Not pertaining to you, but a general comment.)
One thing I dislike is hypocrisy, and while I don't call it out because it's not worth the internet war, I definitely side-eye when I notice it and have a difficult time reading that person's posts moving forward.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
@persephonerose I like you. ;;)
...and a rating system would make me obsess over who I had offended or who didn't like me. Aaah! I couldn't handle it. lol ...better to live in blissful ignorance and assume everyone loves meeee!
ETA: I guess my confession should be that I DO care, probably way more than is normal or good, whether people like me!
I have a major inferiority complex and think that people forget me the minute I'm not around. Seriously, I always feel like I need to re-introduce myself so people remember me.
And with that comes a desire to be one of the "cool kids" but I'm just not! And I am not a people pleaser by any means so I should really just get over that!
side note: @ohioloveyou - I love that you love your LB because I'm friends with her outside of TB (our daughters are the same age so we have been BMB buddies for almost 3 years now) and she is pretty freaking awesome!!
When ever people mention that there is someone(s) on the board they don't like I wish I knew if it was me. Or if I could have a rating system.
Honestly, if I knew people generally disliked me I would not bother to visit the board any more. I try to put a lot of thought into my responses and be helpful. I think I would be really annoyed to know I was putting out effort for people who don't like me.
Short version: I don't care if people don't like me. Just let me know so I don't waste my time
1. I keep getting irrationally annoyed at all the fry/tot talk. I want some SOOO badly, but there is literally no place to get them near me except for a very nasty BK. It's closing down soon b/c no one eats there. It smells like a toilet. The nest nearest anything for getting fries is in Bismarck. I won't see Bismarck for at least another 2 weeks. I'm going to cry.
2. I am considering playing sick this weekend. I probably won't, but I want to. The a/c is out in the entire hospital, and I just can't deal with that shit.
I think I finally have a confession but its not very juicy.
I can't stand people who lie. Big or small it does not matter. I have ended friendships over some of the dumbest lies. I asked a friend what they were doing for the weekend. If they wanted to get together. They said they were sick, but 45minutes later they were out at a bar. They are no longer my friend.
Why is it so hard to be honest. I promise I wont go cry in my beer if you say "I have plans".
I also hate when people ask "how are you doing" when they really don't care. Half of the time I ask, do you really want to know or should I just say I'm fine so we can move on.
Can you make some fries? I saw this cool way of making tater tots in a waffle iron if you don't have the ability to fry them. You basically just thaw some frozen tots and smash them in the waffle iron until they are crispy.
Can you make some fries? I saw this cool way of making tater tots in a waffle iron if you don't have the ability to fry them. You basically just thaw some frozen tots and smash them in the waffle iron until they are crispy.
I might need to do something like this. I think I will ask FI to pick up frozen fries AND tots on his way home. Not quite the same, but it might help me hold on to my sanity lol.
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
We did the cinnamon rolls last weekend! They turned out ok. If you like more of the kind of crunchy outside of the roll the waffle iron is good for that. But I like more of the soft gooey center so they weren't my favorite but DH said they were much easier /faster to cook that way.
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
I have a tube of croissants, think those will work in a waffle iron? Really tempted to make some cinnamon sugar croissant waffles topped with pistachio ice cream.
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
My brother did the cinnamon rolls in a waffle iron thing. It. Was. Amazing.
@persephonerose I like you. ;;)
...and a rating system would make me obsess over who I had offended or who didn't like me. Aaah! I couldn't handle it. lol ...better to live in blissful ignorance and assume everyone loves meeee!
ETA: I guess my confession should be that I DO care, probably way more than is normal or good, whether people like me!
I have a major inferiority complex and think that people forget me the minute I'm not around. Seriously, I always feel like I need to re-introduce myself so people remember me.
And with that comes a desire to be one of the "cool kids" but I'm just not! And I am not a people pleaser by any means so I should really just get over that!
side note: @ohioloveyou - I love that you love your LB because I'm friends with her outside of TB (our daughters are the same age so we have been BMB buddies for almost 3 years now) and she is pretty freaking awesome!!
Totally me! And anytime someone brings up not liking someone else, but their all secretive about it, I'm instantly playing back in my head what I've posted to see if it could be me everyone secretly hates!
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
I have a tube of croissants, think those will work in a waffle iron? Really tempted to make some cinnamon sugar croissant waffles topped with pistachio ice cream.
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
My brother did the cinnamon rolls in a waffle iron thing. It. Was. Amazing.
Seriously, cinnamon rolls in a waffle iron! Mind...blown... I put brownie mix in it once. I think I did it wrong because it just made a massive mess. When it does work though, it's fucking amazing. Extra points for ice cream!
@persephonerose I like you. ;;)
...and a rating system would make me obsess over who I had offended or who didn't like me. Aaah! I couldn't handle it. lol ...better to live in blissful ignorance and assume everyone loves meeee!
ETA: I guess my confession should be that I DO care, probably way more than is normal or good, whether people like me!
I have a major inferiority complex and think that people forget me the minute I'm not around. Seriously, I always feel like I need to re-introduce myself so people remember me.
And with that comes a desire to be one of the "cool kids" but I'm just not! And I am not a people pleaser by any means so I should really just get over that!
side note: @ohioloveyou - I love that you love your LB because I'm friends with her outside of TB (our daughters are the same age so we have been BMB buddies for almost 3 years now) and she is pretty freaking awesome!!
Totally me! And anytime someone brings up not liking someone else, but their all secretive about it, I'm instantly playing back in my head what I've posted to see if it could be me everyone secretly hates!
I always think I'm forgettable as well and feel the need to re-introduce myself. And though I like to be liked, if I'm not liked, I'm all
Can't win 'em all right?!?
Me: 34 DH: 34
TTC since Jan '13
BFP#1 - EDD 3/24/14 - d&c 7w5d
BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
I actually don't hate or seriously dislike anyone on this board..it's more that our personalities don't vibe well. I get irritated by people who talk about their opinion as if it's the only right way, especially when it starts with, "well this study shows xyz..."
And then there is the chick who I got into it with on last week's UO. Don't hate her at all, but we will never be BFFs. And that's cool, we don't all have to be besties.
All of you ladies are awesome and I like that we sometimes argue about things that we feel passionately about. Makes it more interesting.
I actually don't mind the sexy mesh panties the hospital gives you after birth. I think they are pretty damn comfy .
Because OSU's hospital in Columbus OH is largely sponsored by the Wexners (who own limited brands and Victoria's secret), the surgical undies are designed by Victoria secret at their hospital! Patients actually steal them because they are so comfortable!
That's funny: I always tell my patients I'm bringing their Victoria Secret specials when I bring in the mesh panties. (My hospital has absolutely no affiliation )
As usual, I'm late to the party. My FFFC is that I wish there was a West Coast Bump. I almost never get to be on TB before nap time (1:00) and by then I'm so late to the party that I feel like I can no longer contribute. I'd love to post more, but it's really hard to when, by the time I get here, the good threads are 6 pages long and have pretty much run their course.
@persephonerose What an great idea. DH already wants to try cooking cinnamon rolls in the waffle iron. I want to try the tater tot idea after Schroeder arrives (as I can eat way too many tater tots to be good for my GD).
I have a tube of croissants, think those will work in a waffle iron? Really tempted to make some cinnamon sugar croissant waffles topped with pistachio ice cream.
Now that looks amazing! I don't think I have the patience to remove a fried egg from a waffle iron though. If only I had some Gruyere or Swiss right now!
@pushgal84 Honestly I would skip the egg, but the rest sounds like an amazing melty grilled cheese and ham sandwich. This might be our experimental recipe this weekend!
If you search for waffle iron hacks there are a lot of recipes out there. I did see a video showing which work and which don't but I can't seem to find it now.
I have another confession. I spend so much time here, that you guys are the first people I think of to share baby stuff with. I realized that yesterday and posted something on FB because I have been MIA for a while. I also posted it here, but I figured I need to make an effort for people IRL.
I keep having moments of wishing I could have my kids with us for labor/delivery. I keep feeling sad that they won't be there. I know this is kind of crazy, and that I would be all "wtf was I thinking?" while actually in labor, but right now it bugs me.
Seven pages later... I'm all caught up. Guys, this has been the softest, least flamey, mushiest FFFC ever in the history of ever. There's just so. much. love. Also a lot of sadness, anxiety and depression. I'm sorry, bumpies.
@Emerald27 Go buy some new makeup! Some good stuff! It is nice to have good makeup even if you only wear it a couple days a week.
My DD has been driving me nuts. She will be three in October and she has morphed into this little yetti child. She has also started screaming so loud (bloody murder style) during bath time I'm afraid my neighbors are going to call the cops.
I seriously don't know why they call it terrible twos. I think it kicks in closer to 3!
Lol. In our house it kicked in at 14 months.
Yep, for us too
My girl was so sweet right up until the age of 2. She got a little attitude then, but now is a whole new ball game. I guess I should consider myself lucky I got the time I did before the yetiness set in. (
My first was terrible at two, escalated to something worse that I don't know the word for at 3. At 3 1/2 she goes back and forth - sometimes she's a doll and other days I want to turn back time to tummy time days!
My FFFC: I found out today that 17p injections will no longer be covered by my insurance and so the company that sends out a nurse to administer them would no longer be seeing me. BUT the nurse on the phone suggested that If I want I can have my dr. or a trusted nurse friend administer the rest of the medicine I have in my possession (which was none). Minutes after this call, fedex delivered a package of enough to cover me the rest of the pregnancy!!!!
Those of you worried about maternal instincts - I am not that maternal and I don't really like other peoples' kids even now that I have one. Never wanted to work with kids, be a teacher, etc. I didn't even have this strong desire to have kids but I did have a strong desire NOT to be childless for the rest of my life. I enjoy my relationship I have with my parents now that I am an adult and wanted that for myself. Now that I have DD...just wow. I mean I never could have imagined that I was missing so much before she came along. Every day I can't wait to get home from work and see her. I look forward to seeing her in the morning (although she could sleep in on the weekends, that would be ok). I want to go see her in the middle of the night (I don't) because I miss her! It's crazy and I'm just crazy about her. I keep thinking the novelty will wear off and her toddler stage is testing me, but every day I'm so utterly smitten with and delighted by her. She is amazing. So I understand the fears but hopefully this helps.
tl;dr - lack of maternal feeling doesn't dictate what kind of mother you will be. Having your own kid is so different and amazing.
FFFC: I had a one night stand with an acquaintance when I was married to my XH. It was ah-mazing and was exactly what I needed to give me the courage to leave that horrible marriage. I left right after that. No regrets and a really hot night to remember. )
I keep having moments of wishing I could have my kids with us for labor/delivery. I keep feeling sad that they won't be there. I know this is kind of crazy, and that I would be all "wtf was I thinking?" while actually in labor, but right now it bugs me.
I mentioned this to my doula (very experienced - over 100 births and years and years of experience), and she said that almost none of her STMs actually wanted their kids with them once they were in labor...even the ones who were very serious about having their kids with them beforehand.
I was like; "what about those pictures I see of siblings with their mamas during birth, like that little girl massaging her mom's back?!"
Or like these:
And she said that it is an extremely rare situation in which a mother doesn't feel "in the zone" during labor and want her kids to be in a separate and safe place so that she can focus all of her energy on the birth. She really recommends lining up childcare for both while laboring at home (if you labor during the day) and at the hospital.
Just something to consider! Who knows how you'll feel when you're actually in labor. Maybe you'll want the kiddos by your side or maybe you'll just want to share the experience with SO.
Re: ::FFFC::
You know, like french fries, tater tots, and onion rings.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
And with that comes a desire to be one of the "cool kids" but I'm just not! And I am not a people pleaser by any means so I should really just get over that!
side note: @ohioloveyou - I love that you love your LB because I'm friends with her outside of TB (our daughters are the same age so we have been BMB buddies for almost 3 years now) and she is pretty freaking awesome!!
Two more.
1. I keep getting irrationally annoyed at all the fry/tot talk. I want some SOOO badly, but there is literally no place to get them near me except for a very nasty BK. It's closing down soon b/c no one eats there. It smells like a toilet. The nest nearest anything for getting fries is in Bismarck. I won't see Bismarck for at least another 2 weeks. I'm going to cry.
2. I am considering playing sick this weekend. I probably won't, but I want to. The a/c is out in the entire hospital, and I just can't deal with that shit.
I can't stand people who lie. Big or small it does not matter. I have ended friendships over some of the dumbest lies. I asked a friend what they were doing for the weekend. If they wanted to get together. They said they were sick, but 45minutes later they were out at a bar. They are no longer my friend.
Why is it so hard to be honest. I promise I wont go cry in my beer if you say "I have plans".
I also hate when people ask "how are you doing" when they really don't care. Half of the time I ask, do you really want to know or should I just say I'm fine so we can move on.
Can you make some fries? I saw this cool way of making tater tots in a waffle iron if you don't have the ability to fry them. You basically just thaw some frozen tots and smash them in the waffle iron until they are crispy.
I might need to do something like this. I think I will ask FI to pick up frozen fries AND tots on his way home. Not quite the same, but it might help me hold on to my sanity lol.
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)
https://www.willitwaffle.com/blog/2010/02/10/waffled-croque-madame
Me: 34 DH: 34
TTC since Jan '13
BFP#1 - EDD 3/24/14 - d&c 7w5d
BFP#2 - EDD 6/14/14 - cp 4w2d
BFP#3 - EDD 10/28/14 - It's a BOY!!! - Born 10/26/14
And then there is the chick who I got into it with on last week's UO. Don't hate her at all, but we will never be BFFs. And that's cool, we don't all have to be besties.
All of you ladies are awesome and I like that we sometimes argue about things that we feel passionately about. Makes it more interesting.
If you search for waffle iron hacks there are a lot of recipes out there. I did see a video showing which work and which don't but I can't seem to find it now.
I keep having moments of wishing I could have my kids with us for labor/delivery. I keep feeling sad that they won't be there. I know this is kind of crazy, and that I would be all "wtf was I thinking?" while actually in labor, but right now it bugs me.
My first was terrible at two, escalated to something worse that I don't know the word for at 3. At 3 1/2 she goes back and forth - sometimes she's a doll and other days I want to turn back time to tummy time days!
My FFFC: I found out today that 17p injections will no longer be covered by my insurance and so the company that sends out a nurse to administer them would no longer be seeing me. BUT the nurse on the phone suggested that If I want I can have my dr. or a trusted nurse friend administer the rest of the medicine I have in my possession (which was none). Minutes after this call, fedex delivered a package of enough to cover me the rest of the pregnancy!!!!
tl;dr - lack of maternal feeling doesn't dictate what kind of mother you will be. Having your own kid is so different and amazing.
FFFC: I had a one night stand with an acquaintance when I was married to my XH. It was ah-mazing and was exactly what I needed to give me the courage to leave that horrible marriage. I left right after that. No regrets and a really hot night to remember.
I was like; "what about those pictures I see of siblings with their mamas during birth, like that little girl massaging her mom's back?!"
Or like these:
And she said that it is an extremely rare situation in which a mother doesn't feel "in the zone" during labor and want her kids to be in a separate and safe place so that she can focus all of her energy on the birth. She really recommends lining up childcare for both while laboring at home (if you labor during the day) and at the hospital.
Just something to consider! Who knows how you'll feel when you're actually in labor. Maybe you'll want the kiddos by your side or maybe you'll just want to share the experience with SO.