STM; how long until LO was away from you overnight?

Mom&nurse · July 2014

How long or how old was LO when they were gone overnight. Like went to grandma's house so you could have an overnight date or went out of town?

Mine is 10 weeks old and the other day said it would be nice and my mom offered. Buy last night I just cried thinking of it. SO and I are going on a date Saturday night. I just don't think I can do it now. Maybe go out and pick her up when done? Or I think at 2 am I'll be on my way over there anyway. She can keep stepdaughter but I'm having second thoughts. I couldn't leave her even for 1 night when she was in the NICU.

Thoughts ?

diagonalley · July 2014

10 weeks old, too. We both survived just fine and it was nice to go out with my friends who live a couple hours away.

rainbowdashh · July 2014

If you're not ready, you're not ready. With DD, I didn't have a night away from her until she was 15 months old. That's when I was ready as crazy as that sounds. I would wait until the thought of it doesn't upset you so you don't spend your time unhappy. If you want to pick her up after, pick her up!

otter1103 · July 2014

Mine will be 11 weeks but she'll be at home while I'm away for work for 2 days. I'm not thrilled about it. Maybe if it wasn't for work and wasn't halfway across the country, there'd be less angst.

But with DD1 and DS I believe they were both at least 10 weeks old by the time an overnight at grandma's was done.

tbmadeamistake · July 2014

C it was 9 months and I was gone for a week for work. She stayed with DH. We started doing sleepovers at grandma's around 18 months because we knew she'd be staying there when Charlie was born. I'd have been done earlier but mil wasn't ready and my family is too far away for it to be worth it.

Savvy122 · July 2014

H and I left Cole with a sitter pretty often when he was a baby, but we didn't leave him overnight until he was about 7 months old. I'm sure it would have happened much sooner if we had a trusted grandparent to take him (both of our moms have passed away, I don't speak to my dad, and H's dad isn't really a baby kind of guy).

Truth be told, I'd love a night off and if someone offered, I'd jump at the chance.

diagonalley · July 2014

mrsgerman said:
If our LO wasn't EBF I would have let either one take him weeks ago

Do you have a pump so he could have bottles? I also EBF but had pumped the whole week prior so he'd have enough....of course I ended up with double what he needed but just added the extra to my stash!

babyglo350 · July 2014

Not a STM but just want to say that it is absolutely a personal choice. I desperately needed sleep and so did DH. We were at each other's throats and miserable due to sheer exhaustion. I couldn't stand the idea of being away from my boy so baby and I spent the night together at my parents house and hubby got a night all to himself. My son slept in pnp in my parents room and they took excellent care of him while I slept for 8 straight hours. Baby D was about 4 weeks. We have decided

babyglo350 · July 2014

Fail**** we decided after a very positive experience to leave him two nights for our anniversary weekend. It's important to have time alone and as a couple but again you have to be comfortable with it.

Katieluc106 · July 2014

A year and a half. I clearly have separation issues.

LovetoLive614 · July 2014

Not a STM but I am going out of town for Labor Day weekend my baby will be about 8 weeks old and spending 3 nights with grandparents.

MrsKipper · July 2014

She didn't sleep away from me until she was weaned, which was 13 months. However, the first 10 months of her life we loved with my in laws so there were plenty of times where I would put her to bed and DH and I would go on a date since the ILs would already be home for the night. That was very convenient once she was on a schedule and STTN.

Overnights with Camden probably won't happen until he's weaned. We're throwing around the idea of a small anniversary trip in December but I don't know if I'm up for all that pumping.

flerlgirl · July 2014

Overnight was 13 months

ETA if we're counting the hospital, I left him overnight when he was four days old

nunzchucks · July 2014

We did it at 8 months for a wedding.

MNOpea · July 2014

Over 2, when I gave birth to my j14 baby.

Eta: words are hard

temursgirl · July 2014

When we were in the NICU at 5 weeks. We couldn't sleep there, so we left her at night for 4 nights. It was tough at first, but now I think I could leave her overnight from the psychological point of view. I'm EBF, so if I left her for a weekend that would be a lot of pumping, and I'm not sure I'd enjoy that.

Also, in the NICU I knew I could trust the nurses to give her really good care. If we had a trusted relative or friend offer I would be comfortable with it.

mtrhomegirl · July 2014

yikes....LO was overnight at my moms at 3 weeks old:)

diagonalley · July 2014

mrsgerman said:

MommyP710 said:

mrsgerman said:
If our LO wasn't EBF I would have let either one take him weeks ago
Do you have a pump so he could have bottles? I also EBF but had pumped the whole week prior so he'd have enough....of course I ended up with double what he needed but just added the extra to my stash!
I do pump once or twice a day and he switches back and forth from bottle to breast with no problems. I think my logic is that they would be taking him to give me a break and allow me to sleep but by EBF I would still have to get up and pump so it's not really worth it, I might as well have him here. If I had an event or something though I would have no problems sending him to grandmoms

I did have to get up and pump, but I didn't have to really focus so it was easy for me to go back to sleep.

chloephoebecali · July 2014

5 months for bffs Bach party and then again a month later for the wedding. I mentally prepared for it and knew there was no way around it so I was okay. I could totally leave dd2 at this point without being upset. It was definitely different with my first and probably second (don't remember).

Mom&nurse · July 2014

Well I did it. We had fun too!

katekat8721 · July 2014

Mom&nurse said:
Well I did it. We had fun too!

Yay! Good for you girl, glad you had a good time!

katekat8721 · July 2014

I don't know when we'll let them stay someplace overnight. My parents watch the girls so we can go out and about and that's good enough for us for now. Next year DH and I are talking about going on vacay and my mom wants the girls to stay with them, but it makes me itchy thinking how much I'll miss them! We'll cross that bridge later!

catsinawindow · July 2014

DS was a bit over 1 year when I left him overnight. Once for a conference, DH was still with him. Another time for an overnight date with DH (DS stayed with my sister). I would have felt ready to leave him earlier, however he was EBF, so the logistics of having enough BM saved up and needing to pump every few hours made it seem like it would be too much of a hassle.

babybean82 · July 2014

I had to leave him overnights at the NICU but that was different, now that he is home I don't plan to have him stay at MIL's for a very very long time. DH says she was really upset because SIL didn't let her babysit over night until her first was 6 months old. Frankly I don't care if it hurts her feelings cause I don't trust her with my baby and I'm not handing him over for at least a year or 2.

MissBHaven1024 · July 2014

-DD#1 was 2 months old the first time we left her overnight. We were gone for 3 days, and I was a wreck the whole time. She was 3 weeks old when we left her to go on a date.

-DD#2 was about 3 weeks for our first PP date night, and was about 7 months when we did an overnight stay (I was EBF).

-We left Isaiah for a date when he was 4 weeks old, to attend a wedding. I'm EBF again, so I don't forsee an overnight stay for a long while.

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