kissing baby on lips?

Susiepoo04 · July 2014

Just saw ILs kiss baby on lips. It surprised me (although it is not that shocking). I'd prefer they not so that LO doesn't get stuck with cold sores or get the herpes virus on his eczema. There are also papers on spreading peripdontal diaease this way. Am I being reasonable? I had asked DH to communicate my preferences before but apparently that was not done. Should I be the one to confront them? Do you let people kiss your babies on the lips?

laurn321 · July 2014

No one has really tried with our kids so I'm not sure how I'd handle it, but if it helps our dentist did tell us that we should avoid it in the beginning. My husband and I waited about a year for our son and will probably do this same for our daughter. Maybe ask your dentist for input?

momo214 · July 2014

I don't think I would want others doing it to my baby but I do it all the time. Didn't know that it was a no no.

jenb_99 · July 2014

I probably wouldn't bother saying anything unless it was happening super often, like every single day. A kiss or two here and there from a clueless but healthy relative is NBD to me. Not worth raising a stink over at any rate.

usernewname · July 2014

I personally save kissing on the lips for my DH, so I wouldn't like it if someone did it to my kids since I don't.

My mother already is like all over DS when we visit, I have a feeling she's going to be a little over the top.

haylo33 · July 2014

I do it all the time. He is just so kissable! No one else besides DH does it. I think I would care if someone did it a lot

Lild09 · July 2014

Yeah lol I guess it depends but honestly we (DH and I) are weirded out when ppl do it with their kids prob bc we didn't have it as kids lol I guess it's just a romantic thing for us so just kisses on face belly hands etc no lips lol

manna1212 · July 2014

DH does this with DS. I have told him time and time again to be careful because DS likes to spit up. DH kept telling me he wasn't worried about it. Sure enough today DH was kissing him on the lips and DS spit up all over DH's mouth! I laughed for quite awhile, DH didn't find it too funny!

LeeLee86 · July 2014

I've asked everyone not to until she's older and they have respected it. I'm the only one that does it anyway not even DH. I grew up with it tho so it's not weird to me and she will be kissed once she gets older I'm sure. We are just a very lovable comfortable cuddly family I guess...

QOTR · July 2014

I kiss him all over! DH's family isn't very kissy, so i don't think I have to worry about too many other folks trying it.

cnbean · July 2014

I'm fine with family kissing him. Other people would bug me. I had no idea that its some sort of no-no. Honestly it seems a bit paranoid to me. Now if you knew that someone had some sort of disease that would be different.

ho11yday · July 2014

I don't want my kid getting cavities so just say no to kissing.

In actuality, I don't care if dh, I, or ds1 kisses ds2 on the lips. I just rather have the grandparents not.

QOTR · July 2014

cnbean said:
I had no idea that its some sort of no-no.

I had never heard this either. It's good to know!

usernewname · July 2014

Its not that its a no no. JuSt not a preference for some. My only reason is that kissing on the lips is or your so. Doesn't make make us un affectionate or non cuddly or less of a family. Just our preference. There is a lot of love in this house and it's just our style. And i would want relatives friends and strangers to respect that.

You want to kiss your kid in the lips I won't judge or side eye you.

spinsoffresonance · July 2014

I don't kiss my kids on the lips either, only DH. No one in my family ever did so it seems strange to me, but that's the way I grew up. DH kisses his mom on the lips. I haven't noticed either of them do it to the baby though. It would definitely bother me if anyone outside family tried to. OP you said you're worried about herpes, do they actually have it? In that case I would definitely tell them not to kiss the baby.

spinsoffresonance · July 2014

Oh and DD1 just started kissing me on the lips!

Susiepoo04 · July 2014

@lica001‌ yeah they have history of cold sores but didn't look currently active.

Update: DH helped explain to his parents preference for no kissing on lips and they were cool with it! Issue resolved

Thnx for all the input! Wasn't sure if I was just being a crazy FTM!

giggler25 · July 2014

ho11yday said:
I don't want my kid getting cavities so just say no to kissing.

How does kissing babies on lips cause cavities?

haylo33 · July 2014

giggler25 said:

ho11yday said:
I don't want my kid getting cavities so just say no to kissing.
How does kissing babies on lips cause cavities?

Especially since they don't have teeth :P

pistolpackinmomma · July 2014

giggler25 said:

ho11yday said:
I don't want my kid getting cavities so just say no to kissing.
How does kissing babies on lips cause cavities?

The only thing I can think of is she's going on the same principal as don't let your kids eat after you (which I don't follow) because supposedly if you have cavities then there is a bacteria in your mouth and if they eat after you then they will have that bacteria and get cavities too. Except I grew up eating after my parents (both of which have cavities) and currently eat after and kiss DH who has a crap ton of cavities. I'm cavity free. I know it's purely anecdotal but I just have a hard time buying into it.

giggler25 · July 2014

@pistolpackinmomma, what do you mean eat after? Like share food? I feel like a moron reading this thread I'm so out if it...

pistolpackinmomma · July 2014

@giggler25‌ yes. Like sharing utensils, cups, you take a bite then give them a bite. Basically any way that your saliva can be mixed with theirs. Let me see if I can find the article again.

pistolpackinmomma · July 2014

@giggler25‌ https://www.nbcnews.com/id/35989527/ns/health-oral_health/t/moms-kiss-can-spread-cavities-baby/

Again I don't know how much I really buy into it though.

momthatlifts · July 2014

I don't remember if my parents ever kissed us on the lips, so probably not. But I kiss dd on the lips all the time and so does dh. I don't pay attention that much to my mil or my family doing it unless they are over doing it

ho11yday · July 2014

pistolpackinmomma said:

giggler25 said:

ho11yday said:
I don't want my kid getting cavities so just say no to kissing.
How does kissing babies on lips cause cavities?
The only thing I can think of is she's going on the same principal as don't let your kids eat after you (which I don't follow) because supposedly if you have cavities then there is a bacteria in your mouth and if they eat after you then they will have that bacteria and get cavities too.

^This.

I'm incredulous about it (and dont know enough about it) but some studies do suggest familial transmission of some oral bacteria.

Doesn't mean that my kids don't drink from my glass or eat from my fork, as my comment was more tongue in cheek than anything.

But bacteria does contribute to the creation of cavities so even without teeth, if you have the bacteria responsible for decay colonizing your mouth then when you do get teeth you will have some cards stacked against you. Add weakened enamel plus carbs then boom! Cavities!

bridetobe9132013 · July 2014

Ive been kissing my baby on the lips, cheeks, legs, feet. I cant get enough of her! I didnt know lips was bad unless Im sick.

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