Building the Nursery

bridgetputthoff · July 2014

When I lost my daughter last year, we knew she was unlikely to make it. She had Hydrops and Turners Syndrome. We never bought a crib or car seat, because we were afraid to return them.

Just shy of 25 weeks with my rainbow, Ethan, and we're assembling the nursery. We've got the crib built, the mattress in place. We've got the changing table and pad and the room painted and it looks like a nursery when you walk in. Originally I loved it. Ethan is very healthy, I've had so many tests done, I know he's got next to no risk. I'm healthier now than I was with my daughter (although my health was not a risk factor for her either!). The doctors are all telling me he's perfect. So I thought putting the nursery together was a great idea. A set up crib can't really be returned, after all.

But now that it's coming together it's starting to stress me out. He's so strong and I feel him kicking all the time, and I'm not worried about his health, but I can't help but worry that something will happen and that we jumped the gun. I keep imagining how much it will hurt to sit in his nursery and know he won't get to use it.

So here's a question. Anyone gone through this? Did you have similar anxiety, or is it just a gem unique to me? I don't think we're building the nursery 'too early' according to most standards. I think I'm just a worry wart.

toomanycats1 · July 2014

I know this feeling! In our case, we have to finish our basement in order to move our DS into another room. We were reluctant to start working on things, because of our history of losses. We didn't want to "tempt fate".

Now that I'm 28 weeks though, the realization has set in that we are running out of time, and should have really started sooner! It's better to be prepared :P

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