Worried about someone else watching baby

Re: Worried about someone else watching baby

• haylo33 member

  July 2014

  I feel the exact same way. Except the lady watching my son isn't family. I worry she will let him CIO or that he will be in a pack in play in the other room all day. I'm so hoping my DH gets a better paying job so I can go part time.

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• Kirstenm9 member

  July 2014

  No their not licensed. They are kinda like family. They do write out a report. They let you know what time they ate how much they ate when they took a nap and how long they napped. So I will have that.

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• usernewname member

  July 2014

  Kimbus22 said:

  It's normal to be worried.  The child won't be cared for the same way.  That's just a fact.  Because no one else is you. You can be solely focused on your baby all day long.  Other people can't be, especially if they are watching other kids too. 
  
  Check in during the day, be sure you're clear on things like how they deal with naps/feedings etc.
  
  Honestly you may be better off in a daycare situation where you get a written report each day and can check in on video cameras and they are licensed by the state.  There's a lot more grey area with babysitters.  It sounds like these women are not licensed?
  

  This. But cameras are such an awful thing. Talk about feeling untrusted and an invasion of privacy. I don't agree with them but that's me.

  
  

  Just breathe. Find a provider you trust and let them do their thing. Its good for LO to get different styles of love, affection, expectation, soothing etc. Another figure in their life to learn from.

  
  

  If you need cameras or a daily report (or hourly), then that daycare if not for you.

  
  

  However, I recommend a licensed care like kimbus said. They have rules to follow and are closely monitored. In Canada you can check up on their inspections and see how they needed to improve. If you can do this in the US, I would rec the research. You will see things that are deal breakers for you.

  
  

  If you become that uptight mom who is nervous about everything and constantly questions the provider, you won't develop a good relationship with you. And that will rub off on LO.

  
  

  I'm sorry if I'm being too straight, but I just want you to know it will be okay and its normal to have feelings. I work with children and I have feelings already for when my kid goes to school. I've even said he will be in my class, which DH and I know is not a good idea. But we shall see.

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• usernewname member

  July 2014

  Thats just how I see it. Its very uncommon to find a day care with them here in Canuck land, so its a concept we aren't too familiar with

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• operaghost member

  July 2014

  Yep. I never in a gazillion years thought I would want to be a SAHM. I wasn't even trying to get pregnant, it just happened. But now I am completely anguished by the thought of leaving DD with someone else. I have two weeks of ML left and going back to work will kill me. My MIL will be watching her part-time and I feel like she's not going to follow what I tell her to do because she thinks she knows best.

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