self esteem problems. :(

Re: self esteem problems. :(

• tbarker14 member

  July 2014

  Perhaps it would help if you talk out your feelings with your husband?. Maybe find someone to talk about your insecurities. It might help.
  I know there was a period where I felt that I wasn't as attractive to my DH, we sat down and I expressed my feelings. Turns out my DH just didnt want me to be hurt or uncomfortable anymore than I was (due to Sciatica). A solution easily fixed by talking out our concerns and feelings.
  Perhaps try talking it out, how else is he going to know what you are feeling like if you don't share it with him.

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• allurah2014 member

  July 2014

  Our bodies are going through so much physical change, in addition to our hormones being out of whack. It is perfectly normal to have these feelings as long as they are not persistent and lasting more than a day or so. I've had those days even though my husband has remained equally pawsy and lustful throughout the last 7 months as he was prior to me getting pregnant. It is important to talk to him, but ultimately it will be up to you to challenge these thoughts and do something that makes you feel pretty. I try to keep things in perspective, and feeling my nugget kick and move makes me feel more beautiful than having washboard abs or the perfect ass ever could.
  When it gets bad do something that makes you feel pretty whether it be buying a new dress or doing your hair and make up. Ultimately, if you find this to start creating issues for your marriage or pregnancy talk to your doctor.
  
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• Baby-Boo member

  July 2014

  Any time i was having feelings of being unattractive/gross/huge and fat I voiced it. My hubby always assured me that I was beautiful and my feelings were just part of the pregnancy. I also made it a point to do things for myself (pedicure, hair cut, makeover) that helped boost me up. I think doing both helps you bear the crazy emotions that come with pregnancy.

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• gardensparrow member

  July 2014

  I'm sorry you're feeling so down about yourself. And I'm sure all the pregnancy hormones you've got going on right now aren't making this situation any easier. But maybe if you can cling to the fact that it's just how you're "feeling" and not the reality of how your husband truly sees you. Easier said than done I know, but our feelings can definitely be all over the place during pregnancy. And maybe it would help you if you just took some time for yourself. Get a manicure, go out somewhere fun, etc. Or even try and see if you can find some more 1 on 1 time with your hubby. Maybe just being able to have a date night or do something together will make you feel more loved and secure. But you're definitely not the only one to feel like this so hang in there!

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• MrsLaLaBug member

  July 2014

  Have you ever suffered with depression in the past? I would def mention these feelings to your doctor. They may be able to help you get some counseling or medication that could be beneficial if you need it.

                                                                                    
  

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