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mae0111 · July 2014

I'd like your opinion to see if you think I'm being weird/overprotective...

Our nanny has been with us for almost 2 years. She's a little quirky (who isn't), but for the most part, awesome. The kids love her. She treats them wonderfully and clearly loves them.

Until recently, her DH was living in another country due to an immigration issue. He came back a couple of months ago, but we haven't met him yet.

She's babysitting for us late-ish tonight, so that we can go to an after-work appointment and a quick dinner. She's asked if he can come over and play a board game with DD1. I know it's a long day for her (12+ hours today), and I want to be flexible, but I'm extremely concerned because I haven't met him. There's no reason I shouldn't trust him, but no reason I should, you know?

So what would you do?

MommyAtty · July 2014

That's a tough one. But if you think she generally has good judgment, I would say yes. Not to her leaving them there alone, of course, but a board game with her husband while she's there? I would allow it.

MickeyM04 · July 2014

I would want to meet him I think. Our nanny, when we had her, was married, and he came over sometimes if he had the day off or something, so DS knew him pretty well and actually really liked him. But I met him before she even started with us; I don't think I would have been OK with him being at our house without us being present never having met him. I mean it's her husband yes, but to me, it's a complete stranger. But I think it probably depends if you trust her judgment or not. My personal preference would be to meet him first.

BabyHope2013 · July 2014

Same here. I would want to meet him first. I would just feel awkward overall having even a stranger in my house. To actually get to know him and feel comfortable, I would invite her and him to stay for dinner one night. I would want to get a decent vibe from him first before I would feel comfortable having him--or anyone else around my child.

dashofreality · July 2014

Eh, I'll be the odd one out. I would probably allow it since it is a reasonable request, and honestly I am horrible at saying no to those kind of things. To me, what is 1 meeting really going to accomplish?

If you don't trust your nanny enough, or have gotten an odd vibe based on something she has told you then that would be a different story. I realize that I am more trusting then most though.

radiohd18 · July 2014

I would want to meet him. You've hired your nanny to watch the kids, not her husband. I would make sure I was there to meet the dude prior to allowing him in my house and watching my kids.

SunAndRain · July 2014

catbenatar said:

Eh, unless you have a very close, personal relationship with your nanny and do family functions together and stuff like that, I'd say no. I don't invite employee's families over. I once fired a cat sitter for bringing her boyfriend with her. It was weird.

FWIW, I always tell our pet sitters that they may bring ONE friend with them if they want to hang out and watch movies. But I tell them clearly, no more then one as any more than that and things tend to turn in to a party and there will be no party throwing in my house. I figure if it makes them hang out longer then our pets get that much more company. Win-win.

I think it would be tough to say no to your nanny but I'm kind of thinking that saying no is the right thing to do.

rodiesmum · July 2014

Im sorry. Wouldnt be comfortable w a stranger in my house with my kids. No.

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