Cousin stole my Baby's name.....big deal?

WhitMonster23 · July 2014

Ok.....so Im not sure if Im making a big deal about this because of horomones or not but.....my cousin and I are both pregnant, I am at 29 weeks and she is giving birth any min. My DH and I had Peyton picked out for a girls name from the beginning and announced it on facebook when we got the thumbs up on having a girl. Well, my cousin is having a girl as well announcing two different names on facebook (kept changing it) and then finally saying they were gong to wait to pick a name till she was born. So I find out TODAY that they are naming her Payton. Needless to say I was furious! Been bawling my eyes out wondering why they would do such a thing, its not like a common name or anything!? So my question is....am I hormonal and over reacting or not? Any opinions will be helpful and ease my nerves.

persephonerose · July 2014

Who cares if they use the name. You can still use it. Your child will not be the only Peyton in the world.

AmandaJean12 · July 2014

I think it's normal to feel like your name should be off limits. But I wouldn't let a cousin get me too worked up. (I'm also not super close to my cousins) I'd just stick with my planned name.

imagine7696030614 · July 2014

Yeah, that would annoy the hell out of me. Especially since I have SUCH a hard time committing to a name. If I had one picked out early and had announced it, I'd be pretty pissed if a family member used it as well. But hey, you can still use it. Do you see the cousin often?

cmac6186 · July 2014

That's really annoying esp since you posted it and all. Of course this is coming from the girl whose cousin announced he secretly got engaged and was getting married the week before me...right after DH and I went through the trouble of asking the family if our date was good for most. In a big Italian American family that's a big nono. Now same cousin's wife is due maybe 3 weeks before me! Argh. I feel your pain.

Sorry for the huge runon sentence there!!

miriamm08 · July 2014

I definitely understand where your coming from on this, I would be upset too, but if I were you I would still use the name. Especially since you already announced that was the name you planned on using.

WhitMonster23 · July 2014

No, we dont see each other hardly at all. And they've called her Shay practically the whole time. They went through Shaylin and Kaylin for names befor sticking with Payton Rashay....announcing it as shes in labor. Just seems like a straight up steal. We're sticking with ours I was jus super surprised by my reaction of anger and disrespect. Thanks for all the comments' you are all right. :-)

bumpuser10309732 · July 2014

Peyton is pretty popular around here. None-the-less I'd be pretty pissed off with my cousin but I would still use the name. Some of them I never see anyway! So, oh well! I wouldn't get so worked up about it. It's not worth the energy :-)

MrMrsandBaby · July 2014

You can't steal a name. It is annoying because they likely knew you were using it but it isn't the end of the world. Use it and love it

lrobi13 · July 2014

It sucks but it happens all the time. How often would your two kids be around each other? Name your kid what you want to new your kid.

It would have been so much better if she hadnt but until the ink is dry on the birth certificate i wouldn't sweat it. She seems to be indecisive.

i was lucky to have a decent cousin. mom made it clear that she wanted me to name my daughter Lily ( I was single and no babies on the horizon) and my cousin really liked the name and she was actually pregnant with a girl. I gave her my blessing to my mom's dismay.

ladybug0088 · July 2014

That really sucks, especially since you had already announced your name. My cousin is pregnant right now too and she is ahead of me by a few weeks. We both picked different names, but I see her often and if we had chosen the same name I'd probably be a little bummed too. Your feelings are totally normal. It's a good thing you won't see each other too often.

Emerald27 · July 2014

SIL and I were pregnant at the same time with our sons (born 5 months apart). DH told his brother our name choice and he was like; "that's a great name. I like it. Our boy is due first so we're taking it."

DH was crushed and angry, but we used the second name on our list (actually my first choice!), and we've since moved on from it.

It's hard when names are purposefully used by someone close, making it difficult to use them as well. It would have been so confusing for the grandparents to have two grandsons with the same name and the same age!!

If you don't see your cousin too often, use the name! Doesn't matter that they'll have the same one.

DaniGrace89 · July 2014

I'd flip a shit.

Not okay!

DH told me the day after finding out that we are having a girl that he "gave" his brother our top 3 boy names. This is their last child. And this is our first child. Needless to say I was very upset.

MrsSarahRenee · July 2014

I would be pissed too! Sorry

but I would rant and rave and then move on. Your Peyton will be lovely and if you don't see each other much, it probably won't even really matter!

TheOtherJacobsons · July 2014

I'd certainly tell her off at some point and use the name anyway.

Maggie6424 · July 2014

I'd be a little irritated too, but hormones are probably intensifying it for you. If you're not close to this woman and won't be around them a lot, then don't let it bother you.

Sockgnome78 · July 2014

I have to say growing up. My aunt used the same name my mom had planned. There is a couple years between. It would be frustrating, but plan on still using it.

vrj0522 · July 2014

I would be so angry if that happened to me! I would suggest maybe saying something to her like, "hey our girls will have the same name!" just so that she is aware that you are still planning on using the name. Honestly, I don't think you should back away from the name simply because she is using it.

golfingdarwinfish · July 2014

I am obviously in the minority here, but naming a child is a huge decision, and I think it's odd for people to "claim" a name. If a family member (especially a distant one in this case) or friend also loves the name they shouldn't be precluded from using it just because someone else used it or will be using it. There shouldn't be a name penalty to having children earlier or later than others, or to revealing a name early or late. If someone loves a name and can't imagine their child with any other name, they should use the name. Also, as PP noted, the name in question is now a bit popular.

In this situation I may make a sarcastic comment about introducing them to the name, but I would still name my daughter Peyton.

MrsTinMKE · July 2014

I agree with others I would be pissed but I would still use it since you don't see each other. I have a second cousin who I found out named her little girl the same thing I want to name ours (if we have a girl) I was annoyed, but they will probably NEVER see each other. I know I'll here it from other family members but don't care. I am the same way though, when you decide on something like that its a big deal, hard to pick a name you love, especially at this point and don't want to worry about having to change it.

cshade07 · July 2014

Yep totally agree with the others here.. I'd be pissed, but I would certainly still use the name!

Spence3208 · July 2014

I would be very upset but I am also really close with my cousins and see them all the time. I actually have three other cousins all due within 2 months. Thankfully I am due first so wouldn't have to worry but I would be very upset.

Disneygeek77 · July 2014

I honestly don't think it would upset me. No one can claim a name and you can't call dibs on them either. She has just as much right to name her baby what she wants as you do.

I would just shrug it off and name my baby Peyton too. However, if you wanted to get under her skin, I would act happy about it. Say " Oh how exciting, too Peyton's in one family, your's can be big Peyton and mine can be little Peyton."

JamieBui · July 2014

You have every right to be pissed! I would be. You already announced that name and then for her to turn Round and use it just because her baby's coming first is not fair to you. But if your in love with that name then I would still use it. And even mention to her that your keeping the name for your own child and she might rethink your children having the same name. But don't give it up if that's the name you love, I wouldn't.

cozybluebear · July 2014

I think I'd be mad too. It's a cousin though and if it's anything goes like my family, you see cousins on holidays, birthdays, weddings, and other special occasions so it's not too bad.

trisharenee0316 · July 2014

I can understand being upset. I've gotten upset for less with all these pregnancy hormones!

But like everyone else said, use it and enjoy it. Honestly, people who know both of you might think it's weird she's using that name since you've been saying for months that you are also naming your daughter Peyton. But don't let her steal the fun out of a name that you and your H have agreed on and love.

white714 · July 2014

I would be pissed!

MrsL2B · July 2014

I'd be mad, but if I'd already settled on it, I'd still use the name.

Waterlilly11 · July 2014

You have every right to be angry. If you announced it and they were aware- it's flat out rude. But if you and DH love the name, don't let it stop you from using the name.

megaddie · July 2014

That's pretty crappy of her, but use it anyways. If you love the name, then don't let it get to you.

I had a similar issue with my SIL, who I genuinely believe forgot that I had mentioned Finn was a top choice for me. She actually isn't pregnant yet but declared happily to me that that was the name she came up with, too! Weeeee. At any rate, we made Finn our middle name for other reasons.

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