Life: need to vent

jobiann · July 2014

So I'm going to vent a bit...but with the disclaimer that really my life is not bad and I know it. I have close friends dealing with cancer and some with fertility problems....but I still just want to vent a bit because this much bad stuff doesn't usually happen this much around me. Maybe grab a few cyber hugs if anyone offers.

So Friday afternoon my soon to be 70-year old mother fell and hurt her foot. She however, would not let me take her to the doctor despite my best efforts. Early that evening she calls me and asks if I can come and get her and take her to the ER. Great...we find out she not only has a sprained foot but also a fracture in her foot. She has to wear a huge boot and cannot put any weight on it as of now. She goes into see the orthopedic surgeon tomorrow. My Mom lives alone and my H and I are the only family who live in town (the rest live just 30 minutes away and are usually in town every day for work...so it could be worse). But I'm feeling such guilt being at her house as much as possible leaving J and MH at home on their own. I am hoping after her appointment we'll know more about how long, if she'll need surgery, etc. Until then, I'm checking on her before work, on my lunch and after work every day. Plus making easy meals for her that she can take out of the fridge/freezer and warm up on her own. I hate that she lives on her own.

Then one of my sisters who just got married last October is facing certain messy divorce. They have been trying to work on their marriage basically since they got married and nothing is working. It's going to be nasty, I'm just thankful they have no kids involved. I feel so bad for her, she always just wanted to be loved...and now she has to deal with all of this. And he is a creep, he plays huge emotional mind games with her which of course only make the situation worse.

Another sister's husband lost his job last week and they are struggling financially.

And my oldest sister is dealing with her oldest daughter's (she's only 19) newborn and 2 year old. And all the drama my niece brings to the table. Plus my sister also has an adopted son who has behavioral issues thanks to his bio mother who found it necessary to do drugs while pregnant.

When it rains it pours. It reminds me to be extra thankful to have a wonderful husband, a wonderful stable job, a wonderful healthy son and no health issues.

Okay, thanks for letting me vent. I've never been pulled emotionally in this many directions. I hope I can be there for everyone when they need it.

spainy17 · July 2014

Ugh, I'm sorry. It really can feel l ike it all happens as once sometimes. Hope it all sorts itself out.

ReeceFamily · July 2014

Sounds like there is a ton of drama and neediness swirling around you

- so glad that your own family life is a stable happy place for you, that will help a lot. Really sad about your sister's divorce.

OhBaby+2013 · July 2014

Hugs mama! Sometimes things just suck all around us.

DCKate · July 2014

That's what we are here for! Vent away and hope you're feeling better!

jobiann · July 2014

chilibeansm0m said:

Hugs. We're dealing with my stubborn grandma still. She ripped her splint off her wrist. Yeah big hugs to you.

Oh no...that's not good. The get more stubborn the older they get. I was worried my Mom would not behave and stay off her foot, but she is trying to avoid having surgery so she is being good.

As far as my sister who is divorcing. It's a difficult situation because we all told her not to marry him. None of us like him and we knew she was only marrying because she wanted desperately to be married. We couldn't convince her...and now we have to help her. But we will, we are family and we love her. It just sucks he is such a creep!

Thanks ladies for hearing me out. I know it will get better. Things could be MUCH worse.

Mom2anAngel2 · July 2014

((HUgS)). That is a lot if drama to deal with at once. I hope everything works out for the best, whatever that may be.

ReeceFamily · July 2014

jobiann said:

chilibeansm0m said:

Hugs. We're dealing with my stubborn grandma still. She ripped her splint off her wrist. Yeah big hugs to you.

Oh no...that's not good. The get more stubborn the older they get. I was worried my Mom would not behave and stay off her foot, but she is trying to avoid having surgery so she is being good.

As far as my sister who is divorcing. It's a difficult situation because we all told her not to marry him. None of us like him and we knew she was only marrying because she wanted desperately to be married. We couldn't convince her...and now we have to help her. But we will, we are family and we love her. It just sucks he is such a creep!

Thanks ladies for hearing me out. I know it will get better. Things could be MUCH worse.

One of my good friends is in one of these marriages. EVERYONE in her life told her not to marry him, but she did (because she doesn't realize how wonderful she is and how much more she deserves). Two kids later, he's on his 3rd DUI, was recently under house arrest, regular squanders their money gambling, and got in a drunken bike accident that lead to swelling of his brain and other health problems. She's hanging in there, god knows why.

jobiann · July 2014

ReeceFamily said:

jobiann said:

chilibeansm0m said:

Hugs. We're dealing with my stubborn grandma still. She ripped her splint off her wrist. Yeah big hugs to you.

Oh no...that's not good. The get more stubborn the older they get. I was worried my Mom would not behave and stay off her foot, but she is trying to avoid having surgery so she is being good.

As far as my sister who is divorcing. It's a difficult situation because we all told her not to marry him. None of us like him and we knew she was only marrying because she wanted desperately to be married. We couldn't convince her...and now we have to help her. But we will, we are family and we love her. It just sucks he is such a creep!

Thanks ladies for hearing me out. I know it will get better. Things could be MUCH worse.

One of my good friends is in one of these marriages. EVERYONE in her life told her not to marry him, but she did (because she doesn't realize how wonderful she is and how much more she deserves). Two kids later, he's on his 3rd DUI, was recently under house arrest, regular squanders their money gambling, and got in a drunken bike accident that lead to swelling of his brain and other health problems. She's hanging in there, god knows why.

It's so sad. I'm angry at her but I am more sad for her. She just wanted to love someone and have someone love her. She constantly compares herself to our other sister who is really close in age to her and she was married two years ago to a wonderful guy. So there is a lot of jealously driving it too. I just hate the whole thing.

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