New OB

arschm02 · July 2014

I just found out my OB got killed in an accident this weekend. My heart hurts for his family but selfishly I'm also saddened to have to find a new OB. My doc and I just met a week ago today to discuss my last 2 losses and a future plan for a next pregnancy. We had a plan in place that we both felt comfortable with. He has been by my side during my most joyous times in my life and my hardest times of my life. I honestly don't even know where to go from here.

ImJessesGirl · July 2014

Oh my goodness, that is so awful. Not only is his family grieving, but I am quite sure all of his patients feel the way you are feeling. That is so very hard!!!

jjbmstinco · July 2014

How sad!

I am sorry that you have to go through that.

meredithcarole · July 2014

I think it's normal to have a feeling of abandonment. It is a very important relationship in your life, you trusted your doctor, and you felt comfortable with the direction you were going in. I am sure you are sorry for the loss his family endured, but it is a loss for you as well. I am sorry you have to go through the process of establishing trust with a new practitioner. Don't beat yourself up too badly for thinking of how this impacts you, it doesn't make you a bad person.

shandorfml2 · July 2014

wow, that is horrible! Big hugs!

lyndz333 · July 2014

Oh my, how awful and terribly sad for everyone involved.

His family might like to hear what an impact he had on your life. It might be comforting to know that his patients will miss him dearly as well.

mpiemont · July 2014

That is so sad. I'm sorry for your OB's family for their loss. And for you- it can be hard to form that kind of relationship. I hope you can find another dr that you feel comfortable with.

bmblebea · July 2014

That's terrible! I agree with @lyndz333‌ that letting his family know how much you valued him would probably be nice for them to hear. Sending prayers to his family and to you. I hope you can find another dr that you feel comfortable with.

arschm02 · July 2014

@lyndz333‌, I was thinking about that. What's the best way to do that? A card?

lyndz333 · July 2014

Absolutely! I'm sure someone at his office will know how to get it to his family. If I was them, a heartfelt, personal card would mean more to me than any flower arrangement could. It's an especially nice thing for you to do since you are also grieving his loss.

MrsKush1014 · July 2014

I'm so sorry! I agree with @lyndz333‌, a heartfelt card to the family would mean so much to them.

rslh10 · July 2014

Oh I'm so sorry for his family. That's just awful. I hope you do reach out to them. They would love to know how moved you were to know him and have him part of your life.

LuvLoveXo · July 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree with PPs & think that card for his family with a message from the heart would be nice. Doctors devote so much time to their profession. Their families love to hear personal experiences from their patients.

My advice would be to research other doctors & bring his plan to them. ((Hugs))

alm288 · July 2014

Oh how horrible! I think a card is a really thoughtful gesture. I'm a big believer in researching drs. Maybe you can ask for a recommendation from where this dr was? ((Hugs))

arschm02 · July 2014

I'm thinking I'll probably see the doctor I saw when my OB was on vacation during my last miscarriage. He was very proactive when I started bleeding and I really liked that. Our personalities also meshed well. I'm just super bummed that I even need to make this decision.

BackstreetPixie · July 2014

::Hugs:: how awful for everyone he knew. Family and patients. =( Hope you are able to find someone else you like. Was there anyone in the same office as him that you may be able to switch to? That way it is easy to transfer records?

BackstreetPixie · July 2014

(Okay I'm guiltiy of not reading all the comments first. I also think a card would be nice)

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