Welcome to TTC after 35, the open and supportive forum for all trying to conceive (TTC) after the age of 35. You will find this board to be a very diverse group of individuals at varying stages of trying to conceive. We all know that TTC at this age could prove to be difficult no matter what your situation is. Thus, we are all here to give and receive support during our journey.
As you make your way onto this board, you will find those who have children and are trying to expand their family as well as those who are trying to conceive their first. We accept all relationship types here, so you’ll see married, partnered, engaged, and single individuals. A number of you are just beginning TTC and may also be considering seeking medical advice/testing, while others have sought treatment now for a long period of time. Consequently, you'll discover those who are trying to conceive naturally, some with IUI, some with IVF and some with donors. As you can see, we are just one big trying to conceive melting pot!
No matter what journey you are on, we always strive to be supportive, respectful, and compassionate while connecting with one another. We are never intentionally rude, snarky, or immature with our fellow bumpies.
Here are a few etiquette pointers we'd like to share
Drive By BFP's - Let's face it nobody likes a drive by. If you've never (or even only a few times) posted on our board, we politely ask that you do not come here to simply post your success story in getting a BFP. Those announcements are happily reserved for our board members who we've supported and cheered on since they made their introduction on this board. If you’d like to join a board we would suggest making your introduction on the board Pregnant after 35.
New and Never Posted on TTC After 35? If you are new to our board please introduce yourself so we can get to know you and support you in your journey. In your initial posting, we'd appreciate it if you could give a warning in your subject line if you will be mentioning another child(ren) or a loss(es) in your post. These are sensitive topics for some of us who are struggling, and a little warning goes a long way. Please be sure to post your intro message on your own new discussion and not at the bottom of this post. To do so, simply click the "new discussion" button located at the top next to this post's title.
For Members With Children - You should never feel like you have to hide them for fear of upsetting someone else on the board. Just be sensitive to everyone, including those struggling to conceive their first.
Member Postings about a BFP and/or Loss– These types of posts should generally come with a warning. If you forget, it is not the end of the world and we’ll roll with it. However, you may receive a gentle reminder to do so from someone that posts in your discussion thread.
Member Weekly Check-Ins
We have two weekly check-ins on this board. On Wednesday there is a general board check-in and on Thursday there is a special check-in for those over 40. We encourage everyone to participate in the check-ins as it is a great way for us all to stay connected in one post. Note: If you are new, please do an intro post before posting in a weekly check-in.
Everyone soon realizes that we speak in our own language, using acronyms. This can be confusing; however, here are a few common ones for those new to the board...
2WW - Two Week Wait
AF - Aunt Flo (menstruation)
AMA - Advanced Maternal Age
BD - Big Deed (baby making sex), also Baby Dance
BCPS - Birth Control Pills
BETA - another term for HCG, blood pregnancy testing
BF or BF’ing - Breastfeeding
BFN - Big Fat Negative (pregnancy test result)
BFP - Big Fat Positive (pregnancy test result)
CD - Cycle Day
CM - Cervical Mucus
D&C - Dilation and Curettage
DD - Dear/Darling Daughter
DE - Donor Eggs or Donor Embryos
DH - Dear/Darling Husband
DOR – Diminished Ovarian Reserve
DPO - Days Past Ovulation
DS - Dear/Darling Son
EWCM - Egg White Cervical Mucus
HCG - Hormone Detected by Pregnancy Tests. Human Chorionic Gonadotropin.
HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
IRL - In Real Life
IUI - Intra-Uterine Insemination
IVF - In Vitro Fertilization
FET - Frozen Embryo Transfer
FMU - First Morning Urine
FRER - First Response Early Response
FX - Fingers Crossed
GL - Good Luck
IF - Infertility
LMP - Last Menstrual Period
LO - Little One
MC - Miscarriage
NTNP - Not Trying, Not Preventing
O - Ovulation
OPK - Ovulation Predictor Kit
PG - Pregnant, or pregnancy
POAS - Pee on a Stick (taking a home pregnancy test)
PP - Previous Poster
RE - Reproductive Endocrinologist
RPL - Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
T&Ps - Thoughts and Prayers
TTC - Trying To Conceive
US or U/S - Ultrasound
For a comprehensive list of acronyms, please visit the Resolve website glossary.
**** siggy warning - bfp & loss **** ---- All Welcome ---
Me: 44 - Hashimoto's (under control), DH: 38 - (minor issues)
IUIs: 2 in 2012 ... Both BFN
IVF #1: 10/16/13 ... BFP, however it was not viable and ended in an early loss at 7weeks.
IVF #2: Feb '14 ... Cancelled. Positive beta at baseline appt, became very early loss.
IVF #2: Apr '14 ... Retrieval Only. 2 embryos made it to day 3 freeze & will be batched with IVF #3 for PGD testing.
IVF #3: June '14 ... Retrieval Only. 4 embryos growing, all arrested before day 5. Two from April thawed, but also arrested.
Currently benched while determining how to proceed.
"Keep going until you can't fail"