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My best friend is having an affair.

June24BrideJune24Bride member
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I called crying to her tonight over something, and she ended up coming clean to me. A very good mutual friend and her are having an affair, after both their marriages have been suffering. I'm in complete shock right now .She's already been through a divorce 10 yrs ago because of another affair.

Her current husband has been a jerk and she's finally done.

There are 7 kids between them, it's going to be a long road and i'm terrified for them. I dont know what else to say.

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  • KRoseToesKRoseToes member

    It's so tough to deal with friends who sometimes make the wrong decisions. It's hard to be supportive, especially when you're already upset about other things. I'm sorry you have to deal with that tonight!

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  • JRS72206JRS72206

    Oh no! I'm sorry you are alone tonight AND had to deal with this news! ((hugs))

    We had a very close friend of ours get caught having an affair a fews years back. He was supposed to be in our wedding but then things got so bad that the friendship actually ended. There was a lot of drama and lying going on. They have two small children that have suffered a lot. I hope things go a lot better for your friend. 

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  • IrishsapphireIrishsapphire member

    Sometimes the truth is that you really do not need to say anything else. ?You can be a friend and be there if your friend needs to talk. ?But your friend was an adult and made her own decisions. ?She and her husband are responsible for their own children. ?When your friend and her husband are finally honest with each other, even though it may hurt, it may lead to the best thing for both of them. ?

    ?But as a friend, I can only say that I would never assume that the grass is greener on the other side. ?Yes, ?her husband may be a jerk. ?But an affair is an affair --and it is more of an indication that that person cannot be honest with their partner--and maybe there are some issues that your friend needs to work out herself before she is in a relationship with another person. ?

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  • June24BrideJune24Bride member
    imageIrishSapphire:

    Sometimes the truth is that you really do not need to say anything else.  You can be a friend and be there if your friend needs to talk.  But your friend was an adult and made her own decisions.  She and her husband are responsible for their own children.  When your friend and her husband are finally honest with each other, even though it may hurt, it may lead to the best thing for both of them.  

     But as a friend, I can only say that I would never assume that the grass is greener on the other side.  Yes,  her husband may be a jerk.  But an affair is an affair --and it is more of an indication that that person cannot be honest with their partner--and maybe there are some issues that your friend needs to work out herself before she is in a relationship with another person.  

    You hit the nail on the head.

    I ended up talking to "the other man" last night ( who's a friend )and told him her history he didnt know about, and it changed his outlook. I hated being in this position but I love my friend so much. With 7 kids involved, you'd better be dang sure that this is what you want.

    Also, I totally agree about the grass not being greener. It's an addiction to her, this affair thing, and I'm scared for her.

     

    thanks for your thoughts

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