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bender29
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Intro
bender29
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Hi everyone! I'm new here, but have been lurking. I've read all the sections of the newbie blog, but still think it's going to take awhile to remember all the abbreviations!
I'm 26 and DH is 28. We've been married for what will be 3 years in October, but have been together for almost 11.
We started what my DH likes to call "pulling the goalie" about a year ago, I was never on BC we just used condoms.
My DH was really nervous about the idea of kids, and not really sure he was ready for them when we started "pulling the goalie" and he never wanted to talk about what "pulling the goalie" could lead to, but would occasionally say "if it happens it happens" but in the past three months he's been very excited and has talked almost constantly about having kids, excited about the possibility, and just overall happy we are really trying.
He likes to say that we are not "trying" because that's too much pressure and it takes the fun out of it. What he doesn't know is I'm charting, and paying close attention to it, but I think as long as he doesn't know that, the pressure stays off.
My biggest struggle so far is our friends and family. Children have been a huge part of my entire life. I babysat every weekend of my middle and highschool life, nannied for the last 8 years, and am going to school to be a preschool teacher and one day hope to open my own. So it's no secret that I want kids and a big family. We haven't told anyone that we are TTC, but people ask us daily when we are going to start "popping out babies" it's an extremely uncomfortable question to which I have no idea how to respond without saying "none of your fucking business" so I always just answer with a sarcastic "never"
Hope this wasn't too much for my intro, I look forward to getting to know everyone and receiving and giving support!
I'm 26 and DH is 28. We've been married for what will be 3 years in October, but have been together for almost 11.
We started what my DH likes to call "pulling the goalie" about a year ago, I was never on BC we just used condoms.
My DH was really nervous about the idea of kids, and not really sure he was ready for them when we started "pulling the goalie" and he never wanted to talk about what "pulling the goalie" could lead to, but would occasionally say "if it happens it happens" but in the past three months he's been very excited and has talked almost constantly about having kids, excited about the possibility, and just overall happy we are really trying.
He likes to say that we are not "trying" because that's too much pressure and it takes the fun out of it. What he doesn't know is I'm charting, and paying close attention to it, but I think as long as he doesn't know that, the pressure stays off.
My biggest struggle so far is our friends and family. Children have been a huge part of my entire life. I babysat every weekend of my middle and highschool life, nannied for the last 8 years, and am going to school to be a preschool teacher and one day hope to open my own. So it's no secret that I want kids and a big family. We haven't told anyone that we are TTC, but people ask us daily when we are going to start "popping out babies" it's an extremely uncomfortable question to which I have no idea how to respond without saying "none of your fucking business" so I always just answer with a sarcastic "never"
Hope this wasn't too much for my intro, I look forward to getting to know everyone and receiving and giving support!
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Re: Intro
Welcome and good luck!
Proudly on the dark side
I've never understood why people think it's ok to ask anyone when they are planning on having kids or if they are having kids. It's rude, awkward, and could be devastating to hear all the time when trying.
TTC Since 6/2013 Early Loss: 9/2013 MFI Diagnosis: 12/2014
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome