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All the f-ing swear words - ** updated at bottom **

momofcatanmomofcatan member
edited July 2014 in June 2013 Moms
I just had some of the worst conversations of my life. Back story: we are using an in-home DC for DD. I did not ask to many "interview" questions when we picked it out because I know the DCP personally (sister of a good friend of mine) and my BFF sends her kid there, so we got a lot of details from her. I did go check it out in person and got a good feeling, so signed us up. I knew the DC was not licensed but I assumed that legally she did not need to be because she only has 10 kids (5:1 ratio) and I thought that you only need to be licensed if you have more than 10 kids. I heard so many great things from people in the neighbourhood and from another close friend who sends their kid there, I was so excited for DD to start and was very confident in our decision.

Yesterday I'm texting back and forth with BFF and she says she just found out that the DC is supposed to be licensed, you can only be unlicensed if you have 5 kids or less. Not ideal, but not a huge deal to me. She also says she thinks DC has more than 10 kids and is not happy about it. Definitely more of a concern. I saw her today and she says she is for sure pulling her son out. She thinks the DC has 13 kids and she is very unhappy about it. She is going to call the DCP tomorrow and clarify with her, see if she has an explanation, but is most likely pulling her kid out. She says she can not longer trust the DCP if she was willing to take on so many kids.

I am heartbroken and don't know what we will do. DD loves it there and the DCP seems to really love DD. It was working out so great for us, especially since it seemed to be the only place I found that would take DD at 12 months. I don't even know if we have other options in our area to go to that wouldn't have a waiting list. DH and I talked about it a lot tonight and agree that a lot of conversations need to happen before we decide anything. I'm going to see what DCP says to my friend when she confronts her, and also talk with the other friend that uses her and see what she thinks about this whole thing. I am devastated thinking about sending her to a new DC. Thanks for letting me vent, I feel so lucky to have you ladies.

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Re: All the f-ing swear words - ** updated at bottom **

  • momofcatanmomofcatan member
    Thank @sympkin I'll reply I a sec. Her own kid is on top of the 12 or 13 I think she has now.... Ugh.

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    Update: I just got off the phone with my BFF after she spoke with DCP. DC only has 11 kids, and in order to make up for the extra kid the DCP hired a young girl "helper" to help her out (as well as having her regular assistant) for the 2 "camp" months. She also said that when she started up 7 years ago and did her research she did not think she needed to be licensed. There seem to be a number of in home DCs with 10 kids:2 caregivers in our area, so she planned on doing the same, did not realize when she did her research that she is supposed to be licensed. She told my friend that she would look into the whole licensing thing and see what the story is.

    DH and I still need to think about this, probably have a conversation with the DCP. It really comes down to do we still trust her with our kid, a hard question any day. 

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