NBR: Did your DH ask your father for your hand in marriage?

musicalsilver · July 2014

I was listening to the radio this morning, and actually listened to the lyrics of the song Rude ... and it got me wondering.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIh2xe4jnpk 

So ... did your DH ask your father for your hand in marriage? Feel free to elaborate in the comments as to how it went.

And sorry, I forgot a SS option for those that didn't have fathers to ask ... feel free to vote in the last option.

WasNotWas · July 2014

I voted that he did but it really didn't matter to me either way. I hate that song by the way

ColieAnn31 · July 2014

We aren't married yet but my mom has told me that she would like him to ask them for my hand in marriage. I told Alex how my mom felt so he plans on asking my parents when the time comes.

numbersgirl08 · July 2014

He didn't ask for "permission" but asked for my parents' blessing.

itsStackie · July 2014

He talked to both my parents. It was right before a cruise we took together. One day my dad wasn't happy with me going, then the next he was cool with it. So that must have been when my H asked.

LaBellaVida · July 2014

Nope. They only met once before we got married.
He's not rude at all, it was actually a last min. Decision to get married. We had only known each other for 3 months before we got married.

Had we been dating for a long time I'm sure he would have asked.

Ryanswifey619 · July 2014

DH was going to, but he couldn't meet with my dad. He talked to his grandpa who told him if my dad said no, he was still planning on asking me, so he just went without asking him

whitney2302 · July 2014

He asked my dad for his blessing. DH did it out of respect. My dad would have been upset had he not.

TheTamedShrew · July 2014

He did, but my dad was totally not expecting it. His response was "Sure, why not? What'd SHE say?"

JessicaKS · July 2014

DH asked my dad. My parents are not traditional like that so I knew my dad would not need to be asked. Actually DH knew that too, but he asked anyway.

singahappysong · July 2014

Yes, but out of respect for me, not my dad.

My dad said no. So a week later my husband basically said he didn't care and we got married anyways. (He said no because apparently no one should get married unless the man has a career and is finished with school and his life is "set", it wasn't because he didn't like my husband or anything.)

BunnyLove416 · July 2014

He asked for my parents blessing rather than permission since he was going to propose either way but I know they appreciated it. He called my sisters for their blessing too, pretty sure that one was harder to get

Cricket81 · July 2014

Yes, but he would have married me anyways. My dad was thrilled.

lioness13 · July 2014

Yes. He asked my father and my mother separately since they aren't together.

nikel13 · July 2014

He asked my dad and my brother. H started out the conversation with, "Do you like me?"

Lizzybizzy80 · July 2014

No. I wouldn't have minded if he had but it wasn't a biggie to me or my dad. I told my parents we looked at rings, that would've been the time to voice any concerns. I'm lucky they really love DH.

BC&LM · July 2014

Nope! But I don't really agree with the tag sentences. I don't think it's rude not to ask because woman can speak for themselves nowadays, but I also wouldn't say, "Who does that anymore?" because I know several people personally who asked for parents' permission. While I feel it's personally unnecessary, it can be a sweet thing to do if the girl's parents and fiancé-to-be are into that kind of thing.

MorganWP · July 2014

I voted the last option because we arent married and I dont have a father for him to ask. However! We've talked about getting married and SO mentioned asking my uncle who has been like a father to me. My gramma (who raised me) and my mom have both said that they want to be asked too.

peachnectarine · July 2014

No, we were both living in different states at the time. I wouldn't have wanted him to anyway. I'm not very traditional when it comes to anything wedding related.

GalLaura · July 2014

I got married at 38 years old. It would be weird to me if he did!

HelgaFunk · July 2014

My husband was 41, I was 39, and my family lives 2500 miles away and my husband hasn't met my father even now. Plus my dad hates people and I talk to him on the phone maybe once a year so he would've just been annoyed if a grown man called him and interrupted his day to ask that. I think it's a nice sentiment when people follow tradition, especially when people are younger because I think the dynamics are different, but it just wasn't something we considered.

PinkPuffyHeart2 · July 2014

My husband asked my dad permission to date me, and asked my dad's blessing to propose. He is my father's favorite son in law.

Lizzybizzy80 · July 2014

So I looked up the lyrics to this song and they are kinda dumb IMO.

I seriously misheard the lyrics on the radio, like always, and thought the girlfriend/fiancé was rude but he was going to marry her anyways.

Lizzybizzy80 · July 2014

I wouldn't have given that dude my blessing either.

megaroo64 · July 2014

DH was off the hook- I have virtually no relationship with my father.

kimx86 · July 2014

Kinda. We'd been in a car crash and I was freaking out but he handled everything for me and my dad took him out for a drink to say thank you to him for looking after me. Then they got drunk and he started telling my dad he wanted to marry me and my dad said he was welcome to take me. Not really a great story but keepin it real haha x

GraceInCA · July 2014

Noooope. We together told both sets of parents that we were getting married, all parties were thrilled. As a feminist, I don't approve of that tradition. I feel like it commodifies women.

needanustart · July 2014

Yes because DH just thinks it's a respect thing. My two older sisters both got married and their husbands didn't ask. My younger sister and I both have husbands who asked. My dad loves all four of the son in laws but I know he was really excited and touched when DH asked him. How do I know he was excited and touched you ask? Because he was so flustered he walked up to my mom and I (we weren't there for the ask) and said, "today is a great day because Mike just asked for my daughter's hand in marriage!" And there went Mike's idea of a surprise proposal! Doh! My my mom cried and then they went and got champagne and mike was like, "so wanna get married I guess?"

Mufflerlove · July 2014

Yes. Apparently he couldn't get ahold of my dad all day so finally my Dad called me and asked why my DH kept calling haha he almost blew it. But my dad apparently was so dumbfounded that he stood there in shock and said nothing until my DH said it again lol. My parents are divorced so he talked to my mom too.

flerlgirl · July 2014

He talked to both my parents over lunch. They played rock, paper, scissors and whoever won got to decide. My mom won. She said okay.

This is my life, people.

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