before baby 'bucket list'

catwine · July 2014

When my husband and I decided to start TCC we talked about things we might want to do before having a baby. For example, camping (we've never gone together), house projects, road trip, etc. But now that we are actually TTC, we've become a bit more conscious of spending habits and are trying to save as much money as we can. I'd like to still do some of the things on our list, but I'm not sure it's a good idea at this point. I do get a little bummed though seeing pictures of the trips my friends go on, though.

I suppose we could still travel and camp with a baby, right? I know I might not get pregnant any time soon, but it's still always in the back of my mind and sort of influences my decisions.

Did anyone else make a before baby list? What sort of things were on it and how are you doing accomplishing them?

MamaBina · July 2014

We wanted to go to Mexico and we did! It was amazing.

OnceInLoveWithAmy · July 2014

There is no way in hell I would camp with a baby. Get that shit done before the baby comes.

Ideally, we wanted to go on a honeymoon. However, our monster was a complete surprise. Yesterday was our 4 year anniversary and we have yet to do that b

Ladymouse · July 2014

If I'm not pregnant, we're going to his hometown over Christmas/New Year's break - wine country. So if I'm not pregnant by then, Christmas winery tours FTW!

If I am pregnant by then - I went to wineries while pregnant (didn't drink) twice. No biggie. My parents are visiting in October.

We went to Jamaica with a toddler in May. Maybe not optimal, but it was still amazing - and gave me a thick extra layer of appreciation for Jamaican culture (toddler crying = person crying = can we help? vs toddler crying = annoyance.)

Bee1112 · July 2014

Holy shit, my friend has two that are just a year and a few weeks apart. They took them camping when the youngest was about 3 months old. No fucking thank you!

we did not have a list for DS and we don't have one for this baby either. Whatever we want to do we will budget and let the kids have a sleepover with grandparents.

I know its not at all what you are saying but your life isn't over just because you have a child. You are not destined to sit at home and never see the light of day again!

meg_2006 · July 2014

We didn't do anything special before kids and looking back I wish we'd taken one more trip, just us. Sure you can do it after baby, but it's just not the same. Vacationing can be a lot of work now. We even went on a trip for our anniversary and left DS with the in-laws, and it wasn't the same either. We could only go for 2 days, and I was constantly thinking about him. Hey if you want to go camping with a baby, go for it. Some people can (but I probably wouldn't feel up for it). I do have a friend that just took her 6 week old twins. She is an angel of a mother, though. I would have ripped my hair out by now with two to keep after.

Wine&Cupcakes · July 2014

Our are financial only. We did want to take a big Euro trip and we did.

We are huge international travelers and having a kid won't stop it. Traveling is my passion...and willing grandparent traveling partners will help!

dmsmth · July 2014

You can still do things after baby. Get a babysitter or bring them along.

And my "bucketlist" consisted of small projects consisted of small projects like finish wedding scrapbook... But it was all to take my mind off my recent m/c. I never had a pre-baby bucket list prior to my m/c.

Carebear7777 · July 2014

My bucket list is eat lots of soft cheese.

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Jewels2010 · July 2014

We just wanted to be married for a few years and buy a house.We like to travel but will continue to do so with children.

BillyHorrible · July 2014

We wanted to get some big trips down, which we did. Not all the ones we wanted to take pre-kids, but enough where I'm not terribly bummed. Really, I just wanted both of us to be sure we were ready to make some sacrifices - less going out nights, spontaneous weekends away, things like that. It's not so much that you can't do things once you have kids, but your priorities need to change. It's no longer all about you. So my only real concern was making sure we were ready for that.

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Wine&Cupcakes · July 2014

I was a nanny in nursing school for an awesome family. The mom once told me that the kid needs to fit into their life as much as you need to alter your life for them.

If you want to camp with kids, then do it. It's all doable. It's just a matter of how much energy and effort you want to exert in the process.

cakeisgood · July 2014

I would've drank a lot more cocktails.

NSAnderson0313 · July 2014

@wine&cupcakes I totes agree & that is our stance. No need to change your life drastically, just figure out how to incorporate a child into what you do today. We love the thought of a nanny/au pair, so that's what we will do along with keeping up with our love for travel. One set of grands is in Europe, so a trip or two per year is a must. So with that being said, no bucket list for us.

kdE2010 · July 2014

I know everyone is saying you can't camp with a baby, but we did when DD was 9 months. She wasn't very mobile yet, so we brought a PNP for her to play in. We made a bed for her in the tent and put her in a carrier when we went hiking. It was a great trip and inexpensive.

mrs2mommy92 · July 2014

Tomorrow I'm making the journey to NH to climb Mount Washington with my dad and brother. It's the tallest mountain on the east coast. Climbing this mountain was #1 on my before baby bucket list.

PrimRoseMama · July 2014

We had a basic outline: jobs, house, & cars. We wanted to be married & a lot of our college debt settled. We did all that before 2010. So right now we are just coasting & enjoying the kids/life.

Our goals before #3 are to hopefully have DD potty trained, then have DS on the way towards PT. I'm also am trying to decide when to apply for Nursing school.

momtosam · July 2014

Haha. We camp/camped all the time with our son. We took him camping for the first time at 6 months. We do have a camper, our first camping trip was to Yellowstone for over 2 weeks. We have done tent camping with him as well, he more towards a year at that point or just over a year the first time we tent camped with him. It was not bad at all. But then again we have camped a lot during our time together.

We did not have a pre-baby bucket list and do not have one this time either.

rlpointer · July 2014

We didn't have a pre-baby bucket list other than buy a house which we did while I was pregnant. We went coming when my DD was 11months and it wasn't so bad but she was as young as I would want to take a baby camping. We still do a lot of the same things as before but there are some limits of course. I guess that's what grandparents are for. My mom loves to babysit.

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