Name trouble

arynras · July 2014

I just found out that a coworker of mine who is 3 weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy is naming her daughter the same name we had picked out! I am so set on that name, but I don't want it to look like we stole it from her. I know there is always going to be someone with the name we choose, but the fact that we are so close in our pregnancies and everyone at work I'm sure will be asking us about names...I just don't want it to look bad. I probably just shouldn't care what people think, but from an outsiders opinion, what would y'all think? The middle and last names are different at least!

blessdtxas · July 2014

aw that's stinks! I know people probably feel differently, but a few of my friends have picked names that I adored (even before being pregnant) and they were immediately off my potential name list. Personally, I would try to think of something else. But, like you said, there will always be someone with the same name. If you are dead set on it, go for it!

Just curious, what is the name?

Cryssteen · July 2014

Do you see her outside of work? Are you close? You could play the "oh man! I didn't even realize it!" card. Who cares.

efgallarday · July 2014

Don't tell anyone until the baby is born: )

efgallarday · July 2014

And then who cares?

Just tell them you picked it out since a long time ago

Eora3 · July 2014

Unless she is a very close friend, I would not worry about it at all. If you switch names every time you hear of someone else using it, you child will never have a name! Stick with what you like.

arynras · July 2014

blessdtxas said:
aw that's stinks! I know people probably feel differently, but a few of my friends have picked names that I adored (even before being pregnant) and they were immediately off my potential name list. Personally, I would try to think of something else. But, like you said, there will always be someone with the same name. If you are dead set on it, go for it!

Just curious, what is the name?

I would have if she had it before us, but we have had it picked out for a while just haven't shared it. So we honestly probably decided on that name around the same time...just didn't realize it.

The name is Ava.

arynras · July 2014

Cryssteen said:
Do you see her outside of work? Are you close? You could play the "oh man! I didn't even realize it!" card. Who cares.

No not really. As soon as I saw it on Facebook I commented and was like "Shut up! That's what we are naming ours!" And she just kind of laughed it off and said "great minds think alike!" But I just don't want her to be saying that but really thinking we are baby name stealers.

arynras · July 2014

danisgossipgirl said:
I wouldn't base the name my kid had for life on a coworker if it was a name I loved. What if she never comes back from leave or you move on to a new opportunity within the next few years? You might be kicking yourself for not going with the name you wanted.

Love this. Thank you

mlee116 · July 2014

danisgossipgirl said:

I wouldn't base the name my kid had for life on a coworker if it was a name I loved. What if she never comes back from leave or you move on to a new opportunity within the next few years? You might be kicking yourself for not going with the name you wanted.

This. You may not even know her a few months or years from now and I wouldn't want to miss out on naming my child a name I loved just based on the fact you work together now. Also, people change their minds at the last minute all the time (we did!) and she could very well do the same.

blessdtxas · July 2014

arynras said:

Do you see her outside of work? Are you close? You could play the "oh man! I didn't even realize it!" card. Who cares.
No not really. As soon as I saw it on Facebook I commented and was like "Shut up! That's what we are naming ours!" And she just kind of laughed it off and said "great minds think alike!" But I just don't want her to be saying that but really thinking we are baby name stealers.

aww I wouldn't worry about it then!! She's not the first person to name her kid Ava. It is a beautiful name! Go for it!

avonleaC · July 2014

I have a friend who named her daughter Avalon and uses the nn Ava, maybe if it is something you will be bothered by you could go that route? I think you should stick to your guns. Maybe you'll have baby early and she'll be late then she will be stealing it from you!

krystrist2014 · July 2014

arynras said:

Do you see her outside of work? Are you close? You could play the "oh man! I didn't even realize it!" card. Who cares.
No not really. As soon as I saw it on Facebook I commented and was like "Shut up! That's what we are naming ours!" And she just kind of laughed it off and said "great minds think alike!" But I just don't want her to be saying that but really thinking we are baby name stealers.

I was going to suggest saying something along those lines right away to make it clear that you had picked that name without knowing she picked it too... Because honestly, as much as it sucks that you both picked the same name and people might get the wrong idea, I wouldn't be able to pick any other name than the ones I fell in love with regardless of other people, even close friends! haha If I had to pick something other than the names I loved then Id probably cry! So, I say, stick with your choice!

Manateearmz · July 2014

Not an issue. Are you going to be working with her in 5,10 or 15 years? Probably not.

megbmeg · July 2014

BrittP10 said:
Ava is a very popular name. It's actually going to be this babies name if she's a girl. I doubt people will think you stole it ! I would totally still use it

This. It's not an inventive name, or one that needed a lot of research or head-scratching to come up with, so I don't think anyone will think you stole the name. You just both like the name because it is lovely!

I'm sure there will be chuckles about it at the office, and it is a bit of a bummer, but if you love it, go for it.

CandEChicago · July 2014

With the name Ava I am sure you are going to be fine. If there is any family ties to the name you could play that card as well. But like PPs said, you shouldn't base your kids name off of some co-workers.

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