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lexusolsenlexusolsen member
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Are the evenings worse for anyone else? I'm wondering if it's because I'm having a hard time sleeping, so I have less energy then. Or maybe it's because that's when the three of us are together, when it's most obvious there should be four of us in the living room or kitchen.

What's your "rough patch" for the day? How do you deal with it?
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  • hsabyanhsabyan member
    I cry almost every night before I go to sleep.  When I set the alarm on my phone, I always end up going through all of the pictures I have and re-live the 40 days we had with Georgia Jeanne. It's a mixture of happy and sad... I love looking at her, but it just reminds me that I don't have her here with me. 
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  • dadaloudadalou member
    Mornings are the worst for me. It's when I sit down at the computer and write. I let DD watch tv for hours while I'm doing it. I let myself be sad and then I am usually ok for the rest of the day.
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  • stefugestefuge member
    Those first few months, it was definitely the nights. I would put DS to bed, and then just lay in bed and cry. Now, I have a harder time when we are out and see other little boys, or sets of brothers. That is always really hard. I feel so angry lately for DS1 and all that he is missing without his little brother.
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  • kflynn81kflynn81 member
    Nighttime is rough for me as well as I'm 95% of the time home alone as my husband works 2nd and 3rd shifts. However, worse than the night is the car ride home from work. Since I'm usually stuck in traffic all my mind does is race. It usually pops into my head at least I'm not in a hurry to get Jack from day care which then puts me into a downward spiral and ends in sobbing on the expressway...that can't be safe. Then again I've been in two car accidents since we lost Jack, not my fault, but still ironic.
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  • mumel16mumel16 member
    Nights, definitely. When I get tired it's like I run out of energy to hold it together.
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  • msunshine123msunshine123 member
    Mine is split between mornings and nights. Mornings I wake up and realize it wasn't a bad dream - this is my reality. Nights are the time I no longer have all of the business of the day distracting me. I also feel so empty at night because that was when I use to enjoy feeling my son's kicks.
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