CPW: co-ed baby showers?

megbmeg · July 2014

How do you feel about co-ed baby showers?

megbmeg · July 2014

Boo! Somehow I posted this while I was still typing out possible answers! I blame fat thumbs.

I'm curious because my sweet friend just offered to throw me a shower (yay!) and she is leaning toward a co-ed shower. I've never been to one, so I'm trying to picture it. I know DH would like to be there, and it would feel funny for him to miss out, but he feels a little weird inviting his guy friends to a baby shower.

classicstar28 · July 2014

My mom is throwing us a co-ed shower. She asked me what I thought about it and I had originally thought I'd have an all girl shower like I had for my bridal shower. But, the more I thought about it, the more I felt weird about leaving DH out of it. I may be the one who is pregnant and I have to go through labor, but we're both having our first child. I feel like he should be able to be there and invite his friends as well. But, it is happy hour themed so it won't be super girly which I'm ok with.

[Deleted User] · July 2014

If we had done a co-ed shower, I would have gone for a casual BBQ type deal. But my shower was in November and we did a brunch instead so we kept it to just women.

2redtulips · July 2014

My friend offered to host a co-ed shower for us, but my DH said no way. My shower is this weekend, and I am looking forward to the girl time.

ball.and.chain · July 2014

We had a very traditional all-female shower thrown by my ILs and my family threw us a co-ed "baby-q." Both were great but I think lots of people really appreciated the low-key casual atmosphere of the latter.

megbmeg · July 2014

kountingsheep said:
I voted on the fence because I actually originally wanted a co-ed shower. For my bridal shower, I only had 5 people show up, and it was really disappointing so I didn't want to repeat that for my baby shower and thought maybe co-ed would prevent that. My mom is hosting and she convinced me that going co-ed with some of our family and friends would be off-putting to them so we are just doing ladies. And now not many have RSVP'd so now I'm wondering if I should have stuck to my original plan. Oh well, guess I'll find out on the 26th.

I hope it goes better this time @kountingsheep! The 26th is soon...did you pick out something fun to wear?

peggels24 · July 2014

I haven't given it much thought - I assumed that DH would be there because all of the showers that I have been to recently had the husband there. I definitely have too many guests to expect them to make it 100% co-ed though.

asglover514 · July 2014

I was planning a co-ed for my son. Both my Dad and BF wanted to be there and we were gonna do a casual BBQ.

Eliz77 · July 2014

I hate showers, and that seems to be common in my family. We tend to make baby showers more of a family affair and not do diaper towers or play games, etc. I like it that way so much better!

Mom2anAngel2 · July 2014

I had a co-ed baby shower. DH wanted to be included and loved every minute if it. We don't play games at our showers (I'm just not a fan), so the guys didn't feel awkward. My dad also really wanted to be there. I think after we lost our first son, our entire family wanted to celebrate DS. It was pretty casual with a lot if great food and socializing.

stefani103 · July 2014

I was hoping for a non-game co-ed shower that's more like a bbq. But my due date is 2/3, so we'll see. I had a nice bridal shower, so just ladies are okay too. I think it all depends on who is throwing the shower and the guests. The hubs would not enjoy a traditional shower, but if it's a big party, the more the merrier.

KMW08 · July 2014

I'm with @starmile‌ and have never been to a co-ed or heard of anybody locally doing a co-ed shower. I also agree that dh nor his friends would be interested in sitting through a traditional shower.

@Eliz77‌ my shower will mostly be a family affair and I think games are tacky. Games aren't for me. I mean all of my aunts are 55+ and most of my female cousins are 35+. We're all aldults here and can live without the games. LOL I'm no fun ?

MrsTuna08 · July 2014

My sister and I are due within 10 days of each other, so we'll be doing a co-shower, but it will definitely be female only. I asked DH if would want to come, and he asked, "do I have to?" He would be a trooper if I told him he must participate, but he does not want to nor do I think most of the SOs of the ladies who will be there would want to come either.

JessicaG220 · July 2014

I'm super girly, and I love silly shower games and frilly stuff. So I would call myself traditional and say that I like baby showers that are girls only. Plus, my husband and his friends have no interest in attending, so I am doing him a favor by not making him come. LOL But he will show up toward the end for opening gifts and eating the leftover food.

megbmeg · July 2014

It's fun hearing about all your shower plans and getting a sense of people's reactions.

I asked some IRL friends about what their husbands would think if we invited them too and they were up for it, but I think I'm leaning toward just the girls if my friend the hostess is happy with that. I think a party with all our friends would be fun, but I also think it wouldn't end up very baby related. And it's fun to have some girly baby gushing time. Hopefully DH will get to stay for some. My only hesitation is if he feels left out - it's *our* baby after all.

Eliz77 · July 2014

KMW08 said:

@Eliz77‌ my shower will mostly be a family affair and I think games are tacky. Games aren't for me. I mean all of my aunts are 55+ and most of my female cousins are 35+. We're all aldults here and can live without the games. LOL I'm no fun ?

I'd come to your shower then! I remember as a kid going to showers and thinking they were awesome but they were co-ed family events. I remember my 1st ladies only shower when I was like 15, 16 for neighbor I babysat for. All invitees were asked to wear pink and I found the entire thing awful. I made an excuse to take her other two kids outside to play and we only went back in for cake. I've been to a couple bridal showers like that since, but seem to have avoided baby showers that weren't co-ed.

jenkellen · July 2014

I actually hate showers in general. I think it's super weird to register for gifts for people to buy you! I know I should get over it. Anywho...we are going to have a Baby Party (co-ed). My sister is basically going to rent out a portion of a restaurant or something. We'll have food and people can order drinks if they want. No shower games, no gifts necessary. Just sort of an excuse to get together and hang out.

All my closest friends are men, so it doesn't make sense to not have them there. It was an easy decision for me. Also my female friends all hate showers too, they consider them a necessary evil so I want it to just be a fun get together....sort of the last hurrah before we are stuck inside taking care of a crying baby

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