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JellicalParker · July 2014

Do you and YH have sex each month? Do you do anything special for you FW?

JellicalParker · July 2014

I'll go first.
We normally have sex about 2x a week not during the FW. We aim for at least 3x during the fertile week. MH is an old man

and I try to keep it varied during FW, more BJs or hubby lol

JellicalParker · July 2014

@14whitney‌ haha... well, yes, sucking his cock or special positions? Maybe doing it somewhere special, like in the kitchen? Or the backseat of your car?

JellicalParker · July 2014

@bibliothecary‌ Haha gimp mask... You know how to have a good time

JellicalParker · July 2014

@kariann12‌ I don't know... if the front.seats fold down, I bet you could do it! MH has an SUV so on occassion we will drive out into the mountains have a star gazing evening that leads to some pretty fun memory making sex lol.

divinemsbee · July 2014

When we're TTC, around 15ish days a month. EOD from the end of my period, ED for roughly 4 days in my FW, and then EOD-ish after that.

Funnily enough, since we've been TTA my sex drive has taken a total nosedive. It's been roughly 2x a week since we were cleared for sex in March, but not always every week. I basically think about how long it's been and then offer sex if it's been 4 or 5 days. H has always had a high drive, but even his has taken a fall since this whole TTA thing. I'd really like to get back to TTC if only for the sex drive. I feel like sex is something that the more I have it, the more I want it, but right now using condoms sucks.

BillyHorrible · July 2014

kariann12 said:

JellicalParker said:

@14whitney‌ haha... well, yes, sucking his cock or special positions? Maybe doing it somewhere special, like in the kitchen? Or the backseat of your car?

We have a mini-Cooper. We can barely sit in the back of that car, much less anything else

JellicalParker · July 2014

@kariann12‌ I don't know, I'm 6'2" and I've gotten it on in some pretty tight spots, as well as a few illegal ones too lol.
@twinkbrite‌ I like the wig and fishnets idea... MH amd I have a running joke about hookers.
@divinemsbee‌ We had the same problem when we were TTA. Just felt not sexy and having to use condoms made it even worse

myatala · July 2014

Cocksucking is special occasion sex? Fuck, I've been doing it wrong this whole time then. :P

We try to have sex several times a week, FW or not, but Husband doesn't get off every time. If we're lucky we have a successful ejaculation once during FW.

icaughtfire · July 2014

We have sex when we feel like having sex. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes it's 5 days a week. We switch up the places that we do it, use toys, watch dirty movies etc etc.

Granted we're TTA for now but even when we're trying we have sex to have sex..if we make a baby in the process, awesome!

FitMom3510 · July 2014

We are on a EOD schedule until its my fertile week then its ED. We both work from home so if the mood strikes we can do it if we want which is awesome. We change postitions pretty frequently but nothing really else and I try to not give a bj since I heard it can interfere with sperm. On my period week we don't have sex but if we get in the mood we just mess around and use our hands instead.

dazdareis · July 2014

DH has a low libido and so we average 3-4x a month.

During FW we'll share a bottle of wine at night (loosens him up a bit) and then ask him what he's in the mood for.

I'm not big on Blow jobs (and to be fair do not request reciprocation from him). But if AF is around and he's done the dishes ... Eh, I'll do it

LisaG09 · July 2014

We used to average about once a week but since we started trying to conceive, he's been holding off during not fertile times so we don't get burnt out. So now we're getting about once every two weeks and then ED sex, seven times in a row during fertile week. Last month, we missed one day during the FW which happened to be O day. My BF isn't opposed to scheduled sex though and it doesn't feel weird to us so it works for us.

rlpointer · July 2014

When are aren't in my FW then it's whenever we feel like, so it could be ED or it could be a week between depending on how stressed we are and how exhausted I am by spending every waking hour with DD. When its about a week or so before I usually ovulate then it's EOD until I get a positive OPK then it's ED. But we try not to put too much pressure on it because that never goes well when the hubs is thinking too much about how it all depends on him. We are trying to just do what works best for us and get pregnant at the same time.

Catcherryesux · July 2014

Depends on the season. In the winter months he pretty much tries every night. In the summer months he works outdoors in the heat and although he may want it every night, he often falls asleep waiting for me to come to bed (I am the one that puts our toddler to bed every night). I'd rather once a week I think.

PrimRoseMama · July 2014

16 times? Twice a week, usually. We are TTA/NTNP so I don't really note my fertile window or do anything different.

Catcherryesux · July 2014

14whitney said:
My vagina would fall out and run away if DH wanted sex every day.

Yeah I don't always want to, but I'll usually give in because the sex is way quicker than the pouting I get when he's turned away. When not TTC he pulls out and he's a quick finisher so it's not really a big imposition to me. Now that we are ttc it sucks because I have a giant mess to clean up after and into the next morning.

Catcherryesux · July 2014

14whitney said:

Catcherryesux said:

14whitney said:
My vagina would fall out and run away if DH wanted sex every day.

Yeah I don't always want to, but I'll usually give in because the sex is way quicker than the pouting I get when he's turned away. When not TTC he pulls out and he's a quick finisher so it's not really a big imposition to me. Now that we are ttc it sucks because I have a giant mess to clean up after and into the next morning.

Blow jobs for the win. It's messy, but only for DH and I don't have to clean it up.

Eh, BJs take longer. If I just sit on him for a few minutes it will all be over, plus he does most of the work. BJs take a lot of effort on my part and it's going to take at least 5 minutes, maybe closer to 10.

KatzKiss · July 2014

My cooter's not on strike, it's semi- retired. I hate bjs because I don't like to swallow. Gag!

klmcguire · July 2014

We usually always have sex once a day. Every once in a while we go without a day. If it is his off week then maybe twice a day!!

TiffW2012 · July 2014

We usually have sex 3-4 times a week, so 12-16 times/mo. BJs happening often, but not every time, maybe once a week. However, it doesn't usually cause a mess because it is a part of foreplay. I don't give it to him to completion...

larsonbussman · July 2014

myatala said:

Cocksucking is special occasion sex? Fuck, I've been doing it wrong this whole time then. :P

We try to have sex several times a week, FW or not, but Husband doesn't get off every time. If we're lucky we have a successful ejaculation once during FW.

My husband only see each other Friday - Sunday for sure so we average about 2x a week. Some times if I get home early enough either a Wed or Thursday we might squeeze in a quicky but that does not happen often.

My husband and I were the same way about the successful ejaculations. Very rarely would he. Well he had a VR and we spoke with our potential OB and the doc who did the surgery, and they said when trying to conceive a man should ejaculate every 3-4 days to get the best sperm quality and during FW we try for at least EOD.

willowprincess · July 2014

Other than when I'm on my period, we have sex pretty much everyday. We might miss a day here and there if the baby is having a rough night or something, but not often.

Wine&Cupcakes · July 2014

When not TTC, 1-2x/week, usually on the weekend.

When TTC - probably 18-20x/month. We try to hit EOD until my fertile week - then it's ED.

spiltmilkz · July 2014

We go about every other day. Takes a long time for H to get off so every day would make me raw.

myatala · July 2014

KatzKiss said:

My cooter's not on strike, it's semi- retired. I hate bjs because I don't like to swallow. Gag!

I don't swallow, I just get him almost there and finish it like a handjob. I had a mortifying gagging incident once and I just can't deal with splooge in my throat anymore.

myatala · July 2014

Noellle said:

@FitMom3510‌ You heard BJs can mess with sperm??

Unless your partner has a sperm issue a little cocksucking shouldn't be a problem. Just don't use saliva as lube, ugh.

ETA: I feel like I talk a lot about fellatio on TTGP lately. Hmm.

JellicalParker · July 2014

@bibliothecary @14whitney @mayatala You ladies are the bomb! I don't see anything wrong with BJ's, and as much as I love my hubby and especially because we are TTC in our house, I only use it as foreplay. Unless, DH has been especially sweet and good lately. But I like to surprise him with it, I hate when it is expected. Then again, DH teases me all the time that he knew he loved me when he saw my cocksucking lips LMAO! Talk about romance, eh?

raeyn · July 2014

14whitney said:

GOT IT.

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