When it rains, it pours! - VENT (updated)

gsancho · July 2014

I was trying to hold out until TPT to not sound whiney in my own post...but I need a good-ol'-fashioned vent. Plus some of the things I'm too embarrassed to vent about to the average person.

Between a year and a half of treatments, stress, and especially in the last few months of IVF meds, I'm aware I've gained weight. This morning in a meeting, one of the sales reps who I haven't seen in 2 years walks in and her first words are "Oh my God, you've gained weight!". I think my experience holding it in when people annouce pregnancies to me is the only reason I didn't cry right then and there. Then there was other work drama too boring (excel sheets!) to talk about. Then the mini drama from the post I commented on this morning (I know it's not that dramatic, but I'm kinda the sensitive type). THEN one the way home, someone rear-ends me - not that it's that bad, but I don't have time to deal with insurance.

(baby mentioned)

Husband is out for a work dinner, so I'm sitting on the couch, crying with my fur babies...and my friend texts me that she's going into labor. I'm excited for her, but it was just a gut punch after today. Can't the kid wait one more day?

Ok, that's all...thank you!

Chasity08 · July 2014

I would've cried by lunch. You are a warrior. I am so sorry about your day. First off...throat punch that sales rep. And break her heel on her shoe (because don't they just always wear heels? How do they walk around in those anyways?!). But really - even though I hate hearing it (because it's true), just relax, go to bed early and wake up tomorrow like today never happened. A fresh start the next morning helps me every time. Also....ice cream. But I'm an ice cream addict...so there's that...

keep your chin up!

gsancho · July 2014

@murrt The exact dialogue was...

"Wow, you look different...but I'm not sure if I should say what it is..."

"Are you talking about my weight? I have gained..."

"Oh my God, you HAVE gained weight. That's it! You wear it well, though." nervous laugh

"I'm working on losing it"

"Well, I just didn't want to come out and say you looked fat"

"Well, you did. But don't worry, I'm in between fertility treatments and seeing how much I can loose before I start all over again."

Then she tried to make the awkward transition, saying something along the lines of me being pregnant next time...who knows, I was so pissed, I blacked out. My thought was not just who says that...but what moron sales rep says that right as they are trying to ask us for more money??

lebradford · July 2014

Holy. Shit. I cannot believe someone would say that to you. I am so sorry. Please, enjoy some adult beverages.

juneroses · July 2014

Dear lord... 'I'm not sure I should say...?". No, If a woman hasn't made an announcement, you 'shouldn't' say. In fact, when is it ever appropriate to comment on someone's weight? Even the " you look so great" comments after weight loss imply that you were noticabley LESS great before.... I would have let her twist in the wind for awhile after that gem.

ronniesgirl1981 · July 2014

This person must be a terrible sales rep...and an asshole.

aves0708 · July 2014

That sales rep is a moron and clearly an alien. What human being doesn't understand that it is NEVER ok to speak like that. You seriously have my permission to TP her.

I am so sorry for your shitty and stressful day. Huge ((HUGS))

mrskimmell · July 2014

I am so sorry!!!!! Bad days seem to been in the air lately -BIG HUG- I hope it gets better. I hope you wake up brand new tomorrow morning and have an amazing day! You deserve it!

catlover790 · July 2014

I'm sorry you are having such a tough day! I can't believe that woman said that!!! How does anyone ever think that's okay!? Sorry about the accident too; car stuff always rattles me. Hugs!

gsancho · July 2014

Looking back, I think she was expecting me to announce I was pregnant. Then she didn't know what else to grab onto when that wasn't correct. Either way, she didn't handle it well.

emmuffy · July 2014

That sales rep is an idiot and an asshole. Adult beverage time indeed.

cupcake122 · July 2014

Throat punch to her but cheers to you for the comeback! You handled that bitch well. I hope she feels like poo after that one

Tiko99 · July 2014

OMG what a biotch! You handled it much better then I would have! What on earth would make someone feel it is OK to say to someone "looks like you gained weight!" I just don't get it.

(((HUGGS)))) I hope you have a much better day tomorrow.

cautiouslydomestic · July 2014

I would still be crying.... So sorry for your bad day, I hope tomorrow is better!

theholmanherd · July 2014

Wow, that's messed up. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that.

jessimi06 · July 2014

((Hugs)) I'm sorry that you had to deal with that idiotic woman and that she crapped on your day.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

I'm so sorry about your crummy day. Wow, you are a better person that I. That sales rep would have gotten an earful, not the least of which would have included gory details of the treatments that have led to that unintentional weight gain.

Or maybe just, "Thanks, I was hoping to. You're look pretty scrawny yourself, is your health okay?"

And sorry about the post earlier...I know what you mean, I would have been really sensitive to that as well.

Glad you were not hurt in the fender-bender. Love those rear-end laws though...hope insurance moves fast for you.

shirleymaeby · July 2014

OMFG...I would probably have gone blind with rage and then turned into the Hulk and thrown her out a window. And then I'd have sneaked off to the ladies room for a good cry because that is apparently my own personal crying closet this month.

So very many hugs to you on this, the shittiest of all shitty days. I swear there's something in the air/water. Maybe it's the super moon??

gsancho · July 2014

Thank you so much for all your support.

I just got a call from my mom that my grandfather passed. It's just not a good day...no other way to say it, at this point. But we have known for a while that he was in his last days. I was traveling to see him tomorrow and Friday after they told us he may not make it through the weekend. So I'm all out of tears at this point - and probably being jaded from the crappy stuff earlier is making handle this bad news better. Makes all my bitching seem trivial...but your responses really helped.

Ugh! Just ready for tomorrow when I can be with my family and leave this shit behind!

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

What a complete bitch! How do people make it that far in life without learning a little tact??? Rude rude rude. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. HUGS!!!

TTCBabyJ · July 2014

Oh I'm so sorry you are having such a rough day. My condolences to your grandfather.

juneroses · July 2014

So sorry to hear about your grandfather - my sympathies to you and your family.

Chasity08 · July 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Thoughts and prayers for your family during this time.

Mozzarella13 · July 2014

((((((Hugs)))))))) I'm so sorry about your grandfather, and your awful day. Praying for you and your family!

AngM123 · July 2014

So sorry you had such a terrible day. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

AnnaClaire256 · July 2014

Oh no! I'm so sorry about your grandfather. Poor girl....just get some rest now and put this nasty day behind you. More HUGS!!!!

ky29 · July 2014

Oh you poor thing! You're one strong girl. And I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandfather. T&Ps to you and your family.

catlover790 · July 2014

I'm so sorry about your grandfather. I'll be thinking of you. hugs!

Pintobean39 · July 2014

On no! I'm so sorry about your grandfather. You really had one shitty day. (((HUGS)))

emmuffy · July 2014

So sorry about your grandfather. Hugs.

wanderlust508 · July 2014

So sorry! That was really rude, I can't believe some people. :-/ I had an experience at the hospital where I used to work as a pharmacist. The nursing manager there would regularly stop me, put her hand on my belly and say "Are you cooking something in there?" I wanted to TP her! People just suck sometimes and have no tact.

BunnyBerry · July 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace spending time with family.

TiffW2012 · July 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Losing grandparents sucks, whether you know its coming or not. Treat yourself well. {{Hugs}}

theholmanherd · July 2014

I'm so so sorry about your grandfather. My prayers are with you and your family. (((HUGS)))

gsancho · July 2014

Thank you ladies. I appreciate all the kind words! Today was defintely better

And last night I had a dream my grandfather and grandmother (who passed a few yrs ago) bought a new house together last night. Brought me a lot of comfort.

mmhopeful · July 2014

gsancho said:

Thank you so much for all your support.

I just got a call from my mom that my grandfather passed. It's just not a good day...no other way to say it, at this point. But we have known for a while that he was in his last days. I was traveling to see him tomorrow and Friday after they told us he may not make it through the weekend. So I'm all out of tears at this point - and probably being jaded from the crappy stuff earlier is making handle this bad news better. Makes all my bitching seem trivial...but your responses really helped.

Ugh! Just ready for tomorrow when I can be with my family and leave this shit behind!

***SIggy Warning***

I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your grandfather. I know it only made the day all the more awful. I'm hoping time with your family just supporting one another will be a comfort in this sad time.

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
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Re: When it rains, it pours! - VENT (updated)

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

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When it rains, it pours! - VENT (updated)

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Re: When it rains, it pours! - VENT (updated)

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!