Vent, I'm irked by MIL

Re: Vent, I'm irked by MIL

• Jennyinheaven member

  July 2014

  He is cute and slightly asian looking, I had a hard time when everyone said DD looked like my H only, but she is 12 weeks now and looks more like me, they change so much at this time from week to week I seriously wouldn't worry about what your MIL says.

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• Annie0327 member

  July 2014

  Thanks everyone, I do need to let it go. I just love their help but when they say things like that, the little hairs on the back on my neck raise up and I twinge. Ugh,... haha.

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• Annie0327 member

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  Oh and she insists that his eyes are blue in color. They are soo obviously brown, I don't get it.

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• momo214 member

  July 2014

  What a cutie! They mean well I'm sure but how annoying.

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• Lizmullen member

  July 2014

  Be thankful your baby doesn't look exactly like your mil for real though... It's rough. She thankfully is polite about it.
  

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• lilbeautysxt member

  July 2014

  I think we all go through this with our MILs. I want to strangle mine frequently but then she is great with our little girl and is great with baby sitting, etc.

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• britab member

  July 2014

  I think it's a MIL thing. Mine texts and asks how Her grandbaby is doing and calls her grandma's girl. Even when I was pregnant she only asked how her baby was doing. Lol. I ignore it.

  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  

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• usernewname member

  July 2014

  My parents say ds looks like me. In laws say he looks like his grandpa.
  
  I've seen my husband's baby photo. They are twins. He's definitely taken after his father side but mostly after his father.

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• KBowen715 member

  July 2014

  Jennyinheaven said:

  He is cute and slightly asian looking, I had a hard time when everyone said DD looked like my H only, but she is 12 weeks now and looks more like me, they change so much at this time from week to week I seriously wouldn't worry about what your MIL says.

  Cute and slightly Asian looking is my favorite baby description ever.

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• jsaffer01 member

  July 2014

  My MIL is getting on my nerves. She babysits DS while I'm at work and DH is either in class or sleeping. I need to learn to not let things bother me but that's way easier said than done. But she has said that DS looks like my BIL, which I find hard to believe because MH and BIL look nothing alike and they have different biological dads. I just brush those comments off, it's other things she does that pisses me off.

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• cstan663 member

  July 2014

  I feel kinda the opposite but it makes me still feel annoyed. My MIL keeps saying that my son looks a lot like me and nothing like her son. It's like what are you implying....  it still bugs me that they joke about how I found out I was pregnant while I was visiting family in another state. I'm like "Um, hello, it takes time to make a baby before it will show up on a pregnancy test" It doesn't just happen then you find out the next day that you're pregnant. Also I hate when my dad calls and asks how his baby boy is doing.

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• jenb_99 member

  July 2014

  This is pretty typical of most families. It's rarely meant to be malicious. I even find myself doing it, comparing my second baby, who looks like me, with my first, who looks like DH.
  
  Let it go and brush it off as a normal casual conversation topic. Save yourself a lot of irritation and resentment.

  
   
  

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• winter0022 member

  July 2014

  I'm glad I'm not the only one going through the "MY BABY" phase when anyone else talks about her. I do have to remind myself that she is my MIL's grandchild and my MIL is allowed, and supposed to, have a relationship with her (although she makes it hard when I hate being around her cause all she does is compare me and my child to my SIL and her kids)

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• thefussybunch member

  July 2014

  I am with you @winter0022. I know my DD is going to have a relationship with my MIL, but my ILs have notoriously dysfunctional relationships with their own children, so I am very weary.

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• bumpuser260585 member

  July 2014

  Ds2 looks exactly like me as a baby. Mil said he looks like dh and fil and dh told her he doesn't. She said, well he looks like BIL. Again, they said he doesn't. To which she replied "well I don't know who he looks like then." Umm he looks like me. I just let it go t though

  

  
  
  

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• Junebug060609 member

  July 2014

  Grandparents like to see themselves and their child in their grandbabies. It isn't anything personal.
  
  Plus, according to my SIL, babies are biologically programmed to resemble their dad at first to encourage him to stick around. Not sure how much I believe that one, but I do think that kids go thru stages of looking like each parent.

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• momthatlifts member

  July 2014

  My mil is the exact same way. Except she seems like she is trying to convince herself that dd is a cute kid. Like she is so scared of having an "ugly" baby. Well first of all, dd could have two heads and she would just be twice as cute. And she is not your child so what are you so worried about? Always comparing her looks. Mil is Korean so dd is part Korean. She even went as far as saying "I hope your family loves her even though she has Jasons eyes" as if my family are prejudice or some thing. (Dhs dad's parents were worried he would have "slanted eyes") .yeah he comes from a real nice family *insert sarcasm*

  
  

  

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