Where is your S12 Baby sleeping?

Lady_1981 · July 2014

DS has been waking at 2:30/3 am, and will only sleep if I hold him (this has started in the past two weeks). I have let him cry it out (as he was sleep trained previously), but he stands there looking at the door crying for mommy - this could go on for 3 hours. I'm at my wits end, and he's a cranky pants because of it. No fun for anyone involved.

Could it be time to make the switch to a big boy bed? Just curious what other S12 babes are doing.

tinyhumantoe · July 2014

I'm no help, mine is in the crib down the hall. She has had teeth issues and cries around midnight. I go in and don't talk or really look at her a lot, change her diaper (or act like I'm changing it if it's dry), then lay her back in bed. She's awake but not completely. It sounds like your little guy is full out waking up.

Lady_1981 · July 2014

He will sleep in my arms, but as soon as I lay him back down - he's up. Not teething, not sick.

AKB090609 · July 2014

DD is in a twin with a bed rail. Last night was the first time she's woken up in months (and it was only around 10:30) I'm guessing she just had a bad dream because she is not a bedtime crier.

I would not switch the sleeping arrangements if he is having night time wake ups. Perhaps you could put some soft books in the crib so he can entertain himself until he's ready to go back to sleep.

misspunky · July 2014

DD has been doing this new thing at bedtime where she freaks out when I lay her down, but then she eventually calms herself and goes to sleep. She demands that she sleep with no less than 5 stuffed animals/dolls and she talks to them when she wakes up. Maybe like AKB said, put some soft books for him to entertain himself?

kdsmith43 · July 2014

misspunky said:

DD has been doing this new thing at bedtime where she freaks out when I lay her down, but then she eventually calms herself and goes to sleep. She demands that she sleep with no less than 5 stuffed animals/dolls and she talks to them when she wakes up. Maybe like AKB said, put some soft books for him to entertain himself?

Same here. We have also been turning on the ceiling projector to get him to go to bed. He likes going in there when he can see the fish on the ceiling.

BeebopandBuddy · July 2014

Mine is in the crib and I would go through trying a lot of things to keep him there. Can you try to comfort without picking up? Rub his back and head, things like that maybe.

Cheenomae · July 2014

I agree with what BeeBopandBuddy said. If he isn't teething and he's not sick I'd stop picking him up and letting him sleep on you. Even if cry it out takes 3+ hours, he's definitely old enough and it will be worth it to get through this phase. Also, I'd absolutely stay away from a big boy bed at this point because chances are when he gets up to cry he'll just get out of bed and come find you. It doesn't sound like he's ready. My vote is to nurture him for a few moments and then get out and let him cry...IMHO.

Lady_1981 · July 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

Mine is in the crib and I would go through trying a lot of things to keep him there. Can you try to comfort without picking up? Rub his back and head, things like that maybe.

I have tried this as well, encouraging him to be a big boy, and telling him that it's night time, and mommy is right down the hall. He tells me to sit (points to chair), as he wants to be rocked.

I agree, I would prefer that he slept soundly/through the night before putting him in a big boy bed. Just what some friends have recommended.

Thanks for the suggestions of books and such. I will give it another go round, but normally he will just throw everything out of his bed.

hmp1 · July 2014

Leo started randomly waking around 11pm last week. 2 nights in a row, one of us went and slept with him (he is in a crib but has a queen bed in his room). I thought maybe he was getting sick, but no sickness or teething that I can tell. So on the third night, we did CIO. He woke the next night and the next and has been back to being a great sleeper since. We moved James out of his crib because he was having sleeping problems and it just made the transition that much worse. I would like to avoid that with Leo but I will be keeping him in a crib for hopefully another 6-12 months.

bosha711 · July 2014

DD is in her crib. No real advice for your situation, but it doesn't sound like it'd be resolved by moving to a big bed.

Eastie156 · July 2014

bosha711 said:

DD is in her crib. No real advice for your situation, but it doesn't sound like it'd be resolved by moving to a big bed.

I agree with this. I think you may have bigger problems trying to keep LO in their bed, IMHO. I'd try CIO and see if that works.

Lady_1981 · July 2014

Cheenomae said:

I agree with what BeeBopandBuddy said. If he isn't teething and he's not sick I'd stop picking him up and letting him sleep on you. Even if cry it out takes 3+ hours, he's definitely old enough and it will be worth it to get through this phase. Also, I'd absolutely stay away from a big boy bed at this point because chances are when he gets up to cry he'll just get out of bed and come find you. It doesn't sound like he's ready. My vote is to nurture him for a few moments and then get out and let him cry...IMHO.

Thank you for this. I think I knew that I needed to let him CIO, but I just hate it...ugh.

27boo · July 2014

Aria is still in her crib. We went through this whole waking up when I'd lay her down thing a few weeks ago with naps. Soon I was letting her nap on the couch. To get away from that, I had to let her cry it out. I left the room and gave her 5 minutes. I went back in and gave her her lovies (she throws them on the floor and flips out), told her I loved her and not to throw her bunny again, and left. She put herself to sleep shortly after. I've been doing this consistently for about a week now, and it's helping. She had a few rough nights this past week. I do the same thing. Give her a few minutes to sort it out, go in for a quick snuggle and to give her her lovies, set her down, say I love you, remind her not to throw her bunny, and leave. It's working for us as she's understanding so much more than even a few months ago.

Holly_1007 · July 2014

Personally, I will do anything to keep my kid contained, so he will be in the crib for a while. From what you are describing, a bed transition will most likely not help the situation unless he is trying to climb out, at which point it isn't safe for him to be in anymore. I would revert back to whichever method you used to sleep train previously. Or maybe look into something new if you don't think CIO is for you. I know for me personally I couldn't have my s12 baby screaming for hours at 3 am because it would disrupt my entire household. I still keep some ideas on the back burner in case I run into an issue. Have you looked into the sleep lady shuffle? I might start there, since he is comforted by your presence. Good luck!

cmarie520 · July 2014

DS is the same way if I interact with him. As soon as I lay him back down he's up and screaming again. For that reason, I almost never go to him when he cries in the night. Nearly every time he falls back asleep on his own. There have been a few times he's needed Tylenol, or another blanket, etc, but I figure if I finally get him calmed down just to have him start again when I lay him back down, then it's not worth intervening in the first place.

MomtobeNJ · July 2014

Lady_1981 said:

Cheenomae said:

I agree with what BeeBopandBuddy said. If he isn't teething and he's not sick I'd stop picking him up and letting him sleep on you. Even if cry it out takes 3+ hours, he's definitely old enough and it will be worth it to get through this phase. Also, I'd absolutely stay away from a big boy bed at this point because chances are when he gets up to cry he'll just get out of bed and come find you. It doesn't sound like he's ready. My vote is to nurture him for a few moments and then get out and let him cry...IMHO.

Thank you for this. I think I knew that I needed to let him CIO, but I just hate it...ugh.

I agree with all of this. I know it's no fun - I feel like I want to crawl out of my skin when we do CIO with DD! But my pedi told me that if they immediately settle down and get sleepy when you pick them up, there is nothing "wrong." They're just looking for comfort. She still wakes up randomly in the middle of the night, and I will go in to shush her and rub her back for a minute or 2 but I never pick her up unless I have to. Hang in there!

watercolor5 · July 2014

DD is in a twin bed, but it's because her sister needed the crib. Unless her cry is different or she's sick or something is going on, I don't respond to middle of the night cries. I think she'd probably have to cry a bit for me to hear it, since the monitor is tuned into her sister's room so I can BF. It doesn't sound to me like the kind of thing a bed vs a crib would make a difference on.

Kissty · July 2014

My little man didn't sttn consistently until 18 mos. so I may not be the one to get advice from but...DH has always argued about how firm DS mattress is. We got a mattress topper (basically an egg crate) cut it to size and put it under the sheet. Low and behold it worked. I was at my wits end always ending up with DS in bed with me or DH just so we could all sleep. He will occasionly wake if he has a bad dream or is over tired but will go back down fairly easily. Maybe it was just luck that it worked the way it did.

Cheenomae · July 2014

Lady_1981 said:

Cheenomae said:

I agree with what BeeBopandBuddy said. If he isn't teething and he's not sick I'd stop picking him up and letting him sleep on you. Even if cry it out takes 3+ hours, he's definitely old enough and it will be worth it to get through this phase. Also, I'd absolutely stay away from a big boy bed at this point because chances are when he gets up to cry he'll just get out of bed and come find you. It doesn't sound like he's ready. My vote is to nurture him for a few moments and then get out and let him cry...IMHO.

Thank you for this. I think I knew that I needed to let him CIO, but I just hate it...ugh.

It's so hard and stressful, but think about it this way.... "What's three days of my life, ultimately?" It's ALWAYS worth it. You've got this mama!

ShadowsRainFalls · July 2014

DS is in a twin with a bed rail. He takes an hour to fall asleep at night..and SOMETIMES wakes in the middle of the night.

We let him choose a few animals that he wants to take to bed, and give him the seahorse and some books that he is super into at the moment.

When he works on falling asleep, he presses his seahorse, reads the books, and flops around and cuddles his animals.

If he wakes at night, he very often presses his seahorse to calm himself back to sleep.

In the AM, he plays with his animal friends, and reads his books until I am awake enough to get in there and get him.

I agree with trying some books/cuddle toys/seahorse/sound machine in there with him.

MommaP12 · July 2014

In a mini crib sharing a room with DS. Even though we moved. Yeah. She is such a peanut, she fits fine in the mini crib though we should have set up the regular crib when we moved. Now, I'm thinking we just keep her in the mini crib until second birthday/fall and go right to the toddler bed so we'll probably do that.

I agree with the CIO, it totally sucks, but it's a phase and you just gotta get through it. If it's not night terrors, teething or anything else then I don't think there's any other option if you want to stop the co sleeping. Good luck!

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