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New to the Boards, TTC, TWW Angst

TriciaLH58TriciaLH58 member
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Hi Everyone! My name is Tricia and I've been TTC for 2 months. I've been reading everyone's blogs for a while now, but finally got up the courage to join in the discussions.

I have been using the app called MyDays since May to track my periods and look for fertility/ovulation days. This month I put a little bit more effort into the process and read about only having sex every other day. Now I am in the TWW torture time! Does anyone else experience extreme anxiousness during this time? I find that sometimes it is all I can think about! I am trying to resist the urge to take a HPT and wait to see if I am late. T-Minus 7 days until my expected period.

So last night in my TWW hysteria I was reading through the blogs and saw that everyone else seems to be using Fertility Friend to track period, ovulation, temperature (not doing this yet as I am trying not to "stress" about getting pregnant...haha...is there a way NOT to stress??). So I downloaded the app and uploaded all my information from MyDays. Now I am SUPER frustrated because the Fertitlity Friend said my ovulation days were different than MyDays and if I go by Fertility Friend then I essentially only had sex once during the day before ovulation. I am feeling so disapointed and anxious...HOW DO I OVERCOME THE CRAZY!?

Sorry my first post is so long. Thanks to anyone who read it!
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Re: New to the Boards, TTC, TWW Angst

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  • CytheCythe member
    edited July 2014
    I admit I was in the "temping is stressful" group at first. But then I realized not hitting my FW (and thus not getting pregnant) would be more stressful than temping.

    (Then? Than? Damn you middle school grammar)

    Edited cause I knew you smart ladies would know.
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  • Bee1112Bee1112 member
    Cythe said:

    I admit I was in the "temping is stressful" group at first. But then I realized not hitting my FW (and thus not getting pregnant) would be more stressful then temping.

    (Then? Than? Damn you middle school grammar)

    Than ;)

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  • TriciaLH58TriciaLH58 member
    edited July 2014
    You all make a really good point! I keep seeing temping as me being too controlling and not letting things take their due course, when in reality I really think it would help with my anxiety. I am definitely making the switch to FF from this point forward.

    I am working on the hobby thing...I am a school teacher on summer vacation so my time is a little more open than usual.
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  • TriciaLH58TriciaLH58 member
    EllyD14 said:

    This is not a blog. This is a forum.

    Duly noted, thanks for the correction.
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  • delujm0delujm0 member

    Once I started temping i realized how stupid it was for me to ever consider NOT temping...and that i will basically be doing it until menopause unless i go back on BCP.  You know what is stressful?  Having to be constantly vigilant because you have no effing idea when your period is coming.  What is not stressful is being able to clearly see the day that you O'ed, and therefore knowing to expect your period 12-16 days after that, and that if those 16 days pass you should take a HPT.  So instad of stressing about when to take a HPT, you basically know exactly what day to take it.

     

    You never actually know that you "missed" your period unless you know the day that you O'ed.  End of discussion.  "i'm always regular" is nonsense - as a lot of people say around here, you're regular until you're not.  O day is what determines your cycle length.  If your body went haywire one cycle, and O'ed a week later than normal, and you're not temping, you will likely wind up freaking out for a week because your period is "late" and you keep getting negative HPTs.  But actually your period is not late.  Your O was late.  Big difference.

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  • icaughtfireicaughtfire member
    This is not a blog.

    MyDays is crap, it's just making wild guesses based on cycle length. Your O day can vary each cycle.

    There's a daily Two Week Wait thread you should probably check out.

    You've been trying 2 months, and it could take you up to a year assuming you're both healthy. Don't get yourself so overwhelmed this early in the game.
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  • TriciaLH58TriciaLH58 member
    mackenziesmama said:

    This is not a blog.

    MyDays is crap, it's just making wild guesses based on cycle length. Your O day can vary each cycle.

    There's a daily Two Week Wait thread you should probably check out.

    You've been trying 2 months, and it could take you up to a year assuming you're both healthy. Don't get yourself so overwhelmed this early in the game.

    Thanks again for the forum vs. blog clarification. I am already getting a better handle on O day and its importance thanks to the forums I've been reading at length today.

    You're right, the TWW thread was very helpful and will certainly be a place to check during the next week.

    Glad to be a part of the forum, I already feel like it is putting things in perspective. I am def a newbie, but trying to catch on before I get cussed out...you all seem like a tough but supportive group of ladies!
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